When someone close has disappointed you in a major way, would you accept their apology and be close with them again?
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shrinkess
ANSWERS: 14
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yes because i know ill be a bigger fool and mess up twice as bad!
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Sure. Everyone disappoints. But not everyone apologizes.
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I think I would. But I will not forget.
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I'm trying but her desire for privacy makes it hard
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It really depends on what has happened to cause the rift in the relationship. Some things are irreconcilable, especially if they happen more than once. Sometimes, incidents cut too deep for that person to ever be close to me again. In any situation, I always start out by asking what did I do in case I've done something wrong and that person just wanted to get back at me. While it doesn't alleviate the pain, it does make for more, better understanding of that person's intentions. Note: I may have a different definition of friendship and relationship than you do. I don't use those terms very often.
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I'm still waiting on the apology and would I be friend's again?.... :OH HELL NO:
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I have done this with family and in laws, but there was a friend who did something unthinkable and slept with my finacee..the father of my baby. After almost 5 painful years and I have forgiven her. I genuinely wish her the best and I accept the way things are but I will not get close to her now. So to answer your question, the apology is accepted but the closeness is another matter entirely.
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I always forgive people, whether they are sorry or not. As to being close with them again that =depends on whether they have changed and if they are genuinely sorry, but most likely I will try again.
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Yes, i would try again because i am not perfect either..:)
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A very good friend of mine did something that really upset me and he deliberately did it knowing that it would upset me I accepted his aplology, however, I cannot be close to him again, if someone hurts me once they won't get a second chance to do it again regardless of who they are with me it is one strike and your out, been hurt too many times in the past.
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I will accept their apology, but I always will be skeptical from then on
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It really depends on what the offense was. I have one relative I will never be close with. Part of the reason is she has never come forth and apologized. Even if she did finally apologize, her actions were so heinous that I could forgive her (for my own sake), but never want anything to do with her. Being family does not give you a path to "closeness". It just means that by some twist of fate we share some DNA and social norms may require a certain level of civility. Our common love for other relatives and the need for family harmony compels one to accept but "closeness" is earned, family or not.
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i would say that it depends on whether or not their apology was truly sincere...if I could clearly see that it was then yes.
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I know that when something like that happens it is never the same. It sucks but it is true!
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