I'm afraid of commitment, I'm a seventeen year old girl. Ppl my age think I'm weird for it too. I'm generally an independent type of person. Mostly I'm afraid of getting hurt and there is this guy who really wants to date me. I like him...what should I do
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Have you tried explaining to him about your issues? Being open is the best policy. At least if he knows that there's interest, it doesn't look like you're just blowing him off for no reason. Discuss it with him, take things slow, and don't commit right away. If he really likes you, he'll understand and will be willing to take things at your pace.
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Give it a chance - you could keep it casual to begin with -
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If he really likes you, he can understand, and he can wait until you're ready for commitment. I used to run the other direction as soon as someone was interested in me, and then I met a guy I really liked, and it was the other way around. I was his close friend for over a year before he dated me, but it was well worth the wait. There's nothing wrong with you! :o) Make him wait, and explain how you feel honestly and completely. Communication is the number one key to a good relationship, even friendship.
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It's perfectly normal to feel this way. You're very young and want to be careful when it comes to matters of the heart (that's a good thing.I'm much older than you and still scared of commitment and getting hurt. Slow is good. That way you can really get to know each other, iside and out, good and bad and take it from there to see if you guys are compatible. Most importantly, try to have fun. Like i said your very young so try to enjoy all life's experiences and don't be afraid to explore unknown territory. Sorry to say but you're going to experience having your heart broken. Just pick yourself up and move on.
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Your too old to be told what to do.
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At your age you should be afraid of commitment, I think you should be proud of being independent. Just keep in mind, dating isn't a commitment, It is just getting to know the person better.
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Dating is just a way of getting to communicating with other people, so don't be afraid just make sure that your parents approve of this guy and i am very proud that you are independent. Keep up the good work.
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you know, when i was seventeen i'd been with my boyfriend for three years already. my sister is seventeen and she's never had a boyfriend for longer than a month. we are both extremely happy. If YOU are happy, then that is what matters most. DON'T however lead boys on to think that you will be in a committed relationship. honesty is the best policy. you don't want to be looking for different things in a relationship. it never ends well.
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If you like him, just have fun together. From there, nature will take its course. I'm not against a little caution, I don't think you're weird. I think if you consider your options and what you want, you already know what you want to do. Good luck.
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I don't see a problem. You aren't afraid of commitment. You are too young to be in a committed for long relationship. You are changing too much and don't really know where you are going, at least most people your age are that way. Enjoy many people's company. Don't think that you must pair up. When the time to be with someone exclusively comes you will know it and it will feel right, and don't do it just because others think you should. They could be wrong. They are probably wrong. I knew when I met my husband that he was the one. I thought all my friends were silly to be boy crazy and going with this guy or that guy for two weeks or two months. Then I met my husband and tried to put distance between us because I was still very young. And when I found myself unable to live without him being closer, I let it and he asked me to marry him and we did. That was 34 years ago. Feel in love once, have been with one guy my whole life. I have never regretted it. I have never regretted him:-)
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At 17 all you should be committed to is you family or your school. But if you want someone to date you then its not a problem. Its not a commitment as such... its just knowing someone better
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You sound to me like you're a mature intelligent young woman. You have alot of life in front of you so don't rush commitment to a man just yet. Achieve your goals and stick to your independence until the day comes you meet a man that meets YOUR expectations.
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It's no problem to be afraid of commitment at that age. I totally understand. I'm a bit older than you and i too am afraid of commitment and getting hurt. My advice is to do things at your own pace. Don't let anyone rush you. If you're unsure about something, don't do it. Also, when you're making decisions, think about your future and think whether that is what you really want. If you really like this guy, then go out with him :) But take it slow since you're afraid of getting hurt.
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Easy explain to him how you feel, don't ever make the mistake of telling him you don't want anything serious coz if you do he will NEVER again take you serious, dont get into the relation as if you are going into jail. Just make hin understand that you are young and you dont really know about this dating thing yet and tell him that you are willing to try it out but if it doesn't work out it wont. and dating isn't mariage you can still continue with your life only basic things have to stop like sleeping around.
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if you are normally a independant person ,do yourself a favor and stay that way,you have your whole life ahead of you,and don't spoil it.at that age the guys usually want one thing and after they get it then they will drop you like a bad habbit.what then?your hurt,depressed, and angry and believe me it doesn't get better.get out and enjoy life and don't cheat yourself out of all the good things life has to offer at your age.don't be a copycat and do things just because your friends do them.you can go out with him but i suggest you double with a friend you can really trust.you only get one chance in life so before you do anything think twice ,then think again because if you make the wrong decission you will regret it the rest of your life.do the wrong thingand your life will change.i hope i'm not scaring you and if i am i'm sorry,i'm just giving you a heads up before you jump over the edge.take care of yourself and i know you will make the right decission.sincerely...pete
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Independent is good! Why would you want to make any commitments at this age? Dating is fine, tell the guy upfront you have plans for your life and don't want to be pinned down.
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At seventeen, think about getting your education and and nice career. After that you will be meeting men....not boys.
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