Why are good friends so hard to come by?
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Lilkanyevel
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because most people these days are so judgemental and obnoxious, if you do something that is seen as unkool then they'll ditch you because they dont want to be seen as unkool with you. So when you find someone that will stick with you even when your being a total tool the keep em close.
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I think it's because we are too independent of each other. If we needed each other more then I think people would be more inclined to be better friends. We are too self-absorbed and self-centered to make the effort it takes to be a really good friend. When you find someone who is a good friend do what ever it takes to keep them because they are, indeed, rare.
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I think it's the same reason why there's only one person for us (in terms of love/marriage). Friendship and love are not that different, I believe. In friendship, we have to show our love for one another just like in a relationship. In terms of compatibility, nearly the same criteria have to be fulfilled for both. Hasn't anyone else noticed that breaking up a friendship is very similar to breaking up a relationship?
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i think its cause we have all been hurt. remember when you were a little kid everybody was your best friend or your very best friend? but as we got older we lost those people, they moved away, drifted apart, turned on you or whatever, but we got hurt by that loss. same as dating the more times we get our hearts broken the more catious we are the next time. i think as an adult it takes alot more for us to feel fully comfortable with someone else in our lives and to not worry how they are going to hurt us. combined with our busy schedules we just dont get the same opportunity to buld the trust needed for a good friendship. oh to be a kid again!
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I think it's because a lot of people are more introverted, spending more time in their homes on the computer, watching tv or movies and playing videogames. Developing a friendship takes effort, which some don't seem to have time for anymore.
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Not a lot of people really give a damn about other peoples feelings and stay consistant about it.
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Yes, they are few and far apart.
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I find it very hard NOT to find good friends. As long as you are open-minded to being friends with people despite their race, religion, or sexual orientation. Radiate nothing but kindness and just let things develop naturally. People only care as much as you do, maybe not always the same people but someone will. And even then if you think a friend isn't good than maybe you have a few personal problems with forgiveness or understanding others shortcomings.
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It takes one to make friends, but it takes two to make "good" friends.
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You need to define what you think a friend is and then what you think good is. Then we can begin the process of defining what a good friend is. Remember " One mans terrorist is another mans hero. "
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In my opinion, everything that is worthy of being called good is.
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because we fear the unknown
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I have no idea. They are so hard to find...
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because so many people are selfish. they only want, they wont give. a friend i have known for 10 yrs proved this the other day. i rang her in tears needing to chat - her new boyfriend was there, so she cut me short. today, she rang me in tears needing to talk. i gave her an hour of my time. sometimes i wonder why - maybe i'm good friend material, just havent found anyone compatible. u wanna be good friends?
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I think people are afraid to open up, and we let many chances at real friends pass us by.
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because they'd probably hit ypu if you came by them! lol sorry it was a bad joke
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Because most people suck and decieve you in one way or another. I steer clear of friends.
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maybe but u every1 has 2 hav some friends in life yea?
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good friends are the ones you have known for years and are always there for you, friends are ones that come and go
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they are few and far between.
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bottomline _ most people are scumbags......... good people are rare, thats why good friends are rare as well......
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Because we live in an age of individualism, where people decidedly distance themselves from others in order to feel more important. The idiots.
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You try to make them out of bad people.
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Its 2008...everyone is selfish and its hard to find someone that is decent. People only worry about themselves and just like the other answers state, it is very rare to find a good person let alone a good friend. Just trust your gut.
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