If you new your friend was having an affair, (being used) would you tell the spouse of the one your friend was cheating with?
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knew or new? I don't think I'd tell their spouse
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only if i (myself) am having an affair with the spouse.(:O
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i'd stay out of it. its not my business.
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i would be scared to say anything .. i try to stay away from drama
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No,I wouldn't.
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Probably not because how likely is it that I would even know the spouse. I could do more good by helping my friend understand the hurt that is being caused. +4
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Why do people always feel its their responsibility to butt into other peoples business. Its not your place to say anything.
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Nope I wouldn't... I don't condone cheating, I don't condone my new friend being used, but it is not my place to tell the spouse. I won't meddle in others' relationships. I would speak to my friend and share my concerns and encourage her to see sense herself, but I wouldn't take matters into my own hands.
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If i cared alot for that person that was being cheated on yes i would.and only if my telling them would save them alot of pain in the future. +5
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NOT SAYING ANYTHING IS WHAT PROMOTES MORE OF IT TO OCCUR AND A CONTINUATION OF SAID ACTS. AND YES IT MAY CAUSE SOME PAIN AND GREIF TO START WITH BUT WHAT ABOUT LONG RANGE PAIN AND GREIF IF NOT TOLD ABOUT IT. ESPECIALLY IF TYOUR FREIND FINDS OUT YOU KNEW ABOUT IT ALL ALONG AND NEVER SAISD ANYTHING. IF YOUR FREIND WAS DOING SOMETHING THAT COULD KILL HIM I'M SURE YOU WOULDN'T SAY ITS MNONE OF YOUR BUSNISS WOULD YOU. YOU'S AT LEAST EXPRESS CPONCERN ABOUT IT. SO IF SOMEONE IS BEING CHEATED ON AND THIS PERSON IS YOUR FREIND SUDDENLY YOUR CONCERN FOR THAT FREIND DROPS TO ZERO. DOESN'T SOUND LIKE YOUR VERY MUCH OIF A FREIND. FLIPPER66
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NOT SAYING ANYTHING IS WHAT PROMOTES MORE OF IT TO OCCUR AND A CONTINUATION OF SAID ACTS. AND YES IT MAY CAUSE SOME PAIN AND GREIF TO START WITH BUT WHAT ABOUT LONG RANGE PAIN AND GREIF IF NOT TOLD ABOUT IT. ESPECIALLY IF TYOUR FREIND FINDS OUT YOU KNEW ABOUT IT ALL ALONG AND NEVER SAISD ANYTHING. IF YOUR FREIND WAS DOING SOMETHING THAT COULD KILL HIM I'M SURE YOU WOULDN'T SAY ITS MNONE OF YOUR BUSNISS WOULD YOU. YOU'S AT LEAST EXPRESS CPONCERN ABOUT IT. SO IF SOMEONE IS BEING CHEATED ON AND THIS PERSON IS YOUR FREIND SUDDENLY YOUR CONCERN FOR THAT FREIND DROPS TO ZERO. DOESN'T SOUND LIKE YOUR VERY MUCH OIF A FREIND. FLIPPER66
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it's wrong and should not be condoned. i don't think i'd want to tell the spouse. i'd take out a personals ad in the newspaper that says, "congratulations john and sue, love wilma" if john and sue are cheating together and wilma is the spouse of the cheater. i'd send wilma an envelope saying, "see personal ad". i'd lose my friend but she'd either win him or, more likely, not.
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No, I wouldn't associate with them anymore.
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no...for one thing it's none of my business...and for another maybe his wife knows, doesn't care but doesn't want to think others know.
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It wouldn't really be any of my business at first. I would tell the friend and warn them that I might let the other person know if it doesn't stop. Then I would probably tell them.
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