Would you ever become a surrogate mother for a friend/family member? Why or Why not? What if they were a gay couple... Would that change your answer?

No, I get too attached too easily. I can't even give away a turtle.

Absolutely. If I was in good health, and in the right position mentally and emotionally to be a surrogate mother for someone, then I would see it as a great priviledge and a definite honour.

I would absolutely be a surrogate mother for a gay couple. Just as I would with any other couple, I would need to know that they were going to be two loving parents and partners, who would be the best parents they could be to their child and that they would offer it the best possible life.

If I had the honour of being asked to help a couple have a child that would normally be unable to, I would definitely say yes.

There are a lot of things to think about before making that decision. I've heard of a lot of situations where the surrogate decides she wants to keep the baby because she's formed a bond with it during the pregnancy. I guess you never know until you're in the situation. Personally, I think children are gifts and if I can help give that gift to someone who can't do it on their own, I would definitely do it!

No. I have been through 3 pregnancies and births and don't care to do it ever again. Sorry they are unable to have one themselves, but I'm not going through that again for ANYBODY!! Not even my own daughter!!!

G'day Funsince1982,

Thank you for your question.

As a man, I would support my wife or partner in any decision that she made about this issue. Generally speaking, the person would have to be a close friend or family member for someone to go through a nine month pregnancy and giving birth to a child. It wouldn't matter to me if it was a gay couple but it wouldn't be me who was giving birth.

Regards

i would not because i can't carry to term. if i could i don't know if i could deal with giving the baby away. the sexual prefence of the parents would not matter.

i THinK THAT iF THEY WERE A GAY COUPLE THEY COULD ALWAYS ADOPT. WOMAN GET ATTACHED TO EASiLY TO A BABY. i MEAN COME ON THEY CARRY THEM 4 9 MONTHS.THEY LEARN THiNGS ABOUT THE BABY. iT WOULD BE TOO HARD FOR ME. i'D LOVE 2 BUT THE ATTACHMENT iSSUE iS TOO STRONG

I wouldn't do it. I had a horrible pregnancy and do not want to go through that and then have to give the baby away. I just couldn't do it.

I have thought about this in the past, and I would certainly do it for my sister - that's certain.

As far as for other people, I can't. Because of the complications I had with my son's delivery, no surrogacy agency will accept me as a surrogate. In a perfect world, I'd be more than happy to be a surrogate, but things just didn't work out that way.

yes i would. my cousin is desperate for a baby of her own. she cannot have babies and i have been blessed with 2 wonderful very smart kids who have never given me any trouble (my eldest is 19 im a very young mum). i hav spoke to my cousin about this and she would love me to do it for her and her husband. i do not want aymore kids so my husband opted for a vasectomey 11 years ago.

i am looking into being a surrogate for my best mate and her husband i am only 23 and have 2 kids of my own and she cant seem to carry she gets to like 8 weeks and then loses the baby, i have said i wud do it for her ever since i had my first child, and now she has asked me i am scared i will get attached to the unborn baby. now i have been asked to do it i am in two minds if i shud or not i wud love to help her out but then idont want to gothru te hurt and pain of handing the baby over. please help me make my mind up and suggestions are welcome

my best friend of 14 years recently asked me to be a surrogate for her. i said yes. i assumed she meant she wanted me to carry her and her husband's baby for them. i was wrong. she wants my boyfriend of 4 years and i to have our own baby and give it to them! we have a son who is 10 months, and she said our genes mix great. (they do!) i was flattered, but i told her there was no way i could give my own baby up. that's not being a surrogate, that's just giving your own baby away! so yes, i would be a surrogate, but not with my own eggs.

I'm considering becoming a surrogate for a couple that are good friends with my husband and me. They are sweet, loving, honest hard working people who have had miscarriages and now are unable to conceive. They are the only ones in my life that I have had this feeling about. I had 2 healthy pregnancies and natural deliveries (9#9oz and 9#7oz boys) and I have 3 older step-children. I'm over the desire to raise another child (enjoying the step-grandchildren though) (BTW I'm 43). I'm starting to research this issue because I think it could be such on overwhelming honor for me to give this gift to such deserving people. I have a fantastic marriage and my husband is supportive of me. We both believe we would think of the baby as theirs, not ours, but we're just "babysitting" for 9 months.
Their sexual orientation wouldn't matter to me (however they are heterosexual).

No I couldnt do that, I am 47 now and did not like being pregnant with my own child, besides I had complications that would probably reappear.

