I think you have to treat him like a tennant and give him notice, unless he is a physical threat..

I think you can do it, but the question is why would you do that? if he does not respect you obviously you would like for him to leave the house, but where will he go, will he end up selling drugs making a living and then end up in jail, what did you as parent do to secure him of an good education where he will be able to find a good job and manage on his own? I am not taking sides here, but a story has got two sides. I know teens and 18 years old can be a real pain in the neck, are you a male or female, if you are a female (the mother) what did his dad do to discipline him when he was a young boy, there is a saying, bend the tree while it is still growing, did you as parent fail to give your child the necessary education, discipline? if you did give it to him then you should put your foot down and tell him "NO MORE" then force him to get a job, even waiting on tables, so that he can learn responsibility and that he will be able to pay his share, as a man this things is vital to learn at a young stage as the chances is good that he will have a family of his own one day and he will learn from his mistakes and be able to be a respectable father figure to his kids one day, so, yes, tell him to either accept your rules or go and stay somewhere where he does not have to apply to these rules, but at the end of the day it is still your responsibility not to fail your child as a parent, sit down with him and explain the implications of HIS actions and what it will hold up for his future as a parent one day, this will make him think, even if he doesn’t think about it today, he is a man, he will think about this someday and realise what a fool he was for not listening to good parental advice. Don’t judge him, treat him like adult cause that is what he wants and since he already entered an adult phase of life you should respect that because that is what he needs. I am open for comments since i was in your son's position not so long ago and chances are good that I can tell you exactly what is going on in his mind. Best of luck to you and your kid.

There is not a statute that says you have to give him notice, but that is why it would be in your best interest to give notice. Colorado law does not define "tenant" or what constitutes the landord-tenant relationship. There is also little case law on the subject. However, the common law definition of a tenant is anyone who trades something of value for exclusive use of some or all of a property. Courts have found that children often trade something of value (usually work around the house) for exclusive use of some of the property. Therefore, your son could be considered a tenant. Of course, it is not very common for someone who is staying someplace for free to sue under landlord-tenant law becuase lawsuits cost money and the chance of success is small. But it has been done before.

i think its legal lots of people have dont it but i think its wrong he is your son and it might totally ruin your relationship

you can kick him out anytime you want now that he is 18 there is no law saying that you have to keep him there he is an adult now. either tell him to pay rent or let him go either way you can kick him out.

Before you do anything...I would call a lawyer. They normally will give you a free consultation. To be on the safe side..I would serve the son with a written vacate notice to move in 30 days of the date on the noice. Make a copy and mail it registered mail..so you have a receipt.

Not sure about CO, but in NC, if someone is on your property (where you have deeded in your name) that you don't want there anymore, you have to verbally tell them to leave, then you may call the police and have them removed.

I would drop him off at the nearest shelter and go home and change my locks!! If he comes back home and break in you can have him arrested and then his lazy behind would have permnant shelter!!

Your son is 18 years old. He is an adult. The house is your own. You can't get in trouble for child abandonment. He's not paying rent. Sure, you're allowed to kick him out. However, are you only kicking him out just because he's not paying rent? If so, I think that's stupid. I'm 18 years old and I don't pay rent. My parents never told me I had to. In fact, they prefer that I don't pay rent because, they figure, if they make us pay rent after we turn 18, then we own our living space and can do whatever we want, and they can't hold the "my house, my rules" over us anymore. They believe it takes that away, and that's why they'll never make any of us pay rent. We do do chores and stuff, though, so it's not like we're mooching off of our parents. If your son does chores and if he actually goes to school, then I think you should reconsider kicking him out.

Your 18 year old is an adult, or atleast coutned that way in most states, so he can be kicked out of the house (as long as youre the one who owns it). In most cases, when kicking someone out the house, you should give some sort of warning or two-week notice. Think like a landlord. So give him warning or notice in advance, if he/she is voilent or may come back think abouit changing the locks. Maybe help them by finding some places to stay or jobs to get.

Kick him to the curb. As his parent, you can do it provided he isn't on a lease.

I know in CA, you can have them remove by the law and file a restraining order against them if you have too, depending on what is going on between you two. Tough Love is probably one of the hardest things a parent has to do with their kids, you raise them, teach them right from wrong. You love them with all you heart and then some where along the line things go down hill, they start drinking, drugs, staying out all hours, bad people coming home with them, they begin to expect you to do for them no matter what as if you owe them. Some where you have to draw the line or you will go crazy and if drugs are involved you can lose you home and its not worth it. I've been down that road, we declared him a run away at 16 then at 18 he was back, then 19 we had the law remove him Thank God today at 28 he's a better person and he holds no bad feeling either, he says Mom you had to do it and thats OK. I know alot of people will not agree with what I'm saying but till they have walked in these shoes, they have no idea what its like, so Cheryl call any local lawyer and ask most will see you for free one time, also local DA maybe will answer your questions too and you can file a restraining order if you have too. Good Luck

Why would you ever kick your own child out of the house? He's only 18 years old. I'm almost 26 and I could move back home anytime. Wherever my parents live, I will always have a home. Your question is breaking my heart. :(

Me and my father agreed about a month before I turned 18 that as soon as I hit 18 I was going to be gone, so I moved out that weekend. Yes, you can kick the kid to the curb at 18, he should be able to support himself at that time. No laws regarding tenancy of children that I've ever heard of.

