ANSWERS: 43
  • I don't like to use the word "love" to mean something you can "fall" into. I know it is a common (mis)use of the word... but I am not entirely sure what you mean by it. If you mean infatuation, I think it is possible for someone who was once superficially attracted to you to be so again. If you are looking for a committed relationship however... you can't fall "back" into something you did not have. You can't "fall" out of a commitment, you have to choose to leave.
  • Quite possibly. If you were in love once, there was something that made you fall for each other; if those things are still there, it could happen again. As a rule of thumb, consider the circumstances that made you fall out of love. What were the problems between you? Do they still exist? Can they be fixed? If enough is different from when you fell out of love, it might be worth spending time together and finding out if the things that made you love each other before still do.
  • Though some may disagree with my opinion on this point, I feel that love - TRUE love - isn't something that ever really goes away. Can you "fall out" of true love? No, you cannot. Can you "fall out" of an infatuation or lust? Yes, you can. Be wary of the person who leaves you and time after time comes back telling you that they love you "again." With the kind of love that you deserve, dear questioner, this simply is not possible.
  • Yes. People change as they age, acquiring new experiences and perspectives, at the same time retaining or discarding old viewpoints. This happens with both parties in a relationship. At some point, you may find yourself disassociating from your partner for any number of reasons. Later, you may find yourself once again attracted to your former partner because either or both of you have changed in some important way. I don't believe it is possible for people to fall out and then reform their relationship, without at least one of them changing. Even if this change is something as simple as "I think I made a mistake in ending our relationship". Even that represents a change within yourself.
  • no. if they ever "fell out of love," then they never loved you anyways.
  • i think someone can fall out of love with you then fall back in love the first place the person did not fall out of love with you
  • I wish I knew. My wife said she loves me, but isn't in love with me. She has no sexual feelings for me. She said she fell in love with someone else. Now she says she wants to make it work with me, wants to try, isn't sure if her feelings for me will come back.
  • If people are inclined to fall, they can fall forward and backward repeatedly. The real test of love is growing in love, nurturing it through time and commitment, and developing in the qualities of love. Everything else is fleeting and of course, the answer is "yes."
  • I firmly believe you can fall back in love. There was a point where i lost feelings for my partner. But once i understood why i felt that way, with time my feelings changed. You think the way you feel. So if you want to change the way you feel you have to change the way you think. The key word being want. If you are willing to try then I'm sure it can happen. There is a brilliant book wrote by Andrew G Marshall ' i love you, but im not in love with you'. I could not believe how amazing this book was. I read the whole book in 2 days.
  • i dont know i am in the situation right now the love of my life says she dont love me anymore but tells me in time she might come back to me. if you really love someone and think that they are worth waiting for then wait keep true to your love and in time it is possible i believe, but i might be wrong it might be that, that what i want and hope it will come true that the love of my life will come back to me
  • I guess that's always possible, however, there's a very good chance that I would not be available at that time.
  • Sure, but I'll be busy loving someone else.
  • I am going through this problem right now,Me and my husband had to get married at 15 and 16 because we messed around and got pregnant young, welost the baby,stayed together,and now our daughter is almost 8 , i found out i was pregnant last week,and he says now out of the blue,hes not in love with me,but he loves me and doesnt want me to leave,the pregnancy i think has trigerd this whole thing,but it takes 2 and he was asked and told to get fixed repeadly,so now,im forced to be loved by another man and have my husbands 2 kids,or stay and be loved,but never be loved like i should be :( I say that it is complicated and a awfull thing to go through and i feel for anyone going through this. Best of luck,always love yourself!
  • No. Once it's done it's done. Besides people confuse love with other feelings anyway. True love is deeper than what most idiots think it is anyway.
  • You DON'T "fall in love." Love is a choice, believe it or not. And I would say yes, but those seem to be very rare circumstances.
  • Well, you can have sentimental feelings for someone, cool off, then rekindle those feelings; but, love is different. It's an action not a feeling. It takes effort and time to build it. It is not subject to waxing a waning like feelings are.
  • I am in a situation right now where my spouse says he fell out of love, but he cares for me and loves me. We have been separated for 2 months now and he comes around alot and spends time with me often, but says he wants time to be alone right now. He says time will tell if we can find our way back together. We have 4 children who are suffering bacause of this. Does anyone have any advise. Desperate for reconciliation!
