WHen you raise a kid are you going to do it like your parents raised you? or the opposite? why?
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Miss. Tandra
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I will do some things the same, and some things differently. That is because I think some things were good, and some things were not so good.
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In some ways yes, and in some ways no. When I was young my parents hired other people to look after me, some of whom were good and some really not. I would never do this to my children - I would look after them myself, get my husband to do it or get friends and family to help out. However, once I became a teenager and the au pairs had left my parents were very good - supportive, liberal, always ready to talk but not too interfering. I would try to emulate this attitude when I have teenagers, as it worked out very well.
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I think now days we have to raise our children differently than when i was a kid. Times have changed so much that some of the things my mother allowed me to do I would never let my son do at the same age. For example: At 6 years old I used to stay in the woods or just putside playing all day unsupervised without fear of being kidnapped or worse. My son isnt allowed outside unless there is someones else outside with him.
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I think each generation learns from the previous, so if your parents were really strict, you'll try not to be, or vice-versa.
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no way, I dont want to do anything my parents did, I plan to be the opposite.
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I think for the most part I would be the same, but I would add a little more discipline
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There are a lot of aspects of child-rearing that I like to practice that I picked up from my parents, and there are some things that I remember from my childhood that I'd rather my kids not be exposed to (drinking, smoking, etc).
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I am a different parent than my Mom ever was or is. I have different dysfunctions than she did.
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I hope to raise my child as well as my parents did us (six kids). They provided for us without too much excess and spent time with us. I always felt loved.
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Probably mostly the same although I think that I will raise my kids in the church which is not something my parents did for me.
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My mum did her best, and I am by no means criticising the way she raised me. I don't want to blow my own trumpet, but I have wound up ok. However, I have my own ideas which my mum never had with me which if I ever have kids, my kids will be raised by. I want happy, healthy, broad- minded and safe kids who have everything in the world open for them, same as my mum wanted for me. Unfortunatly some things got in the way. We both made mistakes, and there were outside influences, so I will just make sure I do not repeat any of her mistakes. At this rate, by the time I have great grand children, we might FINALLY get this parenting thing at least half right
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I can't see where they made any mistakes. Why mess with perfection?....JK
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Well, I will take some and leave some, when it comes to my parents. I know my father did the best he could, but I have to say I have learned alot of things from my father that don't actually work in the real world. But he has taught me alot of things that I would never have learned otherwise. I think I would teach about 25-30% of what my father taught me.
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My parents did a great job raising their kids. I don't think that I will be very different from them when it comes to raising mine. I only hope that I can be as great a parent as they are.
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You say you won't do certain things that your parents did when you have your own kids, but the reality is.... you'll be saying to yourself (at least once, probably more) "I just sounded like my mom or I just did what my dad would do." You hope you do better at the stuff you want to change and kept the stuff they were good at. Each generation lives in a whole different world than their parents. The best and worst parts of what you learn from your parents will guide your decisions with your children. It's up to each one of us to learn which parts to use.
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i wouldnt do it exactly the same as my parents but similar for certain things, and for other things i would be quite different b/c i dont think it was an effective way of raising a child
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I don't think there are very many things I'm going to do like my parents did. I always see myself handling parenting situations much differently then they did with me.
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I'm just in my 15th year of fatherhood. I've replaced my inheritance of beatings with communication. I'm 6"3 and rarely under 220lbs. Violence, even with other adults, is too much. It's also important to me to say I'm sorry to my child when I've done something wrong. My parents NEVER apologized to my sister and I for ANYTHING! I understand, as an adult, that one has to be extremely spiritually, emotionally, and intellectually impoverished to NEVER feel the need to apologize for his actions. That helps me to forgive that behavior and keep it in check in myself. I also tell my child, I LOVE YOU! I NEVER heard that as a child. I began saying it to my mother after I became an adult and she finally started saying it back to me at the end of telephone conversations.
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i would never say that i had bad parents. they really did do everything they could to support me, but moreso they did financially as opposed to emotionally. i would be different in the following ways: 1. i would be a stay at home mom, especially when they're younger. 2. i would be involved with their progress in school. 3. i would develop a less "textbook" relationship with them, but not so much a friendship. 4. i would bend over backwards for them no matter how "tired" i was from working late. 5. i would never resort to divorce. 6. i would never put them in the middle of arguments between me and their father. 7. i would raise them in church. 8. i would make sure they were involved in some sort of activity so they could build up their social skills. 9. i would make sure that i helped them build their credit so that if they were ever in the position of being on their own financially, they would be okay.
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200% the opposite, my parents are too strict...
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