You'll be a better man for it and your children will be grateful for you being so controlled and .. and so in love with your current girl that you don't have to look at plastic people to jack off.

Because they feel that it interferes with the relationship, which they value. They are as entitled to their opinion as you are to yours.

I know plenty of women who look at porn as well. Everybody has their reasons, why don't you explain yours to you partner?

I agree..I am a girl..but I think it is fine...I actually think it is normal...it is not cheating as some women say it is.... So what! I think so many people frown at watching porn but most would not close their eyes to it! Porn is not bad....I thought we where coming up to an era where people could be honest about watching porn..instead of lying about the fact they do! Oh and by the way...women for some reason get jealous over a woman that their guy will never be with in real life...I have a crush on George Glooney...Does that mean my boyfriend should get jealous?

Because they don't want their man coming to them with unrealistic expectations that they can't (or won't) fulfill creating a desire in that man that he will try and satisfy elsewhere. It warps ones perception of what sex is. It drops it to a level of a simple act that quite often is demeaning to a woman. It takes something that is intimate and mutually exclusive and makes it into some dominating act that has no connection to a loved one, just women being used as tools. Maybe some women don't want to be viewed that way by their men. Not every woman can be (or wants to be) the fake breasted tramp that the man fantasises over on a computer screen or in a magazine that will do demeaning acts and pretend to love it because she's getting paid for it. I'm sorry for you... pornography is not among my list of things that qualify one as a man.

My husband does not look at porn..not to my knowledge anyway, which is good enough for me. I have never tried to stop him, he just does not do it out of respect for me and other women. It is not just fat, ugly, and/or "whipped" people who object. Some people need porn so they can fantasize about people who would not give them a second glance and doing things that they themselves do not have the ability, knowledge, or nerve to do.

Firstly, not all men do it. Trust me, I'm in a place where porn is very rare. Secondly, a man who tells you that he is going to look at porn no matter how you feel about it is telling you that what he wants to do is more important to him than how it makes you feel. That is not loving, caring, respectful, or compassionate. Who would want such a man (besides to use for sex)? Personally, I don't feel the need to stop a man from looking at porn. I've learned my lesson. If he looks, he isn't the man for me. The way I see it, those are REAL, LIVE women there. So what if I don't know their name? Why should I be any more ok with it than if he were looking at pictures/movies of the women in my neighborhood? He's sharing his sexuality and sexual energy with the images of these real, live women. (Not to mention treating women's sexuality as a commercially available, consumable, disposable commodity separate from her humanity. It separates sexuality from the emotional needs of humans, and in some very disturbing cases leads to some very disturbing behavior.) Sorry, that's not for me.

i really dont have problem if my man will look at porns, its a natural thing whether or not i can satify him.. its not an issue for me but when he crosses the line (dating porn stars or meet porn cheap girls already) and expect me to do things he saw in a porn.. thats the start the i will bark or worst il bite..

Porn is like crack, like heroin addiction for the brain. It's been proven that the chemical reactions to viewing porn sets about certain processes and euphoria like drugs, mainly crack. One research study said: "It takes 3/10ths of a second for a pornographic picture or symbol to flood the organ known as the brain with sensory experiences. These pornographic stimuli will commonly, if unconsciously, replay prior pornographic and associated sexual or sadosexual experiences." But the bad thing is you can get rid of the drugs in your system but you can't erase the images of porn from your mind. They stay in there. And there is a craving for more. Making excuses like 'all men do it' is just like saying 'oh, I can stop anytime, i just don't want to' but the drug addict. I wouldn't want anything to ber altering or controlly my brain, not drugs or images. I want a clear mind to decide how I feel and when I'm going to feel it. I want genuine feelings and emotions, not pseudo ones created from outside source manipulating me. There is hard scientific evidence that it is addictive and I don't want any part of it, and because I feel it is a 'danger', I don't want it to infect anybody I love, either, just like I wouldn't want a loved one shooting up. I've had an addict in the family. I don't want or need another. http://www.drjudithreisman.com/archives/brain.pdf

It's kinda like cheating in a womens mind, because it feels like he needs to look at some other women just to get excited. I've looked at porn with my husband twice niether of us really cared for it. I don't think i'd like it if he was always looking at it then coming to me afterward. I like getting him excited myself.

