1.) You wake up with no fingers 2.)Your girlfriend is a hooker 3.) You are involved with me.

You can just feel somethings are always "just not right". Or if the person is down right mean and nasty, or if you know in your heart that the love is gone. Those are some ways.

Do you feel safe? Loved? Are you being abused emotionally or physically?

Any relationship where abuse is happening is unhealthy. Abuse can come in several forms. The most obvious (and the only one that leaves visible signs) is physical abuse. However, emotional abuse can be as destructive to the mentality of the victim and is often much more subtle. For example, if one or the other partner is constantly criticizing the other, or is trying to have complete control of all aspects of the relationship, or uses fear to get the other partner to comply with his/her wishes, then it is not a healthy relationship. The criticism may not be as dangerous as the other two situations, but it can still be very wearing on the target and can lead to self-confidence issues if the criticisms continue over a long period of time. You will still have disagreements in any relationship, including those that are perfectly healthy. It's how the disagreements are handled that determines whether or not the relationship is healthy. If both partners are willing to do some compromising, it's a healthy relationship. Not every argument in every healthy relationship will have compromise; partners could end up yelling at each other if it's a really heated topic. However, healthy relationships will not solve things violence. If disagreements lead to violence, then that's a warning flag that it's an unhealthy relationship. I haven't even touched on a number of other issues that could flag a relationship has unhealthy, but hopefully this gives you an idea of some of the bigger things to look for.

---------if you get a sick feeling all the time they are there with you and you are trying to get out of seeing them the day they want to come over

How do you feel about yourself? If you feel good about yourself in the relationship, the situation is good. If you feel badly about yourself, change the relationship.

Anytime partners are disrecpected by each other. I have been in one unhealthy relationship, I could not voice my opinion without getting her all bent out of shape, I was disrespected, put down, pushed away... my needs were not being met... you usually know it, but either have a hard time walking away, or hope tomorrow things will get better. I finally walked away and in the process of healing.