Funeral flowers are sent to the funeral home once the news of the deceased is announced. It is proper etiquette to send flowers before the first "wake," or viewing of the body to pay respects. There is also etiquette for how to fill out the card accompanying the flowers. Finding the right words for a funeral card and flowers does not have to be a difficult task, as the pain of the loss is probably enough.

Sympathy for the family

"I am sorry," "I am praying for you," or "With deepest sympathy," are all acceptable phrases when addressing the family of their loss. Since you are writing on the card for flowers, sometimes space is limited. A quick, respectable phrase with your full name is suitable for the flowers. The Sympathy Flower Shop includes a comprehensive list of acceptable phrases to accompany flowers to a funeral. Be sure to send the flowers before the first viewing.

Kind Words for the Deceased

You can also address the card to the deceased. For example, you can use phrases such as "In loving memory of a friend, Love Sarah," or "To Pop, With Love." These phrases should be short and respectful. The Funeral Flower Company includes a list of acceptable phrases for this situation.

Phrases to Avoid

Since each person has a different way of grieving, avoid phrases that attempt empathy such as "I know how you feel" or that "You will feel better with time." Also avoid any phrases that imply it was the deceased's time to die or that this happened for a reason. Keep all of your messages respectful.

Source:

TheFuneralDirectory.com: Sympathy Card Etiquette

Funeral Etiquette

Resource:

Sympathy Flower Shop

Funeral Flower Company