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Sometimes you reach a point in a relationship (not limited to romantic) that you think "what did I get myself into?" When you reach that point, do you back away or go forward and hope things get better? How long do you hang in and keep hoping?

By RosieGHM Jetpacker Asked Nov 7 2009 1:14PM
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by laaayla on Nov 8, 2009 at 11:52 pm Permalink

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If your feeling "what did I get myself into", it's time to be thinking "how do I back out easily". I don't know why we "settle" for relationships that we have to keep hoping will get better, when deep inside we know their not going anywhere. It's time to get out. Now.
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Avatar RosieGHM Jetpacker Nov, 10 2009 at 03:11 AM
When you start to get uneasy because things just don't "feel" right, slowly backing away is what I do. Thank you for your answer laaayla and Happy Tuesday! :)
Avatar laaayla Nov, 10 2009 at 05:26 AM
Happy Tuesday to you too, RosieGHM Jetpacker!
Avatar RosieGHM Jetpacker Nov, 11 2009 at 04:17 AM
Thank you laaayla and Happy Wednesday to you! :)

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by gwh6552 on Nov 8, 2009 at 3:31 pm Permalink

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While I might back away from pursuing a "deep" relationship, I tend to keep moving forward to see if there is anything salvageable in the form of friendship. I'm in one of those now, and I'll have to let you know how long I hang in there.
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Avatar RosieGHM Jetpacker Nov, 10 2009 at 03:15 AM
It's good to feel you've given it your "all" but at some point you have to think of yourself my friend. Good luck. Thank you for your answer and Happy Tuesday gwh! :)
Avatar gwh6552 Nov, 10 2009 at 06:34 PM
Rosie, it's been so long since I've been able to think of myself (and act on those thoughts), that I'm afraid of becoming a total narcissist if I let myself go even a little bit.
Well, that might be a bit of hyperbole, but I do feel that way some times.
Avatar RosieGHM Jetpacker Nov, 11 2009 at 04:17 AM
I don't think one "becomes" a narcissist sweetie. I think you're either borne one or you're not and it's in the DNA from the git-go! :)

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by killdrphil on Nov 7, 2009 at 2:52 pm Permalink

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I like to just be upfront about things. Relationships tend to get worse and worse and more and more complex (not in a good way) when the two people just wait and hope and ride things out. Every relationship where there isn't upfront communication is doomed.

If it's an issue that I just can't deal with (and shouldn't have to deal with) then I will bail. Sometimes it isn't easy to just say bye and bail, but, sometimes it's better not to drag things out.
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Avatar RosieGHM Jetpacker Nov, 10 2009 at 03:14 AM
I agree kdp. You don't want to be hasty but hanging in hoping only delays the inevitable....so sooner is probably wiser than later. Thank you for your answer and Happy Tuesday! :) ((hugs))
Avatar killdrphil Nov, 10 2009 at 10:46 AM
Yes. It's never an easy situation though. It seems.
Happy Tuesday : )
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Avatar RosieGHM Jetpacker Nov, 11 2009 at 04:15 AM
Right. Sadly. Thank you my friend and Happy Wednesday! :) ((hugs))

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by High Shaman on Nov 7, 2009 at 1:27 pm Permalink

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A person who gets into a bad situation/relationship KNOWS it ... then; it is up to THAT person to get OUT of that situation ..

1) They can give like a timeline such as 3 Months for things to get better or LEAVE ... or

2) They can just go ahead and cut their losses and get out of this bad relationship ASAP and begin their new life .. +5
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Avatar RosieGHM Jetpacker Nov, 10 2009 at 03:12 AM
Sooner is probably better than later m'dear. Thank you for your answer HS and Happy Tueday! :)

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by Robert on Nov 7, 2009 at 1:20 pm Permalink

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Gone, no hesitation, in fact in most cases running is a great idea. Hope is a polite word for self induced delusion, not something I do.
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Avatar RosieGHM Jetpacker Nov, 10 2009 at 03:12 AM
I'm a hoper Robert. But at some point hoping becomes delusion and that's when one needs to act on one's own behalf. Thank you for your answer and Happy Tuesday to you! :)


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