LOL. I agree, that is what many of them do. But it's kind of embarrassing no?

I chose a man who does not care for porn. We spend all our time together, so I know he has little interst in it. I have dated a person who chose to look at porn despite how belittled and unattractive I felt. He had no respect for my feelings. Is it any wonder we never married? And I finally saw him in bed, uncovered, making love to somebody else. Needless to say, it was enough to send me packing. ALL men do not view porn. I know this for a fact. YOU get over it.

I bought my husband Playboy for XMAS. The joke is that I read it first, then give it to him. Seriously though, i love the articles!

Not all of them. I would hate my husband to look at porn. Talk about sleazy!! EEEERRRRKK

Well, first of all, I have no problem with my bf looking at porn -- in fact, I've watched some with him -- and women look at porn, too, so it's not something exclusive to one gender, or because of it. From what I understand, the women who feel offended by it are usually a bit insecure about their relationship -- maybe they feel that their man looking at another woman in a sexual way means that he doesn't find them as attractive or doesn't love them. But the way I look at it, porn is made for turning people on and giving them enjoyment -- it's purely a lust-oriented thing. I've found people other than my boyfriend attractive/sexy/hot before, but it doesn't mean that he's less so for me -- obviously, I prefer him, if I'm in a relationship with him; and vice versa for him. Also, from what I read, a lot of people consider porn to be addictive, exploitive of women, and think that it makes a man have unrealistic expectations of women. ANYTHING can be addictive, anything that makes one feel better. Porn can be addictive, the internet can be addictive, eating can be addictive. This isn't necessarily the thing's fault (except with things like crack, coffee, and cigarettes) -- it's just the fact that it makes someone feel better, takes them away from something that they don't want to face. Second, the women and men in porn AGREE to be in it -- and not all of it is full of fake boobs and bad acting, some porn is made by people who genuinely enjoy it and actually have orgasms rather than fake them. And third, the only way a guy's going to have unrealistic expectations of women is if he never actually gets together with any. As soon as he does, as long as the woman doesn't fake pleasure, he'll find out what she likes soon enough.

i don't tell my man not to look at porn, i join him sometimes

I don't really tell him anything either... unless he does that all the time we spend time together. It's ok if he does it when I'm not there or sometimes a little when I'm there cuz I really don't mind. But if it's constantly non-stop then yeah, it would get on my nerves. It's either me or those chicks you can't have! LOL XD

not ALL men are into porn. people who make broad generalizations like that, about anything, are just trying to make themselves feel or look better. personally i think any woman who would settle for being with a man who wants to look at other women naked is being a total doormat.

They are like that for they either hope that they can break them of it, and it is not a power issue either. They want the best for them and for their relationship. DON'T excuse men for being pervs, for though it is natural, we should not be porn addicts. We are at least one step above animals, and we need to widen that gap and not bridge it. Animals hump, and we should strive for love and not lust and smut.

Just because men are men doesn't give them an excuse to make their wife's or girlfriends feel bad about themselves. They need to grow up and appreciate what they have before the lose possibly the love of their life.

I consider porn moraly wrong and as such it is a weakness for me. I've never spent a penny on it but that doesn't justify it. however from here on out I will speak with morality ignored. . unless a woman is a shapeshifter she can not be all the beauty in the world and she needs to get over that fact and stop being a jealous little girl. porn is nothing but meaningless stimulous. do men demand that women stop reading their romance novels? that is the same thing. porn has absolutly NOTHING to do with the woman the person is with. not only this but the insecure little girls who get jealous of porn probably do not have half the sexual appetite he does meaning either he goes hungry or she gives it to him when she doesn't want to. neither of those are good, and porn and a shower can be an alternative to those.

I don't look at porn. All men do NOT do it.

Not all men.. but porn lead to addiction and degrading, teaching you something inappropiate. Having sex with anyone who is willing outside marriage will destroy a relationship with one of the party doesn't agree with it.

It seeks to steal intimacy with your woman, and sets up some unrealisitc expectations within the relationship. It is in fact a legitimate need filled illegitimately. It looks "hot" on the outside if you will, in reality it is rotten.

It's a values clash and a power issue. Women want you to believe that female values are "better" than male values. Ignore them, hopefully they will go away and you will find someone who doesn't believe in sexism anymore. I have found many of these women, they aren't hard to find. I'm not that into porn, but I'm just saying avoid those women at all costs.

