I have 2 step daughters that are half black and take care of two Indian girls with the same complexion. Compare the child to chocolate milk. Children like chocolate and milk and love being compared to something positive. This would take the childs mind of the negative words. Children don't make this observations on their own. Differences like skin color must be pointed out to child this must come from an adult figure and most be pointed out to the director or principle. good luck and enjoy your little angel

First of all, if it were my child, that first day of playschool would be the only day at that playschool. Clearly the kids are not being adequately supervised or trained. The obvious racism aside, where the heck was the teacher? Even if I kept my kid in playschool, it wouldn't be that playschool. This is just my two cents, okay? Take it or leave it. I know that popular opinion is that kids need to be "socialized" by being put in the classroom as early as possible. When have you ever been around a kid of your child's age or those kids age that is old enough to have self control and moral judgement? Do you want your kid to be trained to be a moral and decent human being? Or do you want your child to be "socialized" by peer pressure into drugs, sex, poor academic performance and low achievement? Do you want him to be a leader, or a follower? I have taught in public schools, and I don't anymore. There were many reasons for my leaving, but one of the reasons for my leaving was best expressed by the author of a book I'm currently reading, "I didn't want to hurt kids anymore." I am a third generation educator, but something has gone very wrong with the schools, not only in the U.S., but from what I'm seeing on here, in other countries too. I leave you to figure out what that is. Apparently one of Adolph Hitler's memorable quotes was "Let me control the textbooks, and I'll control Germany." Schools do not exist to educate and socialize, but to indoctrinate. They are less about excellence than about conformity. Perhaps you might want to question whether a three year old is old enough to be away from your nuture, your training, your protection, your love and your care. You might want to ask if your baby can protect himself in these situations, if the teacher isn't near enough to defend him, or if she is busy protecting someone else's baby from something worse. Having been in the schools, I know what is in the schools. I couldn't make myself do it with my child. I'm homeschooling. And from what I'm reading, one of the largest groups represented in the homeschooling movement is former teachers and former school administrators.

that kids are going to be mean no matter what. skin, hair, they way they talk, what they wear. and that he soundn't listen because is special. i'd also have a talk to the teacher. yes its going to happen but she/he should at lest try to nip it in the butt and have a talk with the other kids and their parents

That he is only what HE is. If he his a good person, then, no matter what anyone says about him, he is still a good person. Tell him that no matter what anyone says about him, he is always, and only, what he acts and behaves like. Tell him this is the most important thing, What he see's himself as, not what other people think.

Tell him that there are good people in this world and bad people...He just met a few of the offspring of some of the bad ones.

That is absolutley terrible. First make sure your little boys self confidence about his ethnicity isn't damaged. Demand to speak to the person in charge about this, so they bring it up to the parents of the children. That just apalls me when people try and instill racist ideas to such little children. You sit with your little boy and look him in the eyes and tell him we are not all the same and that is okay, tell him how much you and (dad, grandma etc) love him and how beautiful his skin is. I guess you have to keep it basic because he is 3 but still the positive reinforcement on a daily basis telling him how handsome he is should work for the meantime.

you could cut out a bunch of pictures from magazines showing all kinds of different people with different skin colors, and explain to him that everybody is different and that's the way it should be. also tell him that the mommy's of the boys who ganged up on him must have not taught them yet that everyone is different.

this is a comment to question 9 as the comment box has an error at the moment. sadly i willl have to put him into a nusery/playschool for a few days a week as it is often seen badly upon in the uk not to do so (social services may ask questions later) his father is taking over child care as i am to study at university further away so i will not be home on weekends. (they are moveing later next year to where i am studying). the teacher did take action and she wants to do a whole week themed on other cultures and how we are all the same and different (or something like that). i live in a small village so don't have many other nuseries or preschools close by. so i will sadly have to stay there. he seems better now that i have had some good advice and talked to him, but i think i shall try not to have him in the same sessions as those boys.