How do you cope with feelings of desperation?
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It depends on in what area you are feeling this desperation or is it general. If it is general, it might be a good thing to go to a health worker and see if you might not need counselling for depression.
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I come up with reasons why I absolutely cannot hang myself today. There always seems to be one, and this has kept me afloat for a few years now.
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Take a deep breath and know we are here for you - And let yourself have a break - slow down - relax - and take it one step at a time - Don't rush yourself - the times will get better -
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I used to tell myself no then cause as much pain to myself as i could. eg. cutting myself... but now im not sure what i do. I guess I just call on God cause he gives me everything I need.
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I deal with all powerful emotions the same way: sit quietly and just experience them without judgment, resistance, or attempts to "get over" or "fix" them. (Well, truthfully.... I DON'T always succeed at this, but that's what I know works best). I've learned that no emotion or feeling by itself is too much to handle. What makes desperation or panic arise is getting tangled up in all the thoughts ABOUT those feelings. This getting "lost in the story" and losing touch with the immediate here-and-now reality of the physical presence of emotion is the real problem. When emotions are experienced in the present, just the immediate body sensations, mood, and noticing the thoughts, I can "ride the waves" of very powerful feelings without being so afraid of them.
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I just try to smother them and get on with what I need to do. Sometimes the push their way out, but I can usually lock them away again until the next time I am alone and find myself with nothing to do. Then I just have to find something to keep me busy
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I have to make contact with people, or else my self-talk will drive me right into the ground. Friends, family, this forum might help alleviate the feelings. If they persist, therapy and/or medication might be needed. There is no shame in asking for help. Sometimes the old cliche "one day at a time" really rings true. Sometimes you just have to get through minute by minute. Try to remember, as hard as it might be, that you're not alone. Think of all the people who have you in their thoughts right now! I wish you all the best. Oh, and I hope you don't feel this way because I called you Brian before!
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I just stare out into space... in complete silence and darkness...
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My father suffered from depression all his life and committed suicide when he was 41 - I was 19 and the oldest of five kids. I suffered from the fallout for a long time, but I learned how to deal with it. It was a long hard road. Bottom line - hang in there - it can only get better. And for me it did. I swear.
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Make a new plan and find a way out. If that does not work make a new plan again. Where there is life, there is hope. Never, ever give up. One of my favorite jokes goes like this: There are only two things in life to worry about - Whether you are sick or whether you are healthy. If you are healthy there is really nothing to worry about. If you are sick there are only two things to worry about - Whether you live or whether you die. If you live there is nothing to worry about, If you die there are only two things to worry about - Whether you go to heaven or whether you got to hell. If you got to heaven you have nothing to worry about. If you go to hell you will be so busy getting reaquainted with all of your old freinds you won't have time to worry.
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you always keep asking these types of questions.my best answer is take a long cruise vacation AND DON'T TAKE ANYONE YOU KNOW WITH YOU. give an update when you return and don't spend any money on sunblock.IT DOESN'T HELP.
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It depends. I used to write things out, or paint, or draw... but I've sort of become immune to what this did for me. I sometimes take it out on myself... whether it be emtionally or physically. Or I just become completely moody, and take it out on people around me. When I want to cut, I remember those around me. And I still cut, just not as bad as I would want to. Not for myself, but for my family. When you're in deperation, when there's nothing else that seems to go your way, you use what you can control. For some it's alcohol, others it's drugs, for many it's self-abuse... That's a problem.
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