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  • To get someone to be open you must be welling to be open yourself. You can't expect something and give nothing. It's like asking someone to trust you but watching every move they make as though they were just paroled. If someone is looking for a serious relationship they aren't going to want someone that is shut off and closed up in a box to avoid being hurt. All life is a gamble....you must play to win and you can't win them all. Sometimes we must feel pain to truly know and enjoy pleasure.
  • Letting people in is difficult. Especially if someone we trusted and opened ourselves up to hurt us badly. It's easier to push people away and say "see I told you I was unapproachable and unlovable". Or "If I love or care for you I might lose you too" The barrier is high because we need it to be. It protects us from being hurt, but it also keeps us from the love and healing that we need. When your ready, the barrier will come down enough to let someone in.

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