loll..what kind of spanking are we doing here MM? +5

A ping pong paddle.

For an erotic or sensul spanking the one who can get all the juices flowing while giving the spankee thoughts like "More!", "Harder!"... For an adult punishment spanking someone who knows that the spanking isn't over when the kicking or tears start, it just means the spanking is starting to work.

In my case, spanking is "adult erotic" only and given by a woman. She needs to be able to pull my pants down and spank mercilessly. She should not be influenced by my screaming and crying. After the spanking though, she needs to be totally compassionate. Talk to me sexually, rub something soothing on my bare butt, and comfort me. Both personalities are needed to be a good spanker. +5

I'm bi and submissive, and a few of the guys that I fag for are excellent spankers. These are some of the things they do that make them good. First of all, they inform me that I have a spanking headed my way several hours in advance. The anticipation adds to the excitement. They constantly remind me of what's waiting for me. An important part of the spanking for me is the walk to the place where I'm gong to get disciplined. I feel like a prisoner walking to the electric chair. Second is that they tell their friends that I'm going to be spanked, and invite them along to watch. It's a lot more exciting being humiliated in front of an audience. Third is that they act aggressive and assertive and manhandle me, pushing me around, forcibly stripping me, and forcing me into the position they want me in. Fourth is that they are VERY verbal, calling me names and telling me that they are going to hurt me. Fifth is that they humiliate me by spitting in my face. A real humiliating thing they do is make me piss my pants before they strip me and spank me, so that my butt is wet and tender. This is especially effective if they make me do this in front of their friends and before the walk. Sixth is that they make me beg for it by kissing and licking their smelly feet. This is particularly humiliating when their friends are watching and laughing their asses off. Seventh is that they hit to cause a lot of pain, either with the hand, their belt, or a paddle. Eighth is that they pace themselves so that the spanking lasts as long as possible. It's not a good spanking unless you actually hope that it's going to end soon- but it doesn't. Ninth is that they make me blow them and their friends and letting them piss in my mouth to thank them for the spanking, and jerk off in front of them afterwards. But probably the most important is that they spank me for the most trivial reasons, for minor or imaginary violations of their "rules". The arbitrariness of the punishment emphasizes the fact that I am their "property", and that they can do whatever they want with me whenever they want.