Your 22 your old enough to decide - What ever floats your boat

Opposites tend to attact and what could be more attractive than opposite in age? Maybe you are looking for a "father-figure" whatever that may mean to the person saying it but just maybe you'd like to see if an older man brings with him experience and greater understanding of your needs to the bed than younger men. Those who are the most vocal against your plans probably are just secretly wishing that they could do what you are going to do. Enjoy the experience; not just once but try dating older more several times. You might find that you really go for older men and if you do, it's between you and your older guy. Let those nay-sayers date whichever age they prefer and leave you to your mature men; if that's what you prefer.

It's up to you who you sleep with, but don't do it just for the "experience". Sharing your body with someone is something you shouldn't just "do". This is something that can fundamentally change or even end your life. At least risk your heart and your life on someone you really care about.

I think it's actually quite common for younger women to be interested in much older men - and 43 is hardly out into the grandad years, so in that sense, no I don't think you're abnormal, and don't let your friends worry you in that sense. But you do say you're looking to sleep with him "mainly just for the experience" - what exactly are you hoping to get out of it? If you think he's going to be fabulous in bed just on account of his age and experience, you could well be disappointed. Sleeping with a 43 year old in essence isn't really any different from sleeping with a 23 year old. There's no great mystery involved. Also - just sleeping with anyone for "the experience" is a bit of a minefield. How would you feel if someone wanted to sleep with you "just for the experience"? If it was a fly-by-night thing maybe you wouldn't care, even be flattered? But what if you really liked them? Make sure you're clear where this relationship is going before you go ahead.

I've always been attracted to older men. Currently I just turned 25 and my boyfriend of almost 2 yrs is 44. It started purely physical, but now its the most rewarding relationship Ive had. Of course I think its normal.

I don't see anything wrong or gross about the age difference but does this older gentleman know you are just looking for experience? If not at least have the decency to tell him and let him make an educated decision rather than possibly get hurt.

You are a woman and he is a man. That's it. The age is of no importance.

Keep your head on strait is all i have to say. Anyone would have an eyebrow raised at this situation. But if he loves you and you him, then love your guts out. Stay on your own path, you can miss out on what your independent life would be like too.

I think its normal, Ive seen a few older men that I find attractive and that they fascinate me, its weird, Ive never even thought about older guys but they are just as stunning as the younger ones :D. Even though I have a partner who is 7yrs younger that me lol.

If you want to give loving to a guy whos 43 I say GO FOR IT! Sexual IS NORMAL no matter what age you turn! I should KNOW I am almost 36 years! :-)

go for it. you're a mature adult.

I say go for it girl! Who cares what people say! If you want a more experienced man that is YOUR business! NOT theirs! Just do it and don't tell them about it if it bothers them that much! :O) Have fun!

In my day, people were concerned if they were married or not and age wasn't a factor...

Sometimes older men are more manly. But your 22 your still a baby. What do you think a 43 year old man can bring that a 22 year old man can't

No, its totally normal. Older guys are attractive because they aren't idiots. Go for it and have fun!

I don't think its gross at all. There's some 43 year old men out there that are HOT!!!!!!! If its what you want to do, then do it, nothing wrong with it at all, just be safe! Have fun!! =)

your both consenting adults, go for it, but the fact that you think it is "so different" proves there is something going on subconsciously

I guess for me, personally, it's not the AGE factor that is an issue...but the thought of wanting to be intimate with ANYONE simply for "the Experience." I understand that many people are comfortable with Casual Sex. I'm not. NO judgment on YOU, if you are. I don't think I'm better than you because we don't feel the same way about this topic...we just feel differently is how I see it. I think if two people care about each other, love each other or believe they are growing to love each other, it's no one's business how old they both are... I think I'm a better lover than I was in my twenties, I've learned a few things and I'm more open and honest with my emotions, desires, more willing to be vulnerable...sexually, emotionally...I like these changes in me. I think as long as you are being honest with yourself and the other person (and hopefully they with YOU) then you just have to decide to do, what you want to do..together.

Please let me give you my number!

I've always been interested in older men, but not just because I wanted the experience of sleeping with them. But it's definitely not gross. My best friend thought it was, too, until I introduced her to her now-husband, who's 15 years older than her.

I was "older man" in some situations, there is no abnormality in that if a 22 yo girl is curious of that how a 43 man works. Some girls just stay with the "older man" for years. Go for it.

Not gross at all. I've never liked men my own age. EVER. I don't even check guys my own age out, LOL. My friends think its gross too, but they just don't see what I see.

