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by brandi on April 2nd, 2007

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My ex is in KY and I am in TN.He had not paid support in 10yrs until last year when I took him to court.Now that he is ordered to pay he thinks our son is better off with him.The judge who used to be my exs attny gave just gave him custody.What can I do?

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  • by brandi on April 3rd, 2007

    brandi

    Yes she did give him full custody.My son has been pulled from the only home that he has ever known.He has been removed from all his friends. He is absolutely devastated.If I had known this was going to happen I would have never asked him for the child support.The judge ordered that I pay him $300 a month in child support and they are only subtracting $40 a month from that amount because my ex owes me over $20,000.

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  • by jamamiss on April 2nd, 2007

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    Get a new attorney. Yours screwed up big time.

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  • by kelford10 on April 2nd, 2007

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    Take him back to court...another court. You've had care and control for ten years and he's a dead-beat dad until a year ago when court-ordered to pay support. This doesn't speak well of his abilities to be a custodial parent. Sounds to me like the judge has found the loop-hole to keeping his ex-client from paying support. Surely he didn't give him full custody???

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  • by Anonymous on June 19th, 2007

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    Could this be a conflict of interest on the judge's part? Should he/she had themselves removed from the case?

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  • by JAMMco... its complicated... on April 3rd, 2007

    JAMMco... its complicated...

    I would file for a mistrial or whatever since the judge has a past relationship with the ex. He should have excused himself from this case and given it to an impartial judge in my opinion.

    10 years of no child support is more than enough evidence that he was not interested in being a part of his life.

    Focus on appealing the decision and focus also on all the attempts at communicating with him for the past 10 years that failed.

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  • by brandi on April 3rd, 2007

    brandi

    I really appreciate everyones input. This is by far the most difficult and gutwrenching thing that I have ever been through. I wish I had never asked him to pay child support. When my attorney asked the judge to take into consideration that my ex had not paid child support in 10yrs, the judge stated that that was in the past and he was trying to get caught up. The only reason he is "trying" to get caught up is because the state of KY was garnishing his wages. My son has always gone to the same schools with the same kids, and not only has he been torn from his home but his entire life. He has lost weight and tells me that he doesn't sleep at night. I am not only heartbroken over what has happened, I am worried about my childs well being.

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  • by Singingismystyle on April 3rd, 2007

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    How can a judge just make such a big decision like that so fast. Normally a judge is aware of things that have been going on in the home, and has been updated throughout the years. Also your ex could have been doing things behind your back with the court system, I don't know. Do all you can to get your son back through the court system. Sometimes in can be a short process. Get as much information as you can gathered up. Collect school report cards; letters from siblings and friends and teachers about your parenting; Get copies of you your tax returns that has your son's name on it to; If you've got state benefits, get that paperwork; information from childcare provider.
    There are many different ways that you can fight, but in this case you are definetly going to need an atorney. Be strong, and trust in God in this situation.
    I was in court for 5 yrs. with my ex. They finally had a parenting plan trial in November of 2005, this ended this long battle with my ex. I tell you, God was with me through this all, and I always turned out ok. Some things were hard to bare, but it worked out for my kids, and my good. Do not give up. I have to say that it was my ex taking me to court all the time; lying and so forth. People were always praying for me, but there was always a peace in their hearts that everything was going to be ok. They knew who I was, and what I was all about. Hope this helps.

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