Have you ever considered consulting a doctor for this? I don't like to be around a lot of people because I get anxious but when I'm alone I get lonely and sometimes depressed too. I have to keep myself busy when I'm alone as to avoid feeling depressed. I think too much when I'm alone which, for me, is not a good thing.

i can so relate. but not all the time. but a lot of the time and I'm working on it. So lately I've been weeding out those who do not "promote my growth" as I call it... and was recently advised... "if you cant change the people around you...change the people around you" Far as being lonely. i guess you have to find things to occupy your time or keep you interested and busy. I'd rather be alone than unhappy... but loneliness does suck.

Honestly? I think a pet would help. My pug truly helped me with my feelings of depression and loneliness. Receiving unconditional love is sooooo therapeutic, in my opinion. In addition, though, it would also be a good idea to talk to your doctor about the depression. He/she can help, too!

Just be with some one who would understand you.

i feel exaclty the same, when im alone i think i need to be around people sometimes because they will help me not be depressed. then when im with people i think i wish i was alone again and just want them to go away. i dont know how to stop this, im only 18 and am not going to get anywhere in life if i never want to be around people. Feel like i want to have indepence but deep down i cant be bothered to want it, dont know how people gain a sense of self throughout their whole lives and how to people who are stressed cope with it, why doesnt everyone go as deep as me and get depression. grades mean nothing of inteligence when i cant cope in everyday life. they should create a subject that helps people cope with life because learning lots of information from a book certainlty does now help.

What do you think causes you to feel depressed when you're around people? Is it the people, or is it your self esteem, do you not feel as worthy as the people around you? Well I just thought I'd let you know that you are an amazing individual who doesn't have to feel this way. It's a choice. It's a hard one to make, but you can choose to be positive about things. Hang out with people who make you feel good. But even if they are nice people and you still don't feel depressed around them, that shows that you are insecure about yourself. Try councelling, it really helps, I've found. You can spend time alone and not feel depressed, it just means you're not isolating yourself, you're just having quiet time to think and get to know you better. It'll take time, but you'll get there. Just know that you're powerful beyond measure and you are loved and that you can be the hope for the world. May sound corny, but trust me, it's true.

You know, I spent ALL of my twenties in this state, going out of my mind. I tried everything, including psychotherapy, which actually just made me feel worse. Finally, when I was 29, a psychiatrist diagnosed depression and generalized anxiety disorder and prescribed some pills. I was very skeptical: the idea that something so integral to my personality and my experience of the world could have its origin in my brain chemistry seemed crazy. But it worked - suddenly, dramatically and totally. People knock psychiatric drugs, sometimes for good reason. I think as a society we are over-dependent on them, and we use them to "cure" perfectly normal feelings and behavior. BUT your description of your problem really sounds like a disorder. Do you have family members who are also quite withdrawn, anxious and depressed? That's a good indicator of a genetic predisposition. By all means, get a pet, see a psychologist, join a self-help group, exercise more, etc. etc. These are all good things. But see a psychiatrist too.

stop comparing urself with everyone, you are an individual person, work on your self estime

People with depression are usually very intelligent on both an intellectual and emotional level and for some reason are very sensitive to the world around them and can get hurt because of their extreme sense of honesty and integrity.We want the answers to everyting and our minds can burnout our brains with the racing thoughts.Depression can hit anyone at anytime but some people are predisposed to it genetically.External situations can arise to cause it but the genetic one is the one that needs to be addressed.I myself have suffered with it all my life and self medicated with drugs, alcohol and sex to alleviate the emotional pain and did so to my own detriment.There is help out there but give yourself a chance to like yourself and don't punish yourself for being the way you are.My father is an alcoholic and I suffered emotional turmoil because of him which triggered the genetic disorder my brain unfortunately had the unwanted pleasure of having.Through all my years, and even now as I write this I am very down, but there is hope just beleive in yourself.I got myself away from self destruction and got myself two degrees with the objective of accepting I have a disability and saying Im going to beat this.You can too just find a hobby you enjoy it doesnt have to be rocket science but as long as your brain enjoys it you will too.Exercise however moderate is a great mood lifter.Its hard to motivate yourself but your body will appreciate it.Small steps to build Rome