Its not gross, but if you say its mainly for the experience then is this really a proper reason to sleep with someone?

OKAY IN ALL SERIOUSNESS ANY FRIEND WHO JUDGES A RELATIONSHIP YOUR IN PURELY ON AGE, WELL IF IT'S LEGAL ISN'T A FRIEND. a FRIEND SHOULD BE HAPPY FOR YOU IF IT'S A HEALTHY HAPPY RELATIONSHIP, BUT THEN AGAIN I'M NOT HERE TO SCHOOL PEOPLE ON BEING A GOOD FRIEND. AGE IS TRUELY JUST A NUMBER. I'M 22 YEARS OLD AND AM IN A VERY LOVING, HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH A 53 YEAR OLD MAN, WITH WHOM I JUST HAD AN ADORABLE BABY GIRL WITH. NOTHING STRANGE ABOUT THAT AT ALL. OPOSITES ATTRACT.YOU GO GIRL!

I used to think that sleeping with someone over 40 would be gross. Then I turned 40.

Age doesnt matter. your an adult too go for it!

not gross at all I'm 45 and was in a beautiful loving caring non sexual relationship for almost 2 years with a woman almost 15 years younger than me. Age is only a number so long as you are both consenting adults.

Go for it! I think it would be fun! :D

Nope nothing wrong with it.Have fun

I'd like to think that I know a little bit more about making love now than when I was 22. Hopefully, your guy has learned a bit over the years as well. Enjoy!

I guess the age difference doesn't bother me too much. What bothers me is the idea of just having sex 'for the experience' of it. Even if he is willing, it seems like you are using each other and what kind of experience is that other than using someone. It doesn't tell you what all older men are like. It doesn't necessarily mean he is more experienced and knowledgeable about sex because of his age. Age doesn't = great time and know-how. So unless you really care for an older guy, what's there to experience?

I completely understand. I also think that it would most likely be good. Older men have had a little more experience pleasing a woman than the younger ones. Why not? Let us know how it goes.

No, I don't think it's gross. You are an adult and so is he. You can do whatever makes you happy. Enjoy:)

yes i think it is quite normal,everyone has thier own preferences,there's nothing wrong with that.

Hey that guy has experience go for it!

I can relate to this. I'm 23 and with a 44 year old (although he looks like 32 and I'm not saying that to brag, people have guessed his age to be anywhere from 27-35, just good genes and fit/healthy). Anyway, ours isn't a 'conventional' relationship, it's more alternative with submission/domination. Yes, you're normal and fine for wanting to experience this. But even so, who cares if it's not normal? Many people find happiness and satisfaction outside the realms of normalcy and convention, I know I certainly have! Don't pay mind to your friends. Their description of 'gross' seems very closed minded and ignorant, as well as immature. It's your life and privates, not theirs. What floats their boats may not float yours, and vice versa. Tell them to 'F' off already. My only advice I think would be to make sure you're both on the same level/ground before you go into it. For example if you're looking for a relationship but he only wants a hot one night stand with a girl half his age, it'll only end in heartbreak (I know that may not be the case cause you said just for the experience but don't go into it with any stars in your eyes if he only wants to do you once then leave the next morning). Communication is key. And hey 'looking for a father figure' isn't all that bad either lol, there's many alternative roleplay relationships like that (ours being one of them) and it's a LOT of fun (depends on the person). And lots of Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby arrangements out there too. Go for whatever floats your boat, just make sure to use protection, caution, and communication. Tell me how it works out if you decide to go through with it, good luck!

Arent u the one that has a fiance!!!! SHAME ON U!!!

Although it is not quite normal, it is by no means abnormal either ... as long as neither one of you is robbing the cradle or robbing the grave, and as long as both of you are adults who agree you both should be together, then there is nothing really wrong. The fact that the majority of people choose partners with the same age or very close is all that makes normal what it is, and being in a relationship that is not quite normal is fine. I also have a T-shirt that says, "Older men deliver what young men promise." ... and I think it is something more women should try or at least consider.

That's disgusting. Just get someone who's 30. That's tops. They'll have more experience, but they'll still have no issues with getting their stuff up(hopefully).

for loving there is no age

You should really care about someone you want to sleep with..... anyway, 43 is NOT OLD..... if he was 53.... I could see a little hesitance.....30 years difference is a bit much. I don't think that 21 years is all too much. It is just my opinion. I am 24.... would I consider a relationship with a 45 year old? Yes. I don't see it as gross or abnormal to date someone of a different age...... However I feel a bit prejudiced on the basis of "just for the experiance". I think that is morally questionable. However, I also realize people do that.... it just isn't for me. If the question dealt more with persuing a relationship with an older person.... I would say to tell your friends to grow up because attraction and love don't have such lines to limit them.

trust me its not gross.... i was sleeping with someone 28 years older than me.... it was the best sex ive ever had.....

