Some dont. But I think that most women are in denial that they have these fantasies and they think they are "bad" or "sick" for having them so they try and deny it or ignore it. They dont know how to react to men being so open about them.

Perhaps it is because in general, most women's exposure to and ideas of what "men's sexual fantasies" are has been left primarily to be expressed to them within the narrow parameters and context of pornography. When porn is portrayed or promoted as being the "embodiment" of mens sexual fantasies many women find it difficult to accept them because as portrayed by porn, men's sexual fantasies seem to involve women being striped of having any worth or value other than that of a mindless "object" whose only function is to be "used" for the explicit purpose of male sexual gratification. Men's sexual fantasies as expressed within the shallow context of porn tends to track along the following themes: The woman or girl is already powerless or lacking in experience making her the perfect blank slate to be bent to the will of the male. As she has no power, she has no will or viable experience from which accept or object to the acts being performed. Further as the girl or woman placed within this scenario hasn't any experience they haven't any expectations therefore a mans actual sexual abilities are never measured or compared to anyones but his own be it good or bad. The male is completely in control of her "sexual education" as it were and therefore what is considered to be sexually acceptable or desirable... the acts the male fantasizes about, no matter what they are, or how he performs become the accepted norm. A woman has some measure of identity, power or will but is stripped of this and subverted to the sexual proclivities of the male. The male is "proven" to be the dominant of the species, as thru his supposed sexual prowess the male was able to take away the woman's power or will and force her into accepting or having to accept the acts the male fantasizes about. Often it is portrayed that thru this act of stripping the woman of her identity and power the male has "made the woman either accept or admit to "what the woman supposedly wanted in the first place". The process of taking away the woman's power and identity allows men to objectify women, removing them from having to be seen as viable complete human beings and in doing so allows the man to free himself from having to worry about or feel guilty about having degraded or harmed "anyone" via his sexual fantasies. These themes are the unfortunate portrayal of "mens fantasies", according to porn. As stated previously porn is the predominant medium for expressing male fantasies... as such porn is the only exposure that many women have as to what mens fantasies are... Yes women do fantasize as well but for the "majority" of women (not all of them) in their minds these fantasies do not usually involve the "act" of stripping away the power or the identity of the male persona of their fantasies. More often women frame their fantasies within the context of seducing the intact male persona into willingly performing the desired sexual acts. The end result of "most" female fantasies is often to leave the males in their fantasies seduced yes, and quite often very naughtily even nastily. But the male persona instead of being broken and objectified is enriched, satisfied, and still intact as a human being. Take, subvert, or seduced, left intact...a question of intent... I am not an anti porn person, far from it... it can be fun, even add a bit of spice when things get dull. But it cannot be left to stand as the only measure of either a man or a woman's sexual fantasies, it is far to shallow of a portrait of either. It is unfortunate that mens sexual fantasies or at least many women's concepts of them has been left to be primarily expressed via porn. It paints men as shallow, self serving, insecure and only able to attain sexual gratification thru the demeaning of another. When in reality that is not the case. At the end of the day if you want your partner to embrace and participate joyfully in your sexual fantasies then you need to: A) Find the right partner. B) Use your own loving and caring voice to express them with... don't leave it to porn. C) Be willing to give and take with respect and value to both sides of the matter male and female.

The point has been missed. Unfortunately pornography has been for many years (far more years than for women) the predominant vehicle for expressing male fantasies. As the result of this many women are turned off to mens or their partners fantasies and complain about either being degrading in their nature because all they have ever been exposed to is the pornographic representation/expression of it. Unless a woman has a natural proclivity towards the type of behavior shown in porn she would, more times than not, find the behavior or themes to be rather negative or degrading and so would complain or comment on the degrading nature of it and be less likely to be either understanding about or actually participate in it... if that is all she had to go on. Pornography is just a snapshot specifically designed for individuals who are drawn to that particular activity . So we agree that it is made for people who have a proclivity towards the behavior shown-male and female. When a person (male or female) or couple is drawn to that type of behavior then there is no problem or complaint. The point was that yes porn sites are out there male and female... however we, but particularly men, cannot rely within the context of a partnership or a relationship on porn to remain as the primary expression of their fantasies to their partners. They need to discuss their needs with their partners from a more personal perspective. It's a matter of how we are wired biologically men are "primarily" visual, women are "primarily" emotional... but to every rule an exception. And yes there are porn sites for women and these things/themes are shown on them as well. In fact many of the photos sets that are on the women's sites are also available on, or originated, from the male sites - so what dose that say? As for female sites ever notice that women's sites are predominantly pay sites, compared to the number of "free material" male sites? There are several good and even some very talented female directors and photographers in the porn industry whose movies and photo sets I like. So the caps were not necessary - thanks. I am rather pro porn and porn savvy and do believe that it can be a "part of" a well rounded and wonderful sex life. Men and women need to discuss their needs if they want their partners to be accepting and understanding of them.

zrblue-Women and men are more alike than not. Women are just as visual as men. We need the visuals too and recent studies proved this.We need the visuals to get aroused and masturbate. Years ago we weren't allowed to see nude men or masturbate! Studies of years ago have no weight because women had to hide their true self[they weren't equal and free like now]. The success of womens porn sites proves we are visual. In fact we are more visual!!

One could look at it that way certainly. All humans respond to visual stimuli we are predominately a visual based sensory in put animal-lets say versus dogs who are primarily sent based- though we do incorporate our all of other senses as well. Studies have also been done recently to indicate that yes while women respond physically to erotic even hardcore visual stimuli and in fact were more open and direct in their observations about it then the men who were involved in the same study. When it came down to being open to or comfortable with the suggestion of preforming various acts the women in the study who were in a secure well founded relationship where more open to the suggested activities than were the women who were not. I tend to think of myself as a humanist neither pro male or female and I agree we are more alike than not but each side of the human equation has (if you will) particular societal pressures placed upon them to be or act in a particular way and to view certain things in a particular way. Many people are never able to free themselves of these societal bonds and do rely upon societies views to formulate their opinions be it good, bad or indifferent. We can only hope that many of the views surrounding sex etc. will change as people come around to admitting and discussing their needs. Until such a time complaints will be made frankly by both sides. I for one do not need the visuals to either get aroused or stimulated they are simply a bit of variety added into the overall mix from time to time. I tend to find my own imagination and my lovers far superior to porn for getting things going - but hey that's just me and we each have our own thing. Too I am lucky enough to be in a relationship where neither of us is shy about expressing our fantasies and needs to each other! That may be due to viewing each others realities and needs as being important and viable.

Thanks, nice chatting with you about this.

I'm female and I have no complaints so long as my husbands fantasies are with me and me alone. Now if its from another guy with me then thats just creepy.