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by Tom 47 is back in his bear COAT on November 9th, 2009
I am not sure we do. Men tend to deal with emotions differently than women, tending to internalize them more. I can tell pretty accurately how men in my family are feeling because I know them well. And it is culturally ingrained that men are supposed to be "strong and supportive" in time of sadness and grief.
by MusicalChef on October 7th, 2009
Who says we have an easier time hiding them? Why do you think there are far more men in prison than women?
by M Moon on November 10th, 2009
Frankly, I believe most men are quite easy to 'read,' so one can intuit a 'feeling.'
Mostly, I think that if we women would just shut-up long enough to SENSE what is going on with our men, they would be quite transparent.
Most women are talkers and want to talk endlessly about the multitude of variations 'on a theme.' (We women CAN kick a horse to death -- even after its said 'uncle!') Most men, on the other hand, probably have but ONE 'reason' or 'answer' to share.
[Does this mean if its not the one the woman wants to hear, or he didn't give 'the right one, she'll just pursue ad infinitum until she hears the one she wants to hear)?
Most times men are VERY simple, rational and most do not play games whatsoever.
My advice? 1. Ask without an agenda or a pre-prescribed script (for him) that he should follow! 2. Ask in a tone and during a time where absolutely no drama is going on!
Give what you want to get! BE the person you would want to marry! .
by Hrududu on October 8th, 2009
Completely depends on the person. My dad and brother cry at the sight of a drooping daisy, but myself and my mom won't even cry at a funeral. Depends on how a person was brought up I suppose.
by Aksafari on November 9th, 2009
TESTOSTERONE. It's the ultimate antidote for 'feelings' other than *AAARRRRRGGGGGHHHHH!!!!* *smash*
by Marika1970 on October 8th, 2009
Men have a natural tendency to 'bottle' things up. They are taught to 'suck-it-up' instead of releasing their emotions in a healthy manner. They are taught the crying equates to weakness. Boys are expected to be strong both emotionally and physically. They are told to "be a man!" This is a common cultural norm for our society. Leading men to develop a 'bottle-and-blow' personality. Resulting in explosive behavior. When they 'blow' watch out!
by Mountain Momma on October 7th, 2009
Most women are more emotional & we tend to fall for guys faster than they fall for us.
by RANDOM on October 7th, 2009
yes we tend to bottle up our feelings,i suppose as men we think we have to be strong ,not all and i am a great believer it letting one,s feelings out ,and really one should not be afraid to cry as sometimes holding in certain emotions can be hard on a person.so i think sometimes we just have to let them go .
by warex255 on October 7th, 2009
It's not that it's easier it's more like harder to show how you feel to the person. I might be wron but this is through my experience.
by Sir Mikey phyliss 3rd cousin on October 7th, 2009
I think women are just more emotional than men, in general. We get trained young..
by Anonymous on November 18th, 2009
We don't really. I just think they're not as obvious.
+5
by Jewel on November 18th, 2009
Because their brains aren't soaking in estrogen!
Once a month, against her will, it can become 'normal' for a woman to become a raving, sobbing unhappy ball of emotions.
by MRSHINYSHOES on November 17th, 2009
We're tough and strong that's why.
by Werewolf3 on November 17th, 2009
We have different hormones and testosterone so yeah.. :/ Unless they're gay. :]
by Orangepowder on November 17th, 2009
Not showing feelings takes practice. Many men use sports to alleviate pent up feelings. Try taking a jog every time you think that you are about to get emotional.
by jshm22 on October 20th, 2009
Less hormones
by unknown on October 20th, 2009
It's what they've been brought up to be, it's a societal thing and women were taught to let out their emotions.
by Marky Mark on October 7th, 2009
Years of training and a contempt for histrionics and obtaining an advantage by turning on the waterworks.
by ladyshakespeare on October 7th, 2009
( i wont say it...i wont, i wont......)
cuz they dont have any!!!!!!!
