What is the present etiquette at home parties? Is it okay for guest to take home what they brought? I would never dream of it, but is this the new etiquette of home party entertainment?
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tiliad
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That's a great question. I always thought it was good etiquette to leave what you brought ... maybe just taking the dish home that you brought it in. Not sure what is the latest trend with that ... but unless the host gives it back when I leave, I would not take it with me.
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I never seen and heard that guest are taking back home what they brought to the parties, I know that, either they share with others or leave it. They take only empty boxes which they brought food or they will take that boxes later or some other days. I'm surprised.
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Present etiquette? If you are talking actual presents like bottles of wine/champagne flowers or a plant then I would see absolutely no reason why I would take it home again. They were a gift for the host in recognition of the superb party they were throwing! If you are talking food dishes and it was the party of a close friend whom I knew I would get the dish back from then I would leave the dish in their care until I saw them next time. If it was a party where there were lots of people attending then I would supply food in a disposable dish.
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If it is a very close friend and a very casual gathering, I'd still probably offer to leave any left overs from what I brought. If, however, my host were to say, "oh no, please take it, my fridge is full!" or "no, why don't you take that home, someone can have it for lunch tomorrow." I'd take it back. While it might seem strange to take the food back, the gage for being polite would be at the insistence of the host or hostess. The number one rule for good etiquette is NEVER to cause embarrassment or stress for your host/hostess. If "it" was something I know they love, I'd probably say, "I'd love for you to have this, I know it's a favorite of yours! Would you like me to put it in something else, or shall we get together next week to get the container back?" (assuming I might need that container sooner than I might normally see this friend) But, again, if they requested that I not leave it, home it goes.
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I wouldn't dream of taking home what I brought unless nobody ate any of it (in which case I would quickly 'bin it'). I usually take my husband back home with me though which I think is perfectly acceptable! :)
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