According to a documentary that I watched a few years back about the different sexes, the typical mans dream is actually to be on an island with hundreds of different women that all want him, so he can just have sexual relationships with all of them with no real commitment whatsoever. Basically, I'm saying that it's possible that a guy's "dream girl" is either one that lets him be promiscuous or doesn't really exist. Face it, most guys are pigs. :-) (According to most women)

I believe men have an inherhent desire to mate with multiple women as opposed to a female need to nest and raise her young. I think most women would say that they prefer to be with their true love forever, and I think guys heaven would be a different girl every night. Just sort of a fundamental difference between us. Another thing to note is just because a guy wants to mate with other girls doesn't mean he doesn't love the one. There's a difference between loving someone and wanting to mate with them. I'm only talking about natural urges here, our societal and cultural rules tell us that this behaviour is unacceptable, and we are certainly capable of practicing restraint.

The continuing debate over male promiscuity offers two possible causes. Is a man simply 'hardwired' to want as many different partners as possible or is it a result of sexual role playing produced by a male dominated society (come on folks, women finally got the right to vote in 1920, we've come a long way, baby?)? Another issue clouding the debate is concern over the implications of supporting either side. For example, by supporting the idea that men are hardwired to want variety, does that mean it's OK for men to say "I can't help it, I'm a man". What message does that send? And what message is sent by supporting the idea that men are playing the sexual role produced by a male dominated society? If there's one thing almost everyone agrees on, it is that genes do not decide what people ultimately do. There is no skirting responsibility for our behavior. That's what makes us, as a species, so special; our ability to rise above instinct, to reason. Here's a link to a really good article about this very debate. http://www.cartercenter.org/healthprograms/1594_adoc6.htm

It is too easy to accept social cliches, and consequently further possible misunderstandings between men and women, when trying to understand "the differences." There is a plethora of scientific evidence about why men are promiscuous. One of many books written by scientist, Richard Dawkins, addresses this issue. In his 1990 book, "THE SELFISH GENE," Dawkins states that in genetic terms the instinct to procreate is not a singular event, but that procreation is promoted by an individual's whole gene pool to replicate: it is the reason we (ahem) need to get it on. This drive is an unconscious, instinctive primal urge to multiply. Men may not know why they want to bed every woman, but Dawkins explains this instinct clearly. Simply, he states that the time investment a man makes to procreate and further the engenderment of his gene pool -- and his individual replication -- is the time it takes to deposit his seed. His best investment, in genetic terms, is to deposit as many of his seeds in as many places that he can. Therefore, from this point of view, it is not variety that matters but quantity. On the other hand, he demonstrates how women literally have to invest a tremendous amount of time during gestation, birth and nurture of her young so that she may replicate her own genes. Further, that during her occupied time, these nuture activities take her out of reproduction availability: a scientific demonstration of why women are unconsciously "so choosy." There is no morality in this procreative procedure, it is Nature working at it's indifferent best to further its own. This reality does not sit well with many in that it doesn't include conscious decision, even if "desire" is instinctive. While we, ourselves, examine many of Nature's workings with our own indifference, we have a brain which uses logic and reason to determine our individual motives and actions. Another "instinct" is conscious behavior. Consequently, our obligation to our own morality does not reside by copious facts uncovered by our insatiable quest for understanding the experience of being human. Regardless of any fact, conscious decision making resides within. Further, how we create and act upon our developing individual ethics, values, and morality always include personal choice. Personal responsibility starts "at home." Personally, I believe that it is a homage to combine science with morality. Our legacy can include encouraging the coexistence of differences, while seeking to understand and have empathy toward them. Daniel C. Dennett, in his book "Consciousness Explained", insists "... when we finally understand consciousness -- when there is no more mystery -- our view of consciousness will be different, but there will still be more room than ever for awe." NOTE: For those of you who write that, "Yeah (or No) BUT ... it's a CHOICE," reread paragraph six!!!

I believe the answer to this question may irritate a few men out there, but forgive me. Simply put, it's a lack of commitment. Most men would rather fantasize about their dream girl than find out she's actually a nightmare.

Personally, I don't think any guy would rather be promiscuous than be with his dream girl. If he still wants to be promiscuous, he obviously isn't with his dream girl. He's just with someone to keep the bed warm until he finds a better one.

The direct answer to your question would be "It depends on the guy," but that doesn't really help so I'll give you possibilities. I can think of a lot of possible reasons right off the bat, here are just a few: 1. Maybe he said she's his dream girl but he was lying. 2. Maybe she was his dream girl until she became his, then with no challenge he lost interest. In other words, a case of "the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence." 3. Maybe he's afraid he'll lose his masculinity if he remains faithful to one women (some men actually refer to monogamy as being 'whipped', if he is immature enough he might feel this way.) 4. He could be a sex addict. For sex-addicted people, having sexual encounters with many people can be as hard to quit as quitting alcohol is for alcoholics. 5. He could be afraid of getting close to someone, a lot of people who are afraid of intimacy or vulnerability use promiscuity as a substitute for real emotional closeness. 6. Did the guy in question actually state that she's his "dream girl," or did someone else decide this? If it's the latter, then maybe someone has made an error in determining just who is the right girl for this guy. Well, those are the best ones I can come up with without really knowing anything about the guy. Hope you find this response helpful.