(damn, I said it!)
by the soldger on October 7th, 2009
well women are diffrent they fall in love more quickly there vision of love is very sweet >< but men....like me
we dont feel that way, we dont show it but we are intrested of them girls are nice but its hard to express ir
by Cyanotic Wasp on October 7th, 2009
This is a very broad over-generalization, I think, even if you base it only on a single culture. Across cultures, I've often seen this reversed, in fact. In many (not all, and maybe not even "most") Western cultures, men are trained to keep their emotions under wraps, to some degree. But if you've met many Italian men, then you'll know that's certainly not universal! But even many Western women have learned not to show displeasure, for example, because the repercussions to them can be physically damaging.
by Arithon on October 7th, 2009
Consider the following:
When girls are growing up they get used to having their girl parties where they discuss feelings and other things that are mysterious.
When boys grow up we get used to bragging and trying to show our friends up for status. By the time we meet someone special we are already indoctrinated and it is hard to break us of this.
If you keep at it long enough you will crack him and he will see that it is OK to show feelings. :)
by rose1980 on October 7th, 2009
They are wired differently. They have the feelings, they just don't show it. They keep it inside.
by annabelle on October 8th, 2009
yes
by UneFille on November 9th, 2009
Socialization.
Oh and the fact that their language center is not as genetically developed.
That's life.
by pandora on October 8th, 2009
I don't think it necessarily is easier but rather men are taught from a young age that exposure of emotions allows other men to prey on their weaknesses. Plus society still looks down on men if they seem emotional.
Where as women aren't held to the same standard and aren't judged harshly unless their emotions boarder on the dramatic.
by out4fun on October 8th, 2009
I honestly believe that a fundamental difference between men and women is the way our brain communicates between the left and right hemispheres. Men have a very limited ability while women are plagued with an absolute maze of avenues. We can focus and not become destracted so easily when we feel serious toward something. Its like the only bridge to allow confusion, is being used.
by The Crimson Magician on November 18th, 2009
idk about that... Most guys of my generation let out their feelings out pretty easily. I know very few guys that dont let out their emotions. Then again i hang out with some really nice cool people so maybe im just lookin at this from a one sided perspective...
by Jessica on November 9th, 2009
It's a gift for them!!
by Ray Del Sol on October 8th, 2009
more practice, more testosterone...
When women lose at love do they change their hair, when men lose at love, do they shave or grow facial hair?
by Koz - Passion Perseverance Patience on November 4th, 2011
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Are men technically second class citizens?
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Can a guy be a skank?
by Have A Nice Day on November 6th, 2011
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How come do men never show how much pain their in???
by ❤Crith Angew Mindfweak❤ on November 15th, 2011
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Why are women mroe afraid to cheat on their boyfreinds/husbands than men are to cheat on their girlfriends/wives?
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Yea that is true.
by annabelle on November 9th, 2009
I believe men can be 'socialized' by their female family members to share more without standardization of gender. We've done this in our family and while 'men will be men' all of them
are much more open and sharing than most.
by M Moon on November 18th, 2009
I like ur answer Tom47. It is true that men are raised up/thought to be "strong and suppostive" and i think that a lot of times it comes with pride as well. Some men most of the time have pride in themselfs that if they show their feelings they could be viewed as "sensative or weak"...which i personally dont think thats something wrong. We like to see the sensative side of men also and its nice when they express their feelings because we are able to understand them better.
by Mexican Barbie on November 18th, 2009
i meant to say supportive..i typed the word wrong,my bad
by Mexican Barbie on November 18th, 2009
It can be very taxing, but someone does have to be the "strong one" at times. My oldest brother was the one who took the role after our father's death. The comforting, the funeral arrangements, the insurance and medical paperwork,...all the mundane things that must be done. It was not until after the funeral and he had a chance to let go that he had his own "breakdown". I was with him, alone and away from the rest of the family, and we cried in each other's arms for an hour. This is a career military man and war veteran. Maybe there is a kind of difference in men's make-up that allows them to deal with things like this...at the time.
by Tom 47 is back in his bear COAT on November 18th, 2009
aww im sorry to hear about your father :( and i hope you all over come the pain.
by Mexican Barbie on November 19th, 2009
Thanks. It was several years ago. You never stop missing them, though.
by Tom 47 is back in his bear COAT on November 19th, 2009