How can I make caring, trustworthy friends? I'm in middle school, I have weird intrests, I'm depressed, I'm asocial, shy, and I have social anxiety. I don't care which gender. Thanks!
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Ryanett
ANSWERS: 10
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You have GOT to trust yourself. You're not weird, you're different. Take it from a fella who folded and tried to be one of them: it isn't worth it and you won't be happy. TRUST yourself.
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Join clubs, take up extra activities which involve socialisation, like sports for example. Get involved in youth clubs and community projects. All of these require socialisation. The more of that you can force yourself into, the more people you'll have to meet, the more likely you are to find the kinds of people you're looking for. There's no strict way to find friends which are inherently trustworthy and caring. I suppose you could always find church youth groups, maybe? Might increase your chances a little.
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Making caring, trustworthy friends isn't something done overnight. You need to work on making friends in a continuel process. Sometimes it can take months to make a decent friend. I just have to ask...Why are you selling yourself as having such negative qualities? "I have weird intrests, I'm depressed, I'm asocial, shy, and I have social anxiety". People will want to know that you are a caring, reliable, friendly person before they befriend you. By saying this, you are decreasing your chances of making a friend. What is your definition of "weird interests"? Your interests may not be typical of someone your age, but that doesn't make them weird. After all, you're an individual person and more power to you if you don't conform easily. I can gaurentee you that there is a person out there who is a perfect friend for you. Who shares the same interests. Maybe your depression is putting a stop to your friend-making? Have you gotten it treated? Maybe kids your age do not know how to approach a meloncholy person. But as you get older, you'll come across much more open minded people.
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You may need to learn to take the good with the not-so-good. Gene H. Was right - you're not weird, you're different. But if you like who you are, and it isn't hurting anyone (including yourself), then there is no need to change. That also means you have to accept the consequences. Your behavior may be anti-social in the strictest sense of the word, but itmay also be you being you. There is nothing better than than that! But it also means that others will never take to you like they do some of the other kids in school. This is part of the territory. Decide what you want to do. If this is who you want to be, embrace it. +5
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First thing is lower your guard and expectations of the friendships you seek. Trustworthy should not be a prerequisite, that only comes with time and being yourself so "they" too can trust who you are. Middle school has enormous pressures to fit in. Don't force it, be yourself and do the things *you* like. Believe it or not there are a lot of other kids like you dressed up so they don't stand out. Be patient, you will soon find great lasting friendships.
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First off you have to start by saying nicer things about yourself. And believe it. If you believe in yourself others will too. I read your profile and I dont think you are any different then other 15yr olds. Its a trying time at that age but you'll be ok if you stop saying bad things about yourself and be your own best friend.
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Let's start a bit with the weird interests. Just what is so weird about them first of all?
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Awwwwwwww, I'm sorry to hear you are having a tuff time right now. First of all never talk badly of yourself. The things you like or enjoy may be different than some but that's ok, that's you. Stop telling yourself you are depressed. Everyday is new, different, with surprises. You might meet your new best friend at anytime. Make sure to look your best, this DOES make you feel better. Do your school work, and homework keep your grades up this will help make you feel ALOT better about yourself and it lets people know you care about yourself. Ask questions in class, just simple questions will help with the shyness. Good luck ((HUG))
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You have to be caring and trustworthy yourself. It's easier said than done, especially if your depressed and shy like me. Volunteering is a good start. Even people with weird interests have online communities where they can go and talk about their interests and even make friends. You can be yourself online, noone is judging you. Good luck. And remember...You're worth it.
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ha, in your words i see exaclty something i would have asked when i was in middle school. my old good freind was a girl with a crush on me but it was kinda a bad thing because it was so clear it would never work out. making "trustworthy" freinds is impossible. you make freinds and over time you consider them trustworth. trust is not instant and takes a long time to prove they deserve it. in middle school your choices are limited but in high school this stratagy is more effective: join clubs like science, chess, swimming, whatever your interested in. remember the more advance the club the less people but the more 1 on 1 interaction. if your a goth...jock...other: find others. but the best people to call freind are those different from you. the out-landers...they tend to be creative. you just need to develope a small group that makes no sense...odd-balls...and to find them you will hunt. but the "groups" i was talking about will give you freinds: trustworthy are the smaller group you will develope of your fellow socially inapt.
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