  • I personally don't believe you can fall out of love with a person. You can lose interest but that doen't mean you are out of love with them. That just means ur relationship calls for a little intervention. I have to say this is an extremly hard thing to go through. I don't really understand how you can love someone and want to be around them but not be in love with them. You have to put ur foot down and tell him if he isn't willing to go get help with counceling or something then you have to do what is best for u and ur kids. Let him know ur feelings. It more than likly is something he is going through withthin him self. Regardless his family shouldn't have 2 suffer because his stupidity and bad decisions. It will be extrmly hard but life is too short to be with someone who doesn't love you with their all! I need to take my own advice : )
  • I love Jonny Q answer
  • Yeah , you've just gottta win the lottery.
  • I think that it is VERY possible to fall back in love after falling out of love. I lived through this a few years ago. I was madly in love with this guy. After an arguement, I became extreemely depressed and couldn't cope with hsi anger at me. I started quesitoning my feelings for him and then got SO depressed I had to ask for space. He gave it to me, and a few months later, I was fine. We never did get back together, but we remained good friends and over the years, my feleings for him grew and grew. I am currently with someone else and have had the same problem...I go along feeling great about the reltionship and then when life's stresses finally pile up...I crash....and almost DARE myself, stupidly, to question mky feelings for him. Then I get caught in this horrible mental loop of needing support but feeling bad about taking it from him. In time, it always resolves... Love grows. Love comes from mututal respect and sharing your time, feelings and life with someone. If someone days he has fallen out of love...dont push...give him time.
  • I don't think you can ever fall out of love with your partner. I am beginning to believe someone who falls out of "love/lust" with you, never loved (agape love) you to begin with They themselves don't know real love.
  • I think the concept of "falling out of love" has a lot more to do with the faller than with the object of affection. I can tell you wholeheartedly that I have NEVER lost sentimental feelings I had for ANYONE (family member, friend, pet, romantic partner, etc.) unless they did something pretty serious to deserve it. I think people "fall out of love" because they're having other problems...like they feel trapped with the idea of commitment, or they think their current partner might not be "the one", or they are having trouble finding themselves. They might (subconsciously) blame all of these negative feelings on their partner, and thus say something like, "I don't have feelings for you anymore." Well as far as I know, once you love and care about someone, those feelings don't just magically disappear. There's something causing it. The question is, does your former lover/partner care enough about him/herself or about you to try to work through them, or would they rather just give up?
  • Its possible, but not probable. Too much water, normally, has run over the bridge for a couple to reunite. Words are sometimes said, that can never be taken back. each person will remember the bad times, not the good times. Anything is possible, if you have guidance from above.
  • My Partner just recently told me that he has fallen out of love with me, because of some things I have done. For ex. go out with out him, stay out late only a rare occasion, but he had an ex-wife who did this a lot and had affairs on him so he divorced her. Well so now it's my turn to be in the ex-wife's shoes, we are suppose to get married also, but I don't want to be with someone who says well sorry, but because you did what you did I fell out of love with you and I don't want to make love to you. So my answer is if someone says they have fallen out of love with you really never loved you at all and if they try to come back and say well I love you again, its a ploy and way of controlling your feelings. This is a very cruel type of ploy of controlling in the least, I would be very wary of people like this.
  • You can never really fall out of love with that person. I think in time, it gets easier and easier to let go, but that person will always have a piece of your heart. For months, my ex and I were fighting like cats and dogs. We were supposed to be married in May, but I called the engagement off. We spent very little time together over these past few months, and he had been doing things behind my back which I had no idea about, and just recently found out about. I knew him 2 years before we started dating, so we had already had chemistry, and over the course of dating him, I fell so deeply in love. Now that things are over, I have no idea how to move on. Everyday I wish he would call, but he never does. He used to call me and apologize profusely, tell me he loves me and how much he cares for me, but he would make the same mistakes over and over again, and it would make me so angry. I have prayed that things would change, and I have cried everyday for almost 2 months. Between the name calling, the nasty e-mails and text messages, it would be impossible for me to forgive him, but deep down, I still want him in my life. Things weren't like this at the beginning, they were perfect, and I don't know what happened... I was finding myself doing anything to spend time with him, and I was compromising my integrity. If you keep an open mind and a positive attitude, I believe that good things will come your way. It is your choice whether or not to wait around to see what happens or if you feel comfortable closing the doors on that relationship. I myself am torn, and I have turned down dates lately because of this. I truly believe that this is the most difficult thing for any human being to go through (dealing with a broken heart that is), and I sympathize with everyone out there.