Well what kind of parent are you ? I too have kids and I would give anything to hold them back in the house. What is a house by the way..? A place full of kids and parents and everyone. Otherwise it's just walls and terrace and bricks. Decide you want to stay with the bricks or your lovely children ...?

Some perspective:I have a nineteen year old son who screams obscenities, has raging tantrums and threatens to kill himself when he doesn't get his way. At Christmas this year it was no different than any other day with him, although he screamed that he didn't get what he wanted (he got lots of good stuff)and called me names and didn't show up for breakfast or dinner. He doesn't help out with any chores and says I shouldn't expect him to, and that he should have his clothes/food/everything else paid for. He has paid a small amount of board on several occassions, but he combined payment with hissy fits wherein he destroys the house we live in. He takes his clothes out of his dresser and closet and throws them on his floor, and when he does his laundry (once a month) he overloads the machines. I loaned him my computer and he smashed the keyboard while having a tantrum over some disappointing information he recieved. He has punched holes in the doors, burned the kitchen counters,broke the dishwasher, and smashed numerous dishes in his frequent tantrums. I didn't raise him this way-his father/stepmother had him for a year and somehow he learned this behaviour at their place. Now he smokes and doesn't exercise at all. I have sought counselling for him over the years, but there was never any available in our small town while he was growing up. There isn't anything available for me here either, and I am always at my wits end with him. Now that he's an adult, he has to seek help for himself but won't do it. My perfectly normal, good daughter (who never lived with her Dad)is often the brunt of his abusive tirades too. How can my daughter and I live like this? It's a living nightmare. I would rather not have to kick my son out to whatever elements are "out there", but what choice do I have?

Check your local laws, but generally, yes, you can kick them out. Our son left as soon as he could. Two years later, he came back. We love him, but it would be nice if he'd pay a little rent once in awhile...

Such compassion has never before been seen. I salute you, good sir.

If there is such a law I have yet to hear of it. I told my 17 year old son that if he doesn't start helping with the bills after he turns 18 he can start packing. No law or anyone is going to tell me who I can and can't kick out.

He is 18.......an adult. This is a big plus for you. since he has lived at your home as a juvenile, juveniles are not required to be served with a writ of eviction notice. Verbally give him notice to leave. note the day and time. if he is still there, then call the police and have him arrested for trespassing. This is tough love. But, according to your question and comments, this may be your only choice.

I know many of the responses to this question are old and perhaps people aren't reading into this anymore, but a lot of the responses to this question are unbelievable! I have an 18 year old that is lazy, is a slob, leaves food, dishes, cups, trash lying around on his bedroom floor, he steals from us, has stolen drugs, liquor, money, other things as well, and often times picks on my younger son! To put it mildly, my wife and I have HAD it up to our foreheads! On the day his class graduates in May, he's either going to change drastically right away and show proof of it or he's going to be homeless! He is mouthy, arrogant, lazy and just flat out USELESS! He does nothing around the house and trashes his bedroom. Parents do all they can do for their kids and then one day they must draw the line in the sand somewhere! You can legally kick your son out in most or all states, and if you must do it do it, if he refuses to leave call the cops and have him and his clothes escorted out of your house and off your property, then get a restraining order against him. Should he refuse to obey it, put his a** in jail! I would and WILL and don't give a crap what other people think!

It's funny to me how judgmental people are. They assume that the parents must have done something wrong with the child and how it must have been hard for the child. Well, after years of blaming myself and searching for answers for my sons behavior I have finally found peace in knowing there is not always an answer, some people just go the wrong way for no reason at all. Believe it or not. I don't care. I had my son in evey kind of program imaginable, I was a single mom, but I spent every moment not working, with my child, and taught him right from wrong, I punished him, etc, he was locked up three times, last time for 15 months. He destroyed all of my relationships, friendships, stole from me, his friends, family, lies to no end, and is the biggest manipulator ever. He knows I have MS and he will do things to to get in trouble, have to go to court, watch me cry and it will have no impact on him. It's like he is a sociopath. He is my only child. You think any parent wants this for their child? It killed me inside. I am a good person. I have two college degrees, I volunteer. I wanted to find some reason to explain his behavior and I just can't. He now almost 19, back involed with a gang, has to go. He is not willing to accept he has a problem. And yes I offered to take him to a tretament center, last ditch attempt to help him as I wanted to see if he was bipolar, yes he is ADD and has impulse control disorder, but he will not take medication, it is more than ADD though. That much I know. I can't go down with him anymore so I have to save myself. Don;t judge unless you walk in someone elses shoes. You don't really think that parents of troubled teens dont care and asked for this or created this, do you? Give me a break.

Our daughter is 18 and still in highschool. He grades are down and she blames us for all her problems and we have only provided for. She used to be with her mother who took her from Doctor to Doctor for countless less things and therapy was a must for her since age 2(according to the mother) now she believes it! She also believes that the town we live in is stupid and shes above all! She uses sex for everything and she's not on drugs....refuses to get a job or her license eventhough we bought her a car two years ago...I think we have tried and now it's time to go. The relationship is ruied and she's about to ruin the relationship between her dad and I (15 Years) and with 4 other kids (who are well adjusted). Her mother doesn't even want her back so I've decided she can go to grandma's or anywhere else she wants!! Like she said " it's my life and I need to live it." So my take it's time to go live it!!