I'm a 14 year old girl, but I've only ever been into older guys. Like men in their twenties. Thoughts as to why this may be and how I can find love when I'm like 16?
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4yearsaway
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Hehehe you aren't going to give up until someone tells you Prince Charming will come and sweep you off your feet and take you to the royal ball for your sweet sixteen, are you?
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By the end of the day you will have changed your mind about 15 things, some of them more than once. You'll change your mind about guys and girls so many times by this Christmas, you won't even recognize then how you feel about them now. So relax. And just be into what you're into and go with it.
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*sigh* Because all 14 year old girls like older men. All of them. We all pined over older hotties we couldn't have. And stop obsessing over love. I know it's difficult, but you WILL NOT FIND LOVE BY 16, I promise you. 16 year olds are selfish teenagers who just want to have fun, not have long lasting meaningful relationships. Have your fun while you can and don't worry about finding love. It will find you when you're mature and ready for it.
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what is wrong with these guys that they can't get one of their peers? they have to resort to using little girls...disgusting. if they are over 21, they are breaking the law in my state and would end up on the sex offenders registry for the rest of their lives. finding love when you are 16? you'll be used by then at this rate...
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It may be because you're getting played by predators. Have a nice life.
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It means you dont have a good relationship with your father. Improve your Father friendship, and you will see that someone just a little older is better for you than someone one who will use you.
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Realistically, I don't think there's anything wrong with you, because I don't think it's that uncommon for young girls to pine over older men; a lot of adolescent girls have the tendency to want a daddy figure, so to speak; a strong, older man who can teach them, and who they can look up to. Psychologically, it could indicate childhood trauma, or a lacking relationship with your father, but that's a generalization and I HATE to make those. I wouldn't worry too much about it. But I do recommend dating boys your age, because, depending upon the age of consent in your area, you could get someone in a LOT of trouble for dating them. Wait until you're 18 to explore your attractions to older men.
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I'm the same as you. Teenage boys made me sick when I was teenager (they still do), and there was only ONE boy my age I could stand to be around in even a friend way. (although I still couldn't fathom being with him sexually). I found myself lusting after men in their 20's. You are just wired towards older men, like I am. Most adolescent girls are attracted to adult guys. Nothing wrong with that. As to finding love. Well, I solved that problem because I am bisexual and COULD stand to be around GIRLS my age. My first serious emotional relationship was with another girl. Unless you are into both as well, I don't know what to tell you. Maybe just hold out, and you may find a teenage guy you like. I never did, but it may happen.
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It's pretty common. If you were into men in their 50's perhaps then there is likely to be an unusual reason to be found. When I was your age I was into older women. I always wanted to be seduced by someone in their 30's or 40's. I was so worried, because once I met a women who must have been in her late 50's and I still felt this enormous attraction (I was 16 at the time). That is probably more unusual and my friends thought I was sick lol. Mind you I liked everything in between too ;-) You are perfectly healthy (that's the main thing :-)
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slow down girl before you end up pregnant or with an std.
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You are way too young to be worried about this. You are interested in older men because boys your age....are boys! You will find true love when you find it- don't rush it!
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Just watch out for STDs, pregnancy and psychos. Else do what You feel. Until You get 20, You'll change Your mind 20 million times on every subject.
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