Its kinda offensive You should be wanting to look at you partner instead of making her feel although she has to measure up to these perfect, fake airbrushed commercial standards. Its degrading

Though I have never told my husband to stop looking at porn I have to admit that it does bother me. I feel like it's a way of cheating. He looks at porn and then comes to me for satisfaction. It doesn't come from his heart or his love or attraction to me, it's just pure 'getting off'. I know that sex doesn't always have to be romantic but it has become (we've been married 15+ years) that the romance is gone and pure satisfaction is all I'm needed for. If he wasn't looking at porn maybe he'd be more loving to me. I feel it has created unrealistic expections by him on what he expects in our bedroom.

interesting question/statement. My gf and I have a healthy relationship and sex life and we look at porn time to time. I think there's nothing wrong with watching people do what people do, it's nature really. We were designed to do it, why not think of watching other people do it as a form of education or entertainment? I have known women though that get really upset to know their guy was looking at porn. I think this stems from low self esteem and jealousy. Some women can tend to think of this as cheating or a prelude to it, I disagree. There's nothing wrong with watching or looking at something, we are all curious by nature and men are proven visually aroused creatures when women are not so much so. BUT women do look at porn too, maybe just not as much as guys do. I think it can be a healthy entertaining thing, but like all things it can become an obsession or an addiction too if it starts to replace real relationships, and social interaction.

Regularly looking at porn alone says: You are not enough for me. I need variety and don't care if that threatens you. Other women turn me on more than you do. I hanker after sexual acts you are not ready to perform. I hanker after sexual acts that I don't want you to perform (because you are not pretty enough, because then you would be unclean and I'd have to dump you, because you're boring) If you get fat I will leave you. Never ever go without make-up - oh and start saving for a boob job. You've heard that sex is 10% of a good relationship and 90% of a bad one? Well honey sorry to disappoint but I'm sticking to my 90% lifestyle.

Because they think it cause men to think of all women in a degrading and sexist ways and will thereby encourage disrespectful and violent behavior toward women; i.e., sexism, violence, lustfulness, possessiveness; cheating, stalking, substance abuse leading to job loss and social ostracism. And in some cases; this is the result. However, my hub tells me that most porn if not sadistic is harmless because guys use it to masturbate causing less women to be oogled, sexually assaulted or raped. I know that if men realize that it is wrong to think of all women in pornographic terms; and men who have a healthy and accepting attitudes about female sexuality; that is; men who realize that it is all right for a woman to be sexy; and that women who like sex are not necessarily sluts; that sexy women are also nice girls; that no means no; and that a woman who is very attractive and sexy has the right to say no; owns her own body and sexuality; that pornoggraphy will not harm these men. However, pronography will harm men with negative, violent attitudes toward women; that is; men from third world cultures like Latino countries; and Middle Eastern cultures where female sexuality is controlled and suppressed; and where sexy women are disrespted and considered sluts and subject to rape and other violence.

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I'm fine with it so long as my bf watches them with my presence, not alone.Of course, I'd have to remind him, I can't be like those women in the videos. Men are men, it's hard to stop them. They may not watch at home, but they can always watch at workplace. Worse still, if we control them too much, they might go and find those prostitutes!

Some do - some don't, ( I don't - I don't need it ). That aside some woman feel that poronography diverts attention away from themselves and see it as a competior of sorts - while other women enjoy porn as much as some men seem to. Perhaps some men have the wrong woman in their life - perhaps they need a new "soulmate", I don't know - I fail to see what's so special about pornography anyway.

It's offensive and disrespectful. It's so common in society now that people think that it's natural behavior. And honestly, not all men look at and enjoy porn. If you've never had the pleasure of meeting a man who doesn't watch porn, then I'm sorry, you're missing out on some amazing individuals. If you're content with your life though, there's no point in meeting those types of people I suppose.

I do agree with you, however those women are often insecure. Some men may also have an addiction to porn and that could also contribute to the turmoil. It's really not fair to judge unless you know the specific situation at hand.

it is interesting that some faiths(if not all) have verry negative veiws on this subject and yet many of them will allow- child abuse(marring a 9yold),multiply marriges(yes he's think of his yonger wife in bed)and arranged marriges( where they would rather look at porn) Sometimes pornagraphy is the most moral option