Yes I would become a surrogate for friends and/or family. Loads of people in the world have various reasons why they cant have children and to help someone who wants a child but cant for me would be grait i mean id be happy to help. It would even mean alot to me, family, friends or not and id still do it for a gay/lesbian couple. That wouldnt change my veiws in the slightest. They are still a normal couple who want to be happy and have children.

Being gay would not change my thoughts on it. And I'd really hope either couple could find a person willing to do that, however, I would not.

At least not unless I've had my own kids. Which I haven't now and do not know if I ever will. I think I'd save the first time giving birth to that of my own children so I know how it feels, and what are the changes etc.

If I ever have children my opinion may change. Because then, it will not be new to my body. Of course, it could only further the no if I did not enjoy the experience of child birth.

In any case, now, the answer would no. But I would wish them luck.

yes, I would definitely do it, especially if the other couple is infertile or gay...helping them fulfill theire dream would be my honor...I would be flattered if I were asked to do it.

I have thought about this as my partners' sister is having the same trouble i would love to do t for her but again i don't know how i would feel about it when the baby comes! a lovely thought but seeing as i have no children i don't think i could, whether for a gay couple or not if i could i would :)

I actually AM acting as a surrogate for a gay couple (two men). After having tried to go through this with a straight, married couple, I have decided that I won't go that route. A woman that cannot have a baby on her own can really become quite desperate in her desire to have a baby, and can really become very bitter towards the surrogate, because she (the surrogate) can carry her husbands baby, when she (the wife), cannot.

There are 2 differernt kinds of surrogacy, with the most common being gestational surrogacy (GS) - created embryos are implated into the surrogate, and the baby is NOT related to her. The other kind of surrogacy is traditional surrogacy (TS) - the surrogate becomes pregnant via artificial insemination with the intended father's sperm. I would say that 90% of surrogacies today are GS, so that the child being carried is NOT biologically related to the woman carrying it.

Surrogacy is NOT for every woman, just as it's not the right path for everyone looking to become parents in a non-tradtional way (IE not carrying their own child). If you are asked this question, and you say "No way !" or "I don't think I could," then the odds are very, very good that you'd never be able to go through with it. It's pretty much as simple as that.

I do want to address the issue of people thinking it's common for a surrogate to try to keep the baby she's carrying. Now, think about it this way - all we hear about in the news is bad stuff - but we KNOW there is a lot of good stuff going on in the world - it's just not "very good news." Less than 0.01% of all surrogacies ever in the US have resulted in a surrogate attempting to keep the baby (or babies) - just a handful of cases. And in none of the cases did the surrogate have any legal right to the child, and the child went to it's "real" parents.

But you only hear the worst parts of the stories, when really, it's a wonderful gift. If you are a parent, you can probably understand - those moments, when you're kids are behaving well, being a lot of fun, and you think "Gosh, I am so lucky !" Just imagine being able to give THAT feeling to someone who thought they would never be able to have children. It's amazing, and I feel blessed to be able to do it. And I'm also making 2 women very happy to become first time grandmothers !

After high school a gay friend asked me that question. I said yes but he would have to be at a point in his life where I thought he would be able to handle it (good job, and decent home life, etc.). I got married and got pregnant with our child before my friend ever got to that point and with my actual pregnancy and the birth of my child I realized I'd never be able to do it. I love my friend, but the thought of giving up a baby I had delivered just kills me.

NO. A husband of a woman whose grandmother I took care of (nurse here) had the nerve to ask me if I'd do that for his wife! What? I just work here? He wasn't even willing to pay me. JERK NO I wouldn't go through that for anyone. Do you realize what you have to do to yourself>???It is a great health risk. Let them adopt the world is full of kids who need homes.

If I'm able to deliver a baby, i would definitely help.
For the gay couple , may be yes maybe not.. it's not an easy to answer because he is my brother.

That would be difficult.

I would love to be able to help my gay friends have a child or children of their own. We all love each other, and they asked me if I would ever consider helping them and I said of course. We'd end up using their sperm and my eggs, so the child(ren) will be half me.

Surogate mum never can be like real mum,but the reason is justifide!

The contracts are not being upheld in a number of state courts now, and have actually been outlawed in at least one state. Also, more and more cases of the woman wanting to keep the baby are being decided in the mother's favor, or allowing the mother to at least maintain parental rights with shared legal custody. I would not enter into such a contract.