My parents always shout/scream at each other, punch , pull hair etc and act like they hate each other.
I am starting to feel a lot of anger and i can get voilent at times.
How can i become less angry when it is what i've been brought up with?
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Depending on your age. If your old enough to move out than move. And seek counseling. If not then talk to your school conselor or an adult you can trust and seek help for your own issues. You can't fix them but you can fix yourself.
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the 1st step is to recognize the behavior, kudos to you, you've done that. The next step is to find a safe environment, I think this is so 'cause I do not know an answer of how to help change your parents behavior. I believe a good option in that category is an after school activity either w/ school or outside, for example the Boys and Girls club, the YMCA. I don't know if you like sports or drama, or what programs are available to you, all are free exept for the Y, maybe a small amount of materials fee. hope you find a safe place.
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Leave home as soon as poss! You wont them and if you dont want to behave in that way stay away from the mirror! doing a positive thing about it will reinforce and promote a better life for you.
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You're 19 enough to understand and takecare of this situations. Did you never ever asked your parents that, what's their problems are? and why they behave like that way? What's the reason to behave like infront of grown up kid? Do you have any grand parents from either sides? If you have, bring them to slove these problems. Or call Steve Wilkos shows to solve your and parents problems? God Bless you.
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I am so sorry. That is really sad. I suggest you remove yourself from the drama @ first scream. Go to your room or go outside or something. Try your best to minimize the drama in your own life/ears. Do not partake.....choose to walk away. You cannot control what happens in your house but you can control what you participate in. YOU choose WHO YOU want to be. I wish you the best Sweetie!
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1: Try to avoid them. This is difficult, since they will either not know you've gone, or they'll file a missing person report. 2: Use your anger constructively. I use my anger to my advantage. As member of high school sports, we have been introduced to the sensation known as "Beast Mode". This is a final push of adrenaline (or the chemical Serotonin) which allows one to enter a trance-like state, similar to rage, which ends only when the deed is accomplished, or the threat neutralized. Until then, your body will feel ultra-strong, but you will get a massive headache afterward. Try using "Beast Mode" for everyday tasks, such as lifting heavy objects. Just concentrate your anger into strength. You'll be surprised. 3. Work out your anger. Relieve stress by doing what you love, knowing that you'll move out of their house sooner or later. I'm a free-runner, and doing that greatly reduces my stress levels.
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I highly recommend you do NOT involve yourself in your parents' altercations. Instead, concentrate on your own behavior. Some anger management courses might help, and I know that meditation can help. You need to gain control over your own anger, and soon.
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So like you said first step, cut out the drinking, you know it causes you to be violent. Next go see a doctor for a professional opinion. You may need counseling to help you with you home life issues and your own anger issues. Personally I use to go into uncontrollable rages for no real reason. I have a chemical imbalance. My brain does not absorb those "feel good" endorphins very well. Once I went on a mood stabilizer I was able to control my emotions instead of them controlling me. My doctor said they should not alter your personality except to help you control your emotions. I didn't even know if they were working until one day I said to my husband when he upset me "I am upset, lets talk about this" He stared at me and said "The pills are working". Both men and women can have imbalances. It can also be hereditary. My mother has the same problem. But it was not diagnosed until later on in life. If this is the case with you, you may still need counseling to deal with past and present issues.
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