ANSWERS: 52
  • No, I'm afraid not. However, my feeling is that having 100% trust in anyone is ill advised.
  • Yes, you can. I have and I know of others who have. It takes a while.. but if there are strong feelings between the two of you (not necessarily romantic) .. you can build things back up and to be honest.. they can become stronger than before. They say that we hurt the ones we love and this is so true.. because we open ourselves up so much in our feelings for them.. it makes us vulnerable.. so when they hurt us.. it is amplified in comparison to someone hurting us that we do not feel as strongly about. A situation with someone I had known for years occured that brought terrible pain to the friendship. We forgave each other because we loved each other and that meant more than holding on to the hurt. It hurt like you would not believe.. and it took time .. but you can "feel" the true people in your life and bad judgement happens to us all .. making mistakes and hurting others is something I believe all of us to have done at LEAST once in our lives.. You cannot sit around waiting for the next time they do something to hurt you.. it is not fair to the friendship/relationship .. and it will prevent you from becoming close again.. you have to give it a chance to grow back up.. without resentment and work on trusting again.. NOT work on distrusting. How you feel about them plays a big part in it. My friend and I are still friends.. seventeen years to be exact .. and nothing like that has happened again. You have to see the person for who they really are with your eyes and heart .. and feel if they care about you in return as you do them.. to know if they feel as strongly as you in keeping the friendship/relationship.
  • It depends on the person who has lost the trust, as well as the person who has broken the trust. Some people simply can never regain 100% trust in someone that has hurt them and some can. Either way the healing and proving process takes quite a long time and I am not certain that things will ever be the same as they were before the trust was broken, even if the trust has been restored.
  • Might be IF the two of you have honest communication and perhaps get couples counseling.
  • Simply,... nope, it's never gonna be 100%, it might get close thought if they really try...
  • I have to say No - It will alway's be in the back of your mind
  • It's relative. The closer that person get to repeating the previous violation, the less trust their partner will feel.
  • NO. Once bitten twice 'piss off , you ain't no friend of mine' shy.
  • It is possible, but It may be one of the hardest things you do.
  • No, you can never regain trust in someone 100% when that person has let you down. You may be able to have trust in that person in particular areas but that person has already taught you "do not trust me." Listen to what their actions say, not what comes out of their mouth. Don't feel sorry for the person because of whatever extenuating or mitigating circumstances they use for their excuse. Honesty, trust, loyality and devotion are the MOST important factors to our existence.
  • i don't think i could trust them 100% again. but i;d be willing to forgive and give a 2nd chance
  • Yes. Though it might take a long while. It is possible. Though, it also depends WHY and HOW they lost your trust in the first place.
  • No one, I mean NO ONE is 100%. Trust is earned, like respect. If they lose it, it will take time, but they can "fill up the tank" again.
  • for me personally, no. it would always be in the back of my mind. but i guess it's different with everyone.
  • i believe it is but you will end up keeping an even closer watch over that person
  • I don't think you FULLY 100% trust someone who has really hurt you. A lot of trust comes back, but there are people that I could never trust 100% again.
  • I don't think so. I really think it depends on the situation and the person.
  • I don't think so. I really think it depends on the situation and the person.
  • No, not 100% unless you don't care whether they let you down again. Most people guard themselves from future let downs, especially if it's happened before. I think it's possible to regain trust, but total trust - I's say it's not not in our human make up to let be that vulnarable again.
  • I don't believe so. I think once that trust is broken that will always be in the back of your head.
  • I would never trust them 100% not even 50% maybe 10% and I would even question that.
  • 100%- hmmmmm- if there is a way, I haven't figured it out. I think some people's answers are wrong- it's not about wanting to hold on to hurt and resentment. It depends on the situation. When the hurt it still healing- new and tender- and salt gets rubbed in the wound, that makes it tough. It's hard.
  • No not 100% or that would take your whole life to achieve. Its a matter of forgive not forget and thats just your sensible inner self trying to protect our vulnerable hearts
  • One word answer - NO (oh well, nine word answer).
  • i can honestly say no. my boyfriend cheated on me when we first got together 6 years ago and now i am still paranoid that he could be "up to something" i honestly think it could be *better* if he made the effort to make me feel otherwise. i believe if someone makes a mistake it should be their problem to right it, not your problem to forget it. if you have no reason to be suspicious then you wont be, end of story :)
  • For me, personally, no. Maybe some people in the world are more forgiving than me...but the way I see it is like this: If they are going to hurt you, do they even deserve your trust?
  • I dont think you should ever trust anyone or anything 100%. This isn't to say you should live in paranoia. But nothing is certain. EVER.
  • No. Impossible. You will always wonder.
  • NO, Trust needs too be earned and if someone you trusted before broke your trust then they need to earn that back, you can not trust every one and we are taught that as children these days dont talk to stranger, but if you try to trust some one and they hurt you that will take a lot of time and are they really worth any of the time you wasted before on them.
  • well it depends on how everything is going....if u really love dat someone then u should let them get there trust bacc for u.....
