Uuh, really? Have you said "Fuck me like the bad girl that I am?" Just ask him. "I want you to really pound me" should also work. ;)

I'm a submissive masochistic bi guy who loves to be raped hard and silly, so I have been in your situation a lot. A lot of guys feel guilty about expressing aggression during sex. You have to sit down with them and explain that this is totally normal, and also that you get enormous pleasure out of it, too. Tell him about your fantasies in great detail, so that he clearly knows what you expect from him. He'll generally feel most guilty immediately after sex, so counteract this as quickly as possible by thanking him profusely and stroking his ego. A good technique is to pick up the phone, call a friend, and give a glowing review of the sex you just have had while he listens. It's an incredible ego boost for a guy. Constantly tell him during the day what an incredible stud he is, and that you can't wait until he takes you again. Call him a stud and brag about him in front of his friends, too. Guys will kill for that. If you're thinking of BDSM rough, training a dom is pretty straightforward. There is a lot of good advice on the Don/sub Friends website: http://www.domsubfriends.com/library/bd-v-ab.shtml http://www.domsubfriends.com/library/artofsm.shtml http://www.domsubfriends.com/cgi-local/wwwdir/db.cgi?db=rescat&uid=default&category=*&view_records=View+Records&dc=3 Wish you both a lot of luck and happiness!