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<h4 class="dechead">On One Hand: Traditional Etiquette
Technically, a bridal shower should be given by the bride's matron- or maid-of-honor or one of her best friends. Family members are not supposed to host the shower, according to traditional etiquette. Rebecca Black of Etiquette Now advises that neither the mother of the bride nor the mother of the groom should host the shower.
On the Other: Rules Are More Relaxed Now
A-to-Z of Manners and Etiquette.com reiterates that it is an absolute faux pas for family members to throw the bridal shower,but acknowledges that modern rules are much more relaxed and many people ignore the old, rather rigid rules.
Bottom Line
Discuss the situation with your mother and soon-to-be mother-in-law and see how they feel about following custom or breaking the rules. If one or the other would be terribly offended by a breach in etiquette or, insulted because she can't host the bridal shower, forget the rules and do whatever works best for you.
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