I would feel guilty if I hooked up with a drunk girl, so I always turn them down. Should I keep doing this or just go for it?
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FizzyFjord
ANSWERS: 70
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As a former drunk girl, I say go for it. I only ever went after guys that I liked and wouldn't hesitate to turn down a guy I didn't. If she likes you, then might as well see where things go.
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You should do what you believe is right. I think you should just keep turning them down and when you find one that is not drunk it will be very good.
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For goodness sake, live a little and do as you wish - for there is nothing wrong in doing this at all.
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I think you're doing the right thing. You never know if they will cry rape the next day, saying you took advantage because she was drunk. I would stay away for your sake.
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Proceed with caution, less she decide to press rape charges against you in case she gets upset. That said, you'll find that as you get older there will be fewer occasions where drunk girls are throwing themselves at you... and you will regret having not taken those opportunities.
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Good for you! You have integrity. If she seems like someone you'd get to know, talk to her when you are both sober and take it from there. There should be more guys like you out there.
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Take my advice, pal. Never marry a drunk. You will always be secondly important to the booze.
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You should never hook up with a girl under the influence of anything. Set aside S.T.D.'s and unwanted children for a moment. She may not remember giving you consent. You could end up with rape charges. Best to be safe and wait for the magic moment till you are both sober. Just a thought. +5 for the question.
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I have never turned down a drunk chick for the simple reason that I was as drunk or drunker than them
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You are a fine person. It is unscrupulous to take advantage of such a situation, and if you would feel guilty your conscience is telling you it would be wrong. Listen to what your head tells you.
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Listening to your moral conscience is what separates you from the rest of the guys who would gladly hook up with a drunk girl. Think with your brain, not your dick. You will be rewarded in the end.. If you do go through with it, then think about this. If your future wife or girlfriend finds out about your past activities and doesn't find anything wrong with it, then what kind of girl is that? This is not the kind of girl you want to bring home to your parents and raise your children. If you want to fall for a morally conscience person, then be a morally conscience person. Don't be a that typical college boy looking for a wild 5 minutes shag, be a man. Water finds its own level, my friend. And those people who choose to hook up drunkenly are just looking at the rewards in a short term sense, not long term.
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i think thats is really good of you +
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I don't agree with people that say you are taking advantage of them. They went to the bar to get drunk and laid. If they are passed out = crime. But tipsy: all that means is they now have the courage to ask. Alcohol does just turn someone into a slut unless maybe they have a prob. Just me.
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Does coyote ugly work for girls too? She might chew off her own arm in the morning?
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Hook up with as many drunk girls as you are attracted to. Get them naked while you are at it.
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well, i'm a 21 year old female college student, and i've personally made some regrettable decisions when i've hooked up with guy when i was drunk, but all i ever really do basically is make out with them then pass out, so it hasn't been that big of a deal to me. i don't think you should have sex with really drunk girls.... that's taking advantage, but just making out or a little more is no big deal in my book. i guess it depends how you define "hook up"
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this happens to you alot !?
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You are being a gentleman and you deserve a lot of credit. You will reap the rewards in health, if nothing else. You are doing the right thing. The only thing that I might suggest is that you might want to look for a partner in places that don't have so many drunk girls.
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drunk girls are trying to get on you? go for it bro! guilt is just your mind trying to talk you out of a good time. you only live once, right?
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I think that is very noble of you and I think that while some girls at first might not understand it, a lot of them appreciate it. Keep doing it, you don't want to be some pathetic, loser creep who basically takes advantage of girls.....do you?
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Thats a good thing that you turn them down. Why would you want to be like every other ass hole and try to take advantage of her intoxication? Totally cool that you don't just hook up with drunk girls.
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you should go for it and you also have to check if they're clean
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Get drunk yourself then go for it. XD
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The guilt you feel is actually a good thing. Even though we all should be responsible for our own actions and that includes how much we drink, at least you recognize that it's just not a good idea. I'm sure you don't want to be acussed of doing something with a gal after she sobers up and sings a differnt song about the sex. Most do not want that sort of stigma. Unfortunatley many men don't feel anything and just go for it. Even though she is the one that got herself drunk, it still is taking advantage of someone.
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Go for it! Maybe you could be a reason for them to stop drinking! lol
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My thoughts are that I don't think it is wise to get hooked up with anyone that is drunk because at the time they are drunk you really don't know who they are. Best to wait when they are sober.
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Be the gentleman. I've hooked up with a few guys while I was drunk. She will end up hating you in the long run. Now if you were in to each other before the beer started flowing then I would say proceded with caution. It's a crazy world out there and you don't know what will happen.
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You have to be drunk too. That's the rule. If you're both drunk, go for it.
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if its a stranger definately not..some girls like to call rape, and that makes it hard on everyone..but if you two are pals and one thing leads to another, just make sure you have respect..its 2009, people like to get laid..sometimes even drunk girls..
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Well if you feel guilty and you always turn them down then God Bless your heart. You seem to be a gentleman and have a care for women. Good for you.
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You sound like a gentleman. Stay the course.
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keep doing what you're doing!
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its the same with me. its never a good idea, unless you know her personally and would be the same if she was sober or not.
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Yes, keep doing it! I have so much respect for people like you! In my opinion, women will respect you alot more for it, especially if they know you had the opportunity to hook up with them when they were drunk and you showed enough respect not to take advantage of the situation.
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Ehh, just go for it....they're fun...as long as they're not pissy sloppy drunk...just drunk enough to have fun and enjoy the moment.
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I would say it depends on how drunk they are.. and i know that some girls just act a little drunk cause for some reason they feel like they can loosen up a little and not be judged for it
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why are you even in the vicinity of drunk women? just say no. they will immediatly understand.
