Before answering your question, allow me to remind you two universal truths about love: -Breaking up is always hard, no matter how nice you are, so do not look for the perfect scenario -The longer a non-happy partner keeps the relation, the harder it is for the two of them eventually, so do it as soon as possible if you are sure about your feelings. There are some techniques to make it easier: 1. If you cannot find the courage or you think that the right words won't come out at the moment, write him a letter (sometimes is easier to express our ideas clearly on paper, and is easier to send a letter than speak in person). 2. No matter what you really think, avoid as possible saying things that will hurt feelings. Remember, you are finishing a relationship...so what is the point on saying harsh, strong things.On the contrary, remind him of his positive aspects, which will help him to find another person who is more compatible for him. 3. If the other person is trying too hard to make up or keep going, suggest a temporary separation (even if you know it will be permanent), this will calm things and gives you the opportunity to say: I didn't miss you so I conclude I do not love you anymore. I hope this advice helps!

Be honest, but be careful about actually telling him you're no longer attracted to him. It might make him feel undesirable. I once broke off a dating relationship by saying to the man, "We're like pickles and cheesecake. Nothing wrong with either one of them, but they don't go together." Of course my sitch was a little different in that it had not been a very long relationship. The analogy may still apply, although Jerry Seinfeld did a whole episode around the break-up line, "It's not you, it's me." I'd stay away from that one and emphasize that it is the relationship that is not working, not something that is wrong with either of you. Keep in mind that a breakup will not be painless. It will hurt both you and him, and sometimes you will wonder what it would have been like to stay with him. Don't let yourself get caught in that. Move on.

The other answers here are great! I just wanted to add, be firm, but temper your words. Being on the losing end of a breakup is hard. Try to keep in mind how YOU would like to be let down if he was breaking up with you (the old "golden rule"). Also see: What are some of the worst ways to end a relationship with someone?http://www.answerbag.com/q_view.php/6244

Honey, I am in the exact same situation as you... I've been with my guy for almost 2 and 1/2 years (since my last yr of highschool), for the past 4 months I've concluded that I no longer have the same feelings as I once had for him. I don't know if this will help you any but I plan on explaining to him that maybe what was right for us in highschool, may not be right for us where we are in our lives now. Him and I are in two different places in our lives, he wants to party and be with his friends all of the time and I am pretty much ready to settle down anytime now. I know he is going to be hurt by this, but I also know that this is the best for both of us, he can't really be that happy and attentive to our relationship if he hasn't caught on to my unhappiness. My situation may be different from yours, but there is no nice way to break up with someone, unless its mutual. The best thing to do is not blame him for anything, tell him what you did like about him and the relationship so that he knows for the next girl. Don't wait it out because it's not fair for either of you, if you are unhappy and he loves you don't you think he would want to do what's best for you and what would make you happy, even if it doesn't include him... anyways I may not help at all but I wish you the best.

I know I'm late to the party, but this is to help anybody who googled this question and ended up here. Your first problem is in assuming that since the feelings of attraction are dead that you HAVE to break up. Whenever a guy runs into this problem, they tend to get more solid advice from other guys. It goes a little something like this. "If you end a relationship every time you hit a bump, you may as well be celibate. Everybody experiences a death of attraction at some point, and how you deal with it will affect whether you are ready for ANY relationship." Yes, no matter who you're with, you'll have times when you aren't attracted to them. The good news is that you have some control over this. You can make the choice to keep loving. To quote a Massive Attack song "Love, love is a verb. Love is an action word." If your heart is in the right place, the physical follow-through will take place. Stop listening to Cosmo. You WILL experience periods of time where you aren't attracted to your Prince Charming. The difference is whether you're mature enough to deal with it and count on love to bring you through. If you end a relationship with somebody because "the spark is gone," or you're "no longer attracted to them," then you're making excuses for yourself, and you need to take responsibility and deal with the guilt. You're not ready for any sort of relationship if you want to back out whenever you hit a roadblock like this.

there is no real nice way, there is only the ONLY way, and that is to just tell him the truth, although it will hurt him a bunch , the longer you wait the harder it is, like ripping a band aid. good luck

Why not just be honest .. but kind and firm .... don't back down once you've made up your mind to do this ... Sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel ... and break up. I'd have a male relative there in another room nearby as back up .... just in case things got out of control. Best of luck.

THe only nice way... Is to be honest but gentle. Leave his self esteem in tact by gentle honesty and with love.

There is no nice way, you are breaking up with him, he wont take it nice even if you say it nice. Honesty is the best policy though it may hurt it is the most respectful thing to do after spending 2 years with him.

there's never a nice way :( i think the only easy way would be if you caught him cheating or something.

Do you still have feelings for him though? I went through the same thing with my boyfriend in September. I was no longer attracted to him and broke up with him and we took about a 3 month break and now we are back together, living together and better than ever. If you still have feelings for him, but just feel like you aren't attracted to him, try a break instead of a break UP.

I wouldn't say you're not attracted to him anymore. Just say you feel there's someone better out there for both of you.

Whatever you do, don't offer to be his friend that is a huge slap in the face, and if he says he still wants to be friends make it clear to him what your intentions are, don't give him false hope and even then you should wait a few months.

Hey... this is the 21st century! Text him!

There is no nice way to do it. Any way you say it is gonna hurt. My recomendation would be to just be direct and to the point. Be as clear as possible, and dont beat around the bushes. Also dont try to push any of that "lets just be friends" crap nothing pisses a man off more than hearing that. Make the breakup as quick and as painless as possible by being blunt and direct.

Have the intestinal fortitude (courage) and respect for what you once had together to be honest and *direct*! ;-)

There actually is a nice way of saying it... "things are not going to work out between me and you. You're ummm... you're way too good for me!" lol. Anyways, It's obviously not a serious relationship if you just all of a sudden stop liking him. (my thought)

honestly the best way to do so, is by telling the truth...... and make sure that this is really something that you wan to do, otherwise you might regret this... think about that before you do so. but yeah if my girlfriend were to break up with me i would want the honest truth, so that atleast i would KNOW why, rather than wonder. may i ask what he has done (the way that he acts), or why you arent attrated to him anymore??? has he become to nice, to boring? and how could he of avoided this?

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