Why is it so hard to see ourselves as others do?
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People will always notice traits and qualities which we dont even notice ourselves.Once you perceive yourself in a certain way it is very difficult to overcome that. Some people with low self esteem, have no self worth and just constantly dismiss and criticise themselves. Others perhaps think too much of themselves. Knowing oneself is one of the most challenging and important tasks of your life.
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We build a very well defined self concept over time. It's accuracy is subject to the ability we possess to be objective. Others do not have this belief system about us that we do, so they can more easily have other opinions. These opinions are not better than our own, necessarily, just different and perhaps enlightening or merely a reflection of how they judge others in general.
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I think we expect ourselves to be either horrible or perfect - Good Question
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If we saw ourselves as others saw us, self-confidence and charisma, often essential qualities to a sucessful life, would be negated. We'd be more interested in hiding our many flaws than in getting people to see our strong points.
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Yikes! I think it is because it's like seeing ourselves in a 360 degree mirror under floresent lights while being naked. Who wants to see that.
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Two things: 1-When we do look at ourselves- Our vision is warped and completely biased, we know ourselves too well. And 2-Why we dont look at ourselves- We avoid impersonally looking at our own strengths and weaknesses because we fear what we will see. We fear the flaws because they undermine us, and we fear the strengths because they inflate our egos.
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Because others don't see us as we are.It is almost impossible to live up to the expectations of others and to do so is wasted energy.If will look at ourselves long and hard we will get a true perspective of ourselves,and be confident in not being concerned about others thoughts.
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