Some partial ideas on this matter: - Good genes for posterity. Numerous unconscious mechanisms serve this ultimate purpose. Human pheromones is one of such mechanisms to translate love, calmness, superiority (alpha-male pheromones), women's charm, etc. Pheromones may be bought and applied like perfume. Check pheromones of "Pherone". Great results. - Numerous cultural mechanisms like cultural sameness, "Karma" programs (for instance, a strong "clan loyalty" psycological effect). - Partner's love! - Your intent to love and live with the partner to the rest of your life. Love will follow. - Some very advanced research, Socionics, (based on works of Carl Gustav Jung and Aushra Augustinavichiute) makes some insights on human energetic and informational metabolism, particularly on human duality relations.

I didn’t FALL in love. That is more of another way to say infatuation/physical attraction/ hormonal excitement. Haven’t you known of many folks who say they are “in love” only to mean the above definition. Love is not physical attraction, not hormones, not lust, not feeling good and not romance. Granted there is some healthy interest/attraction setting the stage for wanting to get to know this new person. But, a relationship that lead to true love starts on shared interests, goals, values and character. These are the things that sustain a relationship over time. It takes emotionally healthy, balanced, mature people to develop long lasting love- keeping sex out of it until marriage. Love involves putting others first, caring for their best interests, wanting to partner with them for their success and the success of their shared goals. Love develops trust and commitment. Love asks forgiveness and grants it. Love is not selfish. Love is not needy and desperate, as the one loving engages in balanced, healthy activities that compliment their relationship. That Love is built on a solid “good friend” type foundation and not on kissing, pawing and sex. This helps make sure that the guy/gal is genuine and not in the relationship (unwittingly or on purpose) mainly to gratify his/her hormones and/or ego. My husband and I shared many common INTERESTS (art, biking, swimming, politics, hiking, reading, museums, history, animals, music, volunteering). We had/have a common spiritual relationship with God, through the Lord Jesus Christ. This provided common MORAL VALUES. All these were/are things that provided activities to enjoy together and topics to converse upon during and after the activities. Conversation/communication is very important to sustaining a relationship. Through all of these interactions, it was easy to see my husband’s CHARACTER. That is what was so attractive, endearing and made me grow to LOVE him. He is thoughtful, putting others first, gentle with animals and children, honest, hard-working, dependable, responsible, loyal, courteous, appropriately witty, trustworthy, and he has drive (appropriate aspirations and goals). Yes, he has a pleasant appearance and I find him attractive. But, looks, lust and sex will NOT sustain a relationship. Hormones cool down and you are left with character as it affects daily interaction for the rest of your life together.