If in a relationship, you find yourself having strong feelings for someone else,
but care for and love your mate, is it a sign you should leave your
mate?
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ANSWERS: 12
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This is not a definative answer but here goes.. Often people look at others and feel lust. Are your strong feelings lust, emotional or both? It depends what you choose to do with those feelings. If feelings towards someone other than your partner are lust, that may not be enough to sustain a relationship in the long run. If the feelings go deeper, you may have to think harder. Do you see a future with your partner? Are they good to you, are you happy? If so, it may be foolish to throw this away for someone new. If you have been unhappy for a while with your partner and don't think that with some effort it could be better, then it could be a sign to leave-either to be with someone else or have time to yourself to consider.
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well it is a sign that you need to anilize your relationship find out what it is that you like about the other person that you don't like about your relationship. maybe it's a lack of attention whatever it is figure that part out try and fix it by talking to your current lover. if this dosent work then leave your current relationship but dont jump into a new one that would just be a rebound.
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I dont think it is neccisaroly a sign that you need to leave yor mate, I think you need to figgure out if it is a "mental" obsession. I think you need to look at it from a compleetly different angle, look at it from the point of your mate, do you still love him? if you do then the other man that you like is just an obsession or a lust and you should just try to focus on the things you love about your mate, so you will not do something stupid. If you figgure out that you don`t love him well then you might want to go for this other guy. But I dont think that you should ever make a desicion on wheither or not to stay with one man based on an infatuation with an other man. You should make that desicion based on if you love the one you`r with.
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i dont think you should leave someone you love for someone you like because the person you like will leave you for the person they love. please believe this quote.
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Ok... hard to say. It happened to me, and me and my wife got separated. I'm not saying that you should leave, but you should really analyze your feelings. What happened to me was that when I realized I was falling for someone else, I discovered that I didn't love my wife the way I thought. Made me analyze my whole relationship with my wife... I actually didn't break BECAUSE of that someone, but because my marriage was over.
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No. Just you start having feelings for someone else, doesn't mean you should necessarily act on them. You need to look at what it is that brought you to your mate in the first place. Is this something that your mate is not doing or you feel he is not doing? Have parameters in the relationship changed? Does he not want to go out and party or take you dancing like he used to? Do you feel that he "just doesn't listen to you" or anticpate your needs? What does this new person do for you to get your attention? Divorce rates are way too high because of people having "feelings" for somebody else and acting on them, braking up families for there own happiness. If you love your mate, then you will do what you can to salvage your relationship.
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Time to regroup and get yourself back on track - It may just be a passing fancy - Be honest and be careful -
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Not until you know you do not care for them. It could just be a short crush or interest in another person that will disappear in a very short time. If you love your partner stick in there and work at it. Just my opinion
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It isn't a sign that you should leave your currnet mate, but it means it's time for you to think about your relationship and what's missing or what is going wrong. What made you go to another person in the first place? How do you know that you have "strong feelings" for someone else?
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i never act on feelings alone, feelings can change from day to day, thats why it is important to recognize the values you have, they will last alot longer than day to day feelings. theres nothing wrong with attraction( to a point )its what you do about that attraction that matters. so if commitment and perserverence are important to you, deal with the feelings according to your own beliefs
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What ever you do decide to do, if you truely love your mate, at least have the respect for them and end the relationship before acting on your feelings.
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Really?!? Your reading this!?! Clearly ppl on the net know more about how you feel then you do (n) ;)
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