  • Yes, absolutely. If not back in love with you, then they can fall in love again. I've said this before... Love is like a plant. It can't grow unless you nurture it. You have to choose to stop trying for it to whither and die. When a plant is dying, what do you do? You water it, give it MORE attention, not less, you pay closer attention because obviously the normal course isn't working. If love eventually does die and a person falls out of love with someone... they can fall in love again. This may mean planting a new seed. A dead plant can't be brought back to life like a dying one can. Some relationships have been soo messed up by lies, deceit, etc, that they have to start over. Getting to know them again, planting the new seed. Finding the things about them that you once loved if they still exist, watering and feeding it. Like the dead plant, you remove it and discard it, or grind it up and use it as fertilizer. You can't change the past, but you can put it behind you. You can use it as a guide on what NOT to do this time. You can learn from it. But like that plant, it needs constant attention to keep it alive. You have to want to keep it alive. If there is something preventing you from wanting to nurture that love... remove that obstacle.
  • If it were that easy then the divorce rate wouldn't be 52%. If someone has fallen out of love with you, why are you wasting your time trying to get them to love you. Grab ahold of you dignity and move on. Either it's there, or it isn't. You can never regain that spark that left unless the two of you still do love each other very much and are in a funk. Either way, You can forgive, but you don't forget. Listen, there's a reason why things end. That reason will inevitable come back to haunt you. MOVE ON!
  • No. I don't believe so. When it's gone it's gone for good. And while it hurts like hell at the time and seems like the end of your world, it's often a blessing in disguise.
  • I really don't know but my boyfriend of 4years just told me he fell out off love with me and he acts different everything about him is different and im not ready to let go he asked me to marry him after we were together for 2 years.... now he tells me he has to find him self he's lost before he knew wat he wanted and now he's just confused but he also says he loves me..... it all hurts so much I can't eat drink or sleep and im going crazy. He told me he fell out off love with me because I argue to much be he was the reason I argued and his family didn't like me they wouldn't even get to know me........ but I know he's scared to fall back in love with me like he won't let me in and I see that ......but as for the answer to this question I think people do fall back in love it just takes time and you both have to want as bad if only one of you wants it then its not good enough......
  • I'm in this exact situation right now. Me and my girlfriend had been together for 5 1/2 years. The absolute best relationship. Then two months, we moved to Ithaca for my grad school. Within one month, she broke up with me. She said she lost something in her feelings for me. Is that even possible? To love someone for 5 years and then lose it in one month? To me, it was the depression of being here alone, not having friends, not having me around enough, and the stress of taking LSAT. But today, she finished LSAT. And she's in NO rush to fix things with us. She wants to fix herself first. She said she changed. But I think the depression changed her. Now I just need to find a way to get her to snap out of it.
  • So I'm in a dilema - my boyfriend of 2 years has done some not so good things to me - cheating twice and verbally abused me. So I don't have the same feelings for him - but he is begging me to not break up with him - this would be the 3rd and final time. I need time to myself - to be alone - not date - not have a relationship - he doesn't understand this and says he will do anything for me - anything but let me have what I need. Love is a strange thing - I love him but I'm no longer in love with him. Not sure what to do but looking for answers - aren't we all?
  • Honestly, based on my experience, I would say no.
  • I dont think its possible. Once the flame dies...it's never coming back....
  • Yes I did. I fell in love, was broken hearted, fell completely out of love with him then a few months later we got back together and I fell in love with him all over again.
  • im in this situation but with a little more to it. I was with this man for almost 3 years together. We had a precious beautiful baby Phoenix and he sadly passed away from sids 4 months later:( it crushed our relationship. nowadadys , its been a year and a half, weve been good friends and he knows i want another baby and he said hes trying to give me what i want even tho he dont want that, but its not working. Lately my feelings have been really involved cuz i want to be with him and he tells me hes not wanting that. Im the only girl hes talking to or sleeping with but he dont wanna be committed but maybe down the road hell meet the girl he wants to be with and it might not be me. it hurts so bad. i feel if i had a baby then it would heal me. i dunno what he would do but i feel it would really put something in this big void in my heart. he says im a good person but why aint i good enuff? will i ever be? he said he fell out of love with me and gave up. what am i supposed to do? will he ever be in love with me again? he says our baby was our glue and thats a big impact