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We all get what we deserve in life. If she get's banged by someone that doesn't love her, chances are, she had done it before... Therefore chances of your getting a disease are greater also. We all get what we deserve in life.
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there is a REASON u would feel guilty...cause u know its WRONG.....so , for your own character sake...keep doing what you do....
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respect to ypu my friend
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DO onto to others. What if someone was asking you this and the girl was your sister, daughter, mom, or your best friend?
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If it's someone you'd want to date then take the middle road. Get her home safely and stay the night without hooking up. In the morning she'll be embarassed but she'll appreciate that you looked out for her. Now you're there face to face and can take it from there.
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are these drunk "girls" under drinking age? that could get awkward if any dispute occurred
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You are doing the right thing, you are being a gentlemen! Keep it up! =)
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Your a respectable person with integrity and you will find an awesome woman because of it. PLEASE dont lower yourself to those kind of standards. remember, if its a one night stand thats one thing, it was consentual but if a girl is drunk and you take advantage of the situation, she could turn around and accuse you of rape. It HAS happened..... dont put yourself in that kind of predicament.
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Go for it! Just make sure your drunk as well, otherwise the bitch might try to claim you raped her.
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Don't do it if it makes you feel bad. She might just appretiate the thoughtfulness
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i think your just being a gentlemen.
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You are being a gentleman. Any decent girl would appreciate you a lot. Not many guys are as decent as you are.
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Continue doing what your doing, you have integrity and respect for girls, that is something that a sober girl will admire in you if you keep it up.
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There are a lot of shades of drunk. For example, .08 in California and you're legally drunk--it amounts to two drinks in an hour or so. So, just use your best judgment. As a former party girl, a lot of girls intend to get drunk so that their inhibitions loosen up and they can have guilt-free sex. Be safe and continue to use good judgment. Oh, and I would say NO if any of the following occurs: vomiting of any kind; No 1 or No 2 in her pants; she just had sex with your roommate; she just had sex with the football team; I could go one, but you see where I'm going, right? :) Happy hunting--be safe
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Don't turn them down dude! You'll never get laid :P
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It could be seen as taking advantage of their condition..and also, if she is in the habit of getting drunk and hooking up, think of all the other guys she may have been with. The STD risk is therefore much higher. Steer well clear, I say.
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Why would you feel guilty? Do you think women feel guilty if you're drunk!!!? Of course not. Equality means equality and I firmly believe women are able to make their own choices even when they're drunk, just as a man is able to.
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I am shocked at the number of comments telling you to go for it. You are being decent, respectful and looking after the girl's best interests. I think you are doing exactly the right thing. Also, you are looking after yourself. There are a whole load of problems which could come from sleeping with a drunk girl. As greenstone said, one such problem is the chance that she could accuse you of rape for taking advantage of her. It is also possible that her claims would hold a significant amount of weight in court. I have known of many such cases. Keep turning them down, that is the only decent thing to do.
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Stick to your guns buddy!
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Keep doing what you are doing now. People that are under the influence of any substance can have severely impaired judgement. You are being a gentleman. The best thing that you could possibly do the next time you get hit on by a drunk girl is put them in a cab to go home.
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You sound like a scholar and a gentleman, don't change keep on turning them down you modern day white knight. Guilt is a good thing it is your conscience telling you that the repurcussions of taking the drunken females up on their invitation would be morally bankrupt and legally compromised. Just imagine if the reverse was to happen and you were so drunk that the next morning you woke up next to some naked hairy male and your clothes were strewn around the bedroom lol.
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It's all up to your morals. Personally.. I'm not down for that kinds of shit. I've denied sluts, skanks and drunken girls when I was a teenager and still do. I had much more self control then all the other hormonal guys during those times.
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I think that is a really nice thing to do :)
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I really do respect you for doing so! I think it's cool you don't feel you need to hook up just for the sake of hooking up, just for 'practise/coolness' sake. What I know from some of my more 'crazy' girlfriends, is that they enjoy drunken hook-ups -- as long as they're not so drunk that they've lost all control over their decisions or body. If they were on the floor and some guy was trying to hook up with them, it'd be a different matter. I think the best kisses are with someone you know, respect, and have feelings for. So I think your decision is an admirable one. Kudos
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i think if your drunk then hell yeah go for it, but if she is drunk and yoyr not then leave it
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Good for you in doing just that! You are the one that would feel guilty in the morning. Remember, what goes around, comes around ........ If you decide to go for it you might just get more than what you have bargained for.......
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Get drunk too and just doooo ittt. use protection of course. don't want any stds from any dirty hobags
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Try growing up, it answers a lot of the tough questions.
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Very Good! your doing something most men cant. Dont stop, if you find the right one like that, she will eventually come back to you and tell you thanks for doing the right thing.
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Your actions will keep you out of jail. I am sure by the fact you are even asking this question you are a stand up guy who has some backbone. Lets face it......drunk woman are usually looser and are usually easier to get into bed with but it can also open up alot of issues that may surface when they sober up. Keep up the good work and any girl that gets a great guy like you will be lucky.
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i have to say i agree with the both being drunk its ok then its kinda like you guys are taking advantage of eachother lol and if you can remember it sex is really really wild and fun and sponataneous just remember safe sex before you go out so you wont forget put a condom around your next on a string cuz you know what they say out of sight out of mind
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if you're drunk deffff go for it. if not, maybe kiss. nothin else though. like show that you respect her. that would be the sexiest thing.
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depends how drunk she is.. if she's falling over then leave her alone! if shes tipsy and giggly go for it!
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