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by mommyslittlegirl on February 20th, 2011

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Should I get married to the one I love at 24, or enjoy my freedom longer?

I’m 23 years old. Living alone, and loving the freedom. But it gets very lonely at times. I’ve been in a relationship with a guy for 5 years, and he says we should get married next year. I’m delighted, but confused. I wonder whether it’s too early for marriage. I’m sure I’ll miss the freedom that I enjoy now and I’m afraid that I may not be able to pursue my dreams. The thought of being with him is very comforting though. What should I do?

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  • by Aprettyappendage on February 20th, 2011

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    hmm...there is always give and take when you enter into a committed relationship. There's a lot you give up but there's also great reward. If you don't feel ready, then don't get married until you do. There is a lot of responsibility that comes with marriage and the decisions only get harder, so make sure you really want it.

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  • by EFF U AB on February 20th, 2011

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    I agree with Candi, if you are asking you are doubting and you are not ready for marriage and commitment.

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  • by Candi on February 20th, 2011

    Candi

    If you are asking this question at all you are not ready for marriage,

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  • by Anna44 on February 20th, 2011

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    if you have to ask, then you shouldn't get married.

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  • by CaptainPlanet93 on February 28th, 2011

    CaptainPlanet93

    You should remain unmarried until you free yourself of the mindset that marriage = bondage ("no freedom"). If you enter it with that attitude, your marriage will be guaranteed to fail because you are already giving your husband -100 points at the moment of "I do" because the notion is implicit in your question that you see him as taking something away from you that is more important to you than he is, or at least equally as important (your "freedom").

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  • by Pintapride on July 6th, 2011

    Pintapride

    Keep the freedom!
    You would probably end up in the divorce court eventualy!

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  • by (^_^) on February 20th, 2011

    (^_^)

    enjoy one yr single,after get married.kind of marriage blue ? you have time,enjoy to spend time as single for while.and you know he is comfortable to be with.you have answer in it.congrats you got the one. enjoy discover more his good things also at this time .

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  • by Anonymous on February 21st, 2011

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    Well, that depends. Are you truly in love with him, or do you stay out of habit because being in a relationship is comforting? If the latter, then you may want to rethink the relationship. But if you really love this guy and feel that he's a good match, then compromise. If you want, you can tell him that you dearly love him, but you're young and you prefer to have a long engagement before marriage.

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  • by PrivateGomerSpooner on February 20th, 2011

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    23 or 24 is regarded as young to be getting married. The average age has moved to 30 now so you have a lot more years ahead to live your life and get everything in place before making such a big decision. You have to decide if your pursuit of your dreams is more important than getting married. You say, 'and he says we should get married next year', what do you say?

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  • by predator 1987 on February 20th, 2011

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    Share your answer...

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  • by Patti jo on February 20th, 2011

    Patti jo

    Well only you can decide that , just take your time and think about it before you jump in . I say this because you must be confused if you took the time to share with all of us .
    Having a dream is wonderful and I would follow that dream no matter what .
    That would have to be set in stone !! Before you marry

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  • by predator 1987 on February 20th, 2011

    predator 1987

    MY TEACHER IN UNIVERSITY TOLD ME THAT THE BEST AGE FOR MARRIAGE IS 32-3 FOR MEN AND 28 FOR WOMEN .BECAUSE THEY COULD EXPERIENCE MANY THING UNTIL THAT AGE......AND IF THEY MARRY THEY WILL BE CONFINED BUT I THINK HOW LONG YOU WANT WAIT AND EXPERIENCE THE THINGS LIKE SEX ...DANCING WITH EVERYBODY....TRAVELING TO THE FOREIGN COUNTRY AND CITY......EDUCATING.....HAVING NO RESPONSIBILITY....TRYING RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS AND THAT......GOING PARTY TILL MID NIGHT.......DRIVING FAST......GOING TO MOVIE..... STAY IN FRIEND,S HOME.......AND STUFFS LIKE THIS. I THINK THAT,S ENOUGH .....YOU WERE FREE TO DO ALL OF THIS WHEN YOU WHERE 18.......I BELIEVE THAT IF YOU GET OLDER YOU WILL LOSE MANY CHANCES AND OPPORTUNITIES.IF YOU ARE READY (MENTALITY)FOR PROTECT YOUR SPOUSE ...RISSING CHILDREN ...FOR BECAME A RESPONSIBLE AND GOOD MOTHER YOU SHOULD ENTER TO YOU,RE NEW LEVEL OF LIFE.AND MARRIAGE IS NOT AGAINST PURSUING DREAMS.....MAYBE REALIZE THAT YOU ARE WRONG IN YOU,RE DREAMS.........

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  • by angie1789 on February 20th, 2011

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    follow your instinct :)
    you can share your life with him for a while without being engaged in this crap institution ( marriage)

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  • by Silverwolf loves Funguy50 on February 20th, 2011

    Silverwolf loves Funguy50

    if you have to ask, then no you shouldn't.

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  • by jls on February 20th, 2011

    jls

    And you could continue this fairy tale if you never have kids.

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