Parents refuse to let their "normal" 15 year daughter attend a funeral service/viewing of family because she isn't ready to face the negatives of the world. What are your thoughts on this? ii mean it is someone who ii love verrryy much!!
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ikimmy
ANSWERS: 8
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damn shes gotta be exposed eventually,why not now when there are more things to distract her,than later when she wont wont know how to take it...no more sheltering...
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They're sheltering her to an extreme. She will have to face the negatives of the world at some point, and it's not like their sheltering her from the reality of death, only from looking at it in the face. Their doing more harm then good.
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At 15 she should be allowed to attend if she wants to. It can be even more distressing knowing she never had the opportunity to pay her final respects. Not only that but when do they intend to let her "face the negatives of the world"? It's not a good thing to be overprotective and then she has to face the world - with all its positives and negatives - unprepared.
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If you are the 15 year old then just go without making any scene. Just show up. Be sure not to make a scene and spoil what should be a quiet, serious event. Perhaps you might come in just as the service is beginning and sit in the back row. . If the 15 year old is not you then just stay with her, comfort her, but don't advise her to disobey her parents.
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She will legally be an adult in only three short years. Death is a part of life. She will have to face it sooner or later. Having said that, her parents are in charge of her still. They know their daughter best. They should know if she is ready or not for this. For what it is worth, I think she is ready. Good luck with the decision. I am sorry about your loss. +5
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If she attends school and I'm assuming she's in high school. She has already faced the negatives of the world. If she watches TV she has already faced the negatives of the world. The parents need to wake up and smell the coffee its brewing. She's old enough to face the negatives of the world they just need to be there to talk with her about them and help her through them.
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15? GEEZE! I was six (and my brother was 4) when my grandfather died (and we went to his funeral). I was seven (and my brother 5) when my great-grandmother's sister died (and we went to that). My kids were 8 and 9 when their grandfather died, and they went there, and they were 16 and 17 when one of their favorite aunts and a great-grandmother died, and they went. People die every day. Unless she doesn't watch TV, read the paper, or connect to the internet, she's seen it on the news and in TV shows. Besides, in three years she'll be 18, and off on her own. Wouldn't it be better for her to "face the negatives of the world" with them around than on her own, and possibly alone? She's got to grow up sometime! She should be able to do it with people around to explain things, than on her own, when she may just be confused about them. All that said, if the parents forbid it, there's not much you (or she) can do about it. Going may infuriate them.
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She is more than ready and there is no reason she shouldn't be able to go.
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