Yes! The sex in it is fantasy but sadly some men learn to have sex by watching porn. So they really end up being hopeless in bed. Porn is no place to learn to be a red hot lover - just a so so ho hum kind of guy. There are no sexual secrets in porn just flesh, bumpin' and grindin'. Some guys really need to feel really special because they have low self esteem and porn kind of helps them to feel special because the actresses play the part of worshiping the guy. Also porn is performance sexuality - the women are not really being authentically sexual. So if a guy watches porn he will think he understands womens sexuality but he will be ignorant. You can't learn from an illusion.

Oh and I also forgot to mention the contrast effect. This is a psychological process all humans possess. When we look at something we compare it against things we have seen like it. Studies have shown men and women rate their partners attractiveness differently dependent on whether they have recently seen an ugly, average or really attractive image. If you want a satisfying sex life and to still find your partner or real men and women attractive porn will NOT help you achieve this. It is a fast track to being disappointed with what is available and never being able to obtain the illusion (the sub conscience can't really tell what is fake or not and so you can kind of start thinking hot chicks / dudes want you when they don't :)).But if you are pretty much into yourself it should suit you pretty fine. Put this way, it's a bit like junk food. Fun I guess but it will make you a fat lazy ass if you have too much.

I have been married for 30 yrs and my husband always watched porn but he has been on disability for the last 20 yrs and now he watches it constantly. He will even have it on when he is doing other things.. just as backround noise. He will always put on cable channels like Sundance and IFC because they might show something suggestive. Any time he talks about a movie the only parts he talks about are the sexual situations. I beleive it is skewing his thinking. He is always pressuring me into doing the "things" that are degrading or painful. He thinks there is something wrong with me because "the women in the movies love it" he has even told me he thinks I'm lying about the physical discomfort of some things he wants me to do just so I can get out of it. 20 something years ago I use to be interested in trying different things. He also has a twisted impression of the past, saying how much I use to be into it and doesn't understand why I'm not anymore. He fantasises constantly when we're in bed. The things he talks about are straight out of the porno he watches. In the last 30 yrs certain sex acts have become common place. Things like asphixiation, gagging and the ever present anal give the impression that your average woman is totally ok with the things men do to women in pornos. He knows which things bother me and what I really don't want to do and those are the things he keeps presurring me to do. I think that fantasy is unattainable. Each time the fantasy goes further and further because right around the corner will be the best orgasam ever but you never get there. He says he would do anything I ever wanted him to do to me sexually. That really loving someone means you should do anything to give that person pleasure. I feel that if you really loved someone you wouldn't pressure them into doing something they morally object to. He once told me that the first time he saw a porno scene where a woman urinated on her partner he thought.. "Now that is what real love is." I guess I'm kinda lucky though... He is legally blind and does not use a computer so no internet porn on my pc. He is very angry that I won't help him find it on the internet and beleives he is missing out on seeing things that "everyone" else is getting to see. Don't know how much longer I can deal with his perception of the way people really are.