What do you do when your love for your spouse grows cold? You still love them but you don't feel it much. How can you correct this unfortunate situation?
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ANSWERS: 10
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Good question. You should really stop and evaluate the situation. Why is this the case? Why is your marriage loveless? A good book to read on the subject is "Love Dare" written by Alex and Stephen Kendrick. Also watch the movie "Fireproof". I am not a Christian, but I sure learned a lot from that movie. It gives you guidance on how to get a rocky relationship or marriage back on track. Will you read this book and/or watch the movie? Take Care!
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try counsel if the desire to fix the problem is there. when you reach this point, it is usually caused by something that had an impact on the relationship....maybe, trust or fidelity issues, financial, or children. The want and need must be present in order for any repairs to be made.
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All relationships have their ups and downs, highs and lows. I've found that when my husband & I get in a funk, we'll shake things up a bit. Like getting my mom to watch the kid for a couple days and we'll take off for the weekend. Or we might do a day trip somewhere we've never been before. Sometimes a break in the daily grind and routine can help. It will give you a chance to reconnect.
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Think back to the begining, remeber all the little things they loved to do or hear or receive, also building new memories together can strengthen any relationship. Go on a road trip to somewhere she would love to go, Take her to surprise concert of her favourite band. Do Something she would for sure love, even if it goes against your grain.
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This is my opinion. I don't expect everyone to agree. I don't think true love can grow cold. If you don't love someone now, you never did. You may have felt a self-serving attraction, but that's not love.
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I think that loving is a decision. Looking inward at what is going on may help. Also communicating with the spouse with the cold feelings, not as a put-down, but more as a brainstorming session what has been going on since you began feeling this way. If she is willing, and loving, a solution may resolve the whole problems. Good Luck. +5
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love is like a plant... you can nurture it, neglect it or attempt to kill it. if it is not flurishing it is because you are not nurishing it. I simply do not let my love die.
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ease off on spent on your hobbies, the internet for one, this site for one as it is a big relationship buster. people would rather be here giving points away and getting imaginary pats on the back for being nice, than to spend time with a real person going for a walk just to smell the flowers. you need to give them more , lots more of your time. be together, do stuff together. not too much time, as your spouse is in their own groove as well. soon it is more of just checking in with each other, a lunch out, or breakfast out, or just to discuss current events.
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Run off with the neighbor
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Order a copy of the book called "The Love Dare". I promise this book won't let you down. I don't want to give too much away, but the movie "Fireproof" is based on it.
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