  • Aye..possible, but a more interesting question is.. will that someone now trust you?
  • i believe so. mainly because people are stupid and never learn.
  • This is almost impossible to answer without knowing the two individuals involved and the nature of the offense. For me, yes. I can regain trust in someone, but here's the catch....I usually don't trust ANYONE 100% to begin with. This kind of trust is like blinders on a horse. Many would say this is a pessimistic view. I think it's a realistic awareness. Many things factor into trust to begin with. Maturity, self confidence, awareness, and the length of time you've known someone. If you've known someone for 10 years and they've never let you down before, then you are lucky as this is rare. It's nearly inevitable in relationships there will be disappointments. We must recognize each other imperfections and decide whether these imperfections outweigh the good.
  • as always it always depends on the person but mfor most people its not.. trust is like a crystal that once broken it can never be back together, you might but cracks are there to make people remember... and the more you try to put it back the more it hurt and worst you got nothing strong to bind it again..
  • I have tried to trust after my fiance cheated. But i don't even think he trusts himself not to do it again. Therefore sense i can not trust him, than i will be leaving him soon.
  • I hope so, my bf let my down big time two years ago and you know what, i still don't feel the same about him. He has tried and I do care for him, and I know he is mostly a good person, but i have noticed my love is not as strong as it was before.
  • yes. time heals everything. and if they continue to behave themselves, they can regain your trust. but, look out, they will do it again, and again. (at least in my experience.) c'est la vie!!!
  • I don't think it is possible. When you have put so much trust into someone you can never regain it 100%.
  • even i wanna know its answers, coz even i want a person to trust me again, whom i've hurted a lot.. plzz help me..
  • I would say no. I have watched a couple I am very close to try to heal the wounds when the trust was broken by him. She forgave him and tried to move on, but the hurt was still there and never went away. He just wanted her to forget about it. It didn't work and eventually she broke up with him because she just couldn't get over it. Here is the thing...some people are capable of hurting the ones they love and others aren't. I could never, ever hurt my husband like that. Just couldn't do it. Yet others seem to have a callous insensitivity to their partners feelings. I have found that if a person is indeed capable of really hurting their partner, then they are also capable of doing it over and over again, and unfortunately, usually do just that.
  • i think when a person that you "loved" done something blike that it's hard to forgive and some girls just forget what therir lover did to them loe eddie
  • It's possible and all.. but hard to do. I hurt a boy before and it took a lot of time for him to semi-trust me again and then I screwed him over again. Then we ended up dating! So it is possible but who knows how much they will completley trust you because its always going to be a thought that you might do it again.
  • yes, if you really care about that person and want to give them the chance. if you don't then forget it. you have to forgive and forget and then move forward. easier said then done, but possible. i've done it just recently; it goes beyond human perception: it's called unconditional love or agape .
  • I suppose it's possible.. It would be extremley hard to do though.. It depends how bad you let them down I guess. If it was really bad I don't think it would be 100% trust for a while.. If it was a small "Oh you let me down" kinda thing. It won't take long. Keep your chin up and try new things. ♥ Confused Heart
  • First of all, it is for you to decide if the person is important to you in your life. If they are important then you will regain trust in them as you don't want to lose them. If they have let you down it is because of a reason and try to find it out. Let them know how you felt about it and work things out.
  • depends on what the trust was broken over....i will tell ya something, my husband left up his email - yes, i made the mistake and got in it for maybe 30 seconds before i felt so guilty i got out and went to him and told him i did it. i could have gotten away with it if i hadn't said anything but i knew that wasn't going to make it right. now, i sit here with him not talking to me and him being very resentful towards me. i don't know what to do to regain the trust - i am not the type to sit and wait but i am thinking that by trying to push him into talking to me i am really hurting things....
  • Yes, if they sincerely change and prove to you and others that they have changed. But it takes time
  • i certainly hope so!
  • Not for me. I was in a relationship with someone for 3 years and he was constantly letting me down with stuff that really mattered to me. But in the end, I realized I did all I could do and we just weren't on the same page as far as the future went so I had to break it off. It was the same with my previous relationship. It was never the same.
  • Seriously its really hard... for instance my boyfriend lied to me about something so stupid but to me it meant so much more... For someone I trsted and believed everything from... I felt betrayed, dis respected, and also a fool to bleieve him... But, think deep in your gut... can you forgive that person??? If you really care about that person and obivously you do cause your asking for advice... Communication!@!! Thats they key... talk about sit down and talk about it... Don't point fingers, don't blame, don't scream, or cry... Stay calm and think clear headed
  • I believe anything is possible, even the situation of trusting someone again, 100%. I respect & employ self preservation with matters regarding national security. Those who have done wrong & who are truly are sorry, will appreciate and take full advantage of chances to prove themselves trustworthy to regain what is ultimately important - your trust.
  • I don't think so, i tried it and it didn't work for me because when they walked out the door it was the thought of knowing if they are doing or going where they said they were, i feel once i can no longer trust you then there is really no point on trying to work things out.

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