Personally, I think it is more an issue of him having low self-esteem. It isn't that he doesn't love his wife or girlfriend, it's just that he needs to know that he is desireable and the more women he can win over, the bigger the stroke to his self esteem. By the way, I don't think it is men only who do this as there are a lot of women who choose to be promiscuous over being with "Mr. Right".

I disagree, a man could find that one fantastic woman, his "dream girl" but still have sexual desires for others.... In spite of all the romantic images we are bombarded with throughout our lives about "True Love" and finding that "One & Only" person to live happily ever after with, sexual passion for others could still exist in spite of love or a happy marriage. While we may be very much be in love with a person do we cease to notice those attractive people we meet? Do we cease to feel a sexual urge? Can any long term relationship maintain that ultra excitement of the first time with a new sexual partner? Of course, what you do or do not do about these feelings is another matter entirely.....

The "urge" is an unconcious and natural feeling. Any actions taken as a result are not.....

Some men feel they rather remain promiscuous than be with his "dream girl," because there afraid that this girl would reject him. The poor guy being rejected would have his heart shattered into little pieces(Its happen to me trust me). Some men are just afraid of feeling this great pain and just stay with a other girl. But every day this guy eventhough he has his girlfriend, but he does'nt feel anything for this girl hes dating. He'll have this girl in his heart deep, deep, in his heart.

Because a man's purpose in life is to mate and sread his "superior" genes to his offspring. Mating with as many females as possible ensures that his DNA will be everywhere, thus insuring future generations.

The age of a person either a man or woman, does not reflect the emotional standing of themself, it might be a nice thought to believe so, as life has present challeges I have found that there in an irrevocable link between matters of wellbeing my confidence and self esteem. To bring this to a point as a man I know that to make love is an "emotional need" and this has been confirmed my many a person that I've had this conversation with who have learnt to create sucess within there life. It comes down to a choice of to learn of what we expect from ourself, a health need or the distraction. Your call, take care.

Let me be very clear: it is a responsibility of each of us to make CONSCIOUS DECISIONS about how we behave! In this very real world , in each and every moment, it is important, and true, that each of our actions consciously come from thinking through our behaviors and DECIDING how to proceed. All behaviors have consequences: good decisions make for and support good behavior and good outcomes; bad decisions create and support bad behavior and bad outcomes. When science researches and sometimes proves something about human behavior, IT DOESN'T MEAN THAT ANYONE IS "OFF THE HOOK" FROM PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY! It doesn't mean that we have to like it or even "approve" of [scientific] findings, just because they may seem "foreign," or "unknown," or "different" from what we may currently believe. BECAUSE we have conscious minds we can investigate the why and how we behavior or misbehave. This can and should lead us to better decisions about our individual responsibilities to ourselves and society. What it does mean is that input and education is resourcefull. These resources add to our potential for being BETTER INDIVIDUALS AND BETTER PEOPLE. Our mutual never-ending growth of understanding ourselves, our relationships and our surroundings can only be a good thing!

From experiences and observations. I think there’s a saying on the lines of 'for every gorgeous woman you want to sleep with, there’s a man bored of sleeping with her' Men seem to get bored quicker. Whether she is the most attractive woman in the world, and the greatest person you've ever met, he will still get bored. 'If you have steak everyday, sometimes you may desire a burger for variation' Variation is the spice of life, so it’s natural. Also, although both sexes desire in the amount of sex they have in a relationship may decline. The mans desire for sex remains high. He just wants it with someone else. Love and sex are very different things for the male of the species. A man would rather be with his perfect woman, but also be allowed to have meaningless sex with others. But as society dictates this behaviour is wrong. Men should have the mental strength to rise above this. Also, relationships are fun and exciting first, but can quickly sink into routine, nagging, controlling, a full diary of visiting her friends and family, endless responsibility, a decline in fun and an increase in feeling trapped.

selfish bastard. temporary things are useless if life is all about fun for you, what are you going to do when you're so old your balls hang to the ground

The reason men remain “promiscuous” is that we do not get the emotional security that we thought we had. For example, I ended up in bed with a wonderful woman. Two days later, we went on a date. Then, she was neutral. I was eager to get into her world, but she was elsewhere. So, I went elsewhere after the date was over. I was looking for security. I thought we had it while we made love when we met, but it dissolved. Therefore, the emotional security died as well. Now, I seek it from another. In short, men want passionate immediates, and women want secure long-terms. Men are not promiscuous; we express ourselves through our bodies. We must figure out ways to bridge the differences so all emotional needs are met.

Because he wants his cake, and to eat it too.