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  • Crying is a powerful way to manipulate people. Children use it all the time. Your friend may not have deliberately tried to manipulate you but you have allowed yourself to get involved in this drama. You're not doing him a favor by lying to him. A boy considers it a great injustice if a girl he has a crush on doesn't like him back. He needs to grow up and understand that loving someone does not guarantee love in return. Gently but firmly tell him that you have a right to love someone of your choosing; that you are not obligated to love him just because he loves you. Let him know that he's a loveable guy, just not by you. Someday you may be in the same position. Don't be tempted to manipulate a guy with a display of tears. Some guys are willing to sacrifice their own happiness just to save a girl some pain. You could cause some real harm.
  • There is a chance the crying could have been genuine, but this does not change the fact that giving this guy false hopes is wrong. So no, you did not do the right thing. Which means that you need to tell him tha truth. Yes, it is going to be difficult. Yes, he may cry again. But more importantly than both of those things: Yes, telling him the Truth is the correct thing to do. Break it to him gently. Tell him that you hated to see him so upset and because you value his friendship and didn't want to see him hurt, you made a bad decision and todl him something that wasn't true. Bottom line: false cryer or not, this guy deserves the truth.
  • Shame on you! 1st you lie to the poor guy, then you make him cry! :0( Seriously, you need to be honest and forthright with him. Simply tell him that you value him as a friend and that you don't mean to hurt his feelings, but you don't feel that particular way about him. In other words, tell him that you're not attracted to him as a boyfriend. You did the wrong thing by being dishonest. Granted it upset him by being honest, but you can't feel bad nor should you apologize to someone else because you don't share their mutual feelings. You can't help how you feel about someone. You are either attracted to someone, or you're not attracted to someone in that way. Bottom line: To prevent your relationship from being soured, simply be honest with him and tell him that you are willing to be his friend, but that he must understand that you don't have romantic feelings towards him. If this upsets him, then I'm sorry, but that's just the way it is. Good luck!
  • I'll be blunt with you...NO, you didn't do right thing, because you lied. Lying is bad no matter what the situation is. (Unless of course you're doing a joke that understandable.) Especially in this case... Well, coming from a guy...it's best if you take him for a long walk. Somewhere nice and you're somewhat surrounded by people. Talk to him calmly and gently, and as much as possible don't raise your voice or argue. Make sure you keep it short and sweet, basically, straight to the point. Don't dilly dally with whatever. After you tell him, make sure you say "I'm sorry, but..." say your reason why it'll never happen. (Make sure that before you say everything or anything...you consider his feelings about it.)
  • Say you guys are not ready for a realtionship and getting into one would cause you to dislike him and you need time to just take it slow.
  • No, I don't think you did. I think you should have been more defiant if you know you dont like your friend in that way. It would hurt your friendship more by lying to them. You would have to go through it again, if he asked you out again, and if the same thing happens you will end up doing something you'll regret later. I think you should talk to your friend, sort it out, but nicely.
  • YOU LIED AND IT PUT YOU IN THIS POSSITION NOW I'M GOING TO TELL YOU HOW TO GET OUT. I'M ASSUMING YOU GUYS ARE YOUNG SINCE HE CRIED OVER THIS. SOULUTION:IF YOU GUYS ARE REALLY YOUNG LIKE I THINK YOU ARE TELL HIM THAT UR PARENTS WON'T ALLOW YOU TO DATE AND THERE CAN BE NOTHING BETWEEN YOU 2 BECAUSE OF THIS. IF UR TEENS THEN TELL HIM YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND IN THAT YOU DIDNT WISH TO TELL HIM ABOUT. IT MAY WORK LOL
  • Get some other girl to hit on him see what happens if that doesn't drive him away try what the others say.

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