Speaking as someone currently interested in a 42 year old (who is also 22)--does he respect you? This is what's important. Of course you aren't looking for a father figure, most of us don't think of our fathers that way! I think there are quite a few like us. Good luck!

I personally think that it is. In my opinion a younger man would be more experienced. Older men would just be happy to be with a younger woman.

What do you mean by experience? Perhaps you are looking for a considerate lover, one who is actively interested in your pleasure before his? Older men(I am one) are not always mature and kind, but many are and would love to spend time with a younger woman who would appreciate them. Older men are more likely to be able to cook, clean, pick up after themselves and generally be better to hang out with and quite possibly be the man you want. Give him a chance after you have thought about it and decided what you want out of the "experience"! Good luck and enjoy!

If you are to do this, what about younger men? what would they feel about you? Men who are close to her age... please comment:

I don't believe the people that are saying, "Just because he is 43 y.o is not any different than sleeping with a 23 year old." What rock have they been sleeping under? I can speak from experience that when I was 23, (because of the lack of experience and maturity)I loved sex because I knew it felt great. Fast forward to about 38 years old, and you would find that I was absolutly a 100 percent better lover! An older man finds out by then that it isn't just all about him. He has learned that it is much better to slow down and take the time to please his lover. I knew by this age it was more of a turn-on to make my goal to send her to extacy 1st, then we can work on me. It is a fact that mentaly, women mature much faster than a man. It is no wonder to me why more and more women are dating older men. I say you go for it girl! Like it has already been said to you that you are old enough to do as you please. Good luck.

Its not grose at all, I'm only 20 and my husband is 30, He's more experienced then I am and I love that. I was only 17 when I married him, I ran away with him cause we love eacother so much. An older man is best.

Older men are secxy and very charming.. if anything, you will have something exciting to remember in your later years.

I'm 37. Try it with me first. Then I'll call my dad, and we'll go from there.

Screw what your friends think, and just go for the experience. Life is too short to just waste it. I am a good looking, well-built 20 year old guy, and I have had sex with women ranging from 17 to 40. I find older women specially appealing. And when I get in my forties, I will probably find younger women sexually arousing. But right now I'm just experiencing. So I recommend you to just do it for experience's sake.

you go girl! older men are not gross and they last longer than the less experienced ones. actually theres alot of damn fine men over 50. I recomend one of each, say 19 & 40ish should be educational at least.

I think it is perfectly normal to sleep with a 45 year old if you are not under 22.

im 39 and i was with an 18 year old last night and it was for fun age don't matter anymore

I'm 21 and am sleeping with a 43 year old man...my friends think it is gross too, but ya know what? He is an awesome guy, he makes me laugh, he makes me happy, we have a great time and the sex is fabulous!!! Ask yourself this question. Are you hurting anyone? Then there ya go.... As long as he isn't married or in a committed relationship....then why not? rock on!

I dated a man 19 years older than me when I was 30, When I finally introduced him to the parents, turned out that he was a very old friend of my dads that he'ds not seen since I was a baby in nappies, The whole story unravelled and my B/f remembered this baby (me) needless to say, we split about a month after, Its just not the same. lol. I loved being with an older man, the sex was amazing as he seemed more grateful that I chose him. We are still good friends but he now meets my father for a swift pint not me. lol. :)

Normal? yes? silly? Yes too. They say age doesn't make a difference. I agree to a certain point. You have to think about your future. Imagine when you turn 4oish, he will be 60ish. By then you may be looking at 20ish looking men wishing you could go back in time. The moral of this is stay young and appreciate your youth. don't sleep with a guy just because he is "older" What's below is the same thing on a 20 year old. The only difference is experience in age. Not to mention younger healthier skin so to speak. Older is attractive only because you're hanging with the wrong crowd perhaps. There are mature guys out there, they are just hard to find. lol anyway, good luck. Be fair to yourself and to your mate. It takes 2 to tango. :)

No but you are a Homosexual

I was 18 and a 40 year old woman tought me things I never new existed! Practice safe sex and be discreet if you go there. Enjoy!

no its not wierd, they know what they are doing! it can be hot

Being 43, physically fit, I can tell you I am in the best shape of my life and more importantly as it pertains to the question, sexually knowledgeable. Very simply, knowing what I know now tells me how little I knew when I was in my twenties. For example, once I learned how to make a woman orgasm to the point of squirting, I have yet to not be able to accomplish it with each that I have been with since. Keep in mind that none of them knew they could or even thought it was possible. So the point being, if you find the right guy, the experience could possibly expand/improve your sexual experiences for the rest of your life. Unfortunately, the wrong guy could do exactly the opposite and be careful because in my experience there are a lot more wrong than right.

Nowadays, according to what you read, 50 is the new 30 so throw out that rule book and go rob some baby boomers of their perceived vanity. Have fun! :D

I was 20 when I fel in love with someone 24 years older than me and girl let me tell you, They know what to do in bed! They have more experience, more patience and aren't just looking to get off like younger men are. We have been married now for 6 years and the sex is still great! Go for it! Don't worry about what people think, do what's good for you!

you go right ahead....i am 46 and my g friend is 23 and we are totally in love and have the best sex ever

So Kissy, that was over a year ago, how did it work out?

Good for you. Being 30-something I think you're right about life experiences and better conversation. Sex probably varies from person to person, regardless of age. Oops this was meant as a comment to your comment below, not a new answer...

I'm 34 and my wife is 23. When we met she was 18 and I was twenty-nine. We have been married for almost four years and we are expecting our second child. I always dated older women until I married the wrong one. So, it works both ways. Enjoy life and be smart.

im 18 and sleep with guys pushing 30, have been since 15, so dont feel alone or weird enjoy it and give him the ride of his life!!!

its not bad, you are legal age, as long as hes not married, go 4 it:)

From and "old guy" perspective who has been there done that. I've been the 43 YO with the 24 YO or some ratio there in a few times. No, I don't look for young girls, it has just happened. I totally agree with the"for the experience" is the wrong reason. It should be because of connection. There is danger in the expecting more from an older guy as how well a guy performs has more to do with his willingness to learn about his partner than anything else. Given that, a 43 YO guy who has been learning does have the potential to be better than the 24 YO guy. However, I have girls tell me that there are a lot of 43 YO guys who plain ass suck in bed. Mainly because of the get on and "get off" attitude. In the end you should be looking for a guy who is willing to meat you and learn about your needs.

Being a much older man than 43, I think you should not judge anyone by their age. If you want to try it, go ahead. However, I assure you, you will be forty before you know it. Anything over 50.1% is normal.

hi kissy im 46 and dated many a younger girl,myself i get flattered by this. where you from again.phone number

Somehow I turned into a older man so I can tell you it is common I have sex with girls from their mid twentys and up not looking for a relationship but looking for enjoyable sex

i say when your young and you want to try something, go for it. don't worry about what others say. but be careful, my wife was almost 20 years younger than me when we started dating. she said she had wanted to date a older man and we wound up marrying. older men will take their time and please you.

The older guy will know what he is doing. The young rabbits really do not know how to really please a woman. Chances are you will have a real love making experience and not a macho "ramming porn session". You are most likely already turned off by the young guys. That is why you are attracted to the mature guy. You could be sexually more mature than your years. My wife if 14 years younger than I.

According to your question you want some existential experience that arises out of a persons length of life experience. You might as well desire to sleep with him (have sex) because of any physical attribute. If'n you don't care about the man do everyone a courtisy and pass on by. Why should this man or any man share in bed and intimacy with you just because you think he has more memories than you. You might as well you do say you're looking to sleep with him "mainly just for the experience" - because he has more money than you. Submitted

It is nothing abnormal I guess. If experience si what you want, mostly 43 can give that I would imagine.

My first date was when I was 84 and he was 93. The wrinkles are such a turn on to me, glad I got some.

Your ages are almost exactly ours when we married. We'd been together 4 years before that. Age differences are not that important, love is. +3

I am an "older man." I have been with several women in their 20s+ in the last 5 years. About 5 years ago, I was propositioned by a woman when I was at lunch in a nice steak reataurant in Denver (where I live) She was blunt. We were in the parking lot. I had nseen her in the reastaurant. She said, "I watched you at lunch. You turn me on. I want you to 888k me"That was first. We did. She was thrilled with how much fun we had and the number of orgasms she had. She has told many of her friends. They are now my friends...friends with benefits. She told me that she'd had sex with many men her age. None measured up. My experience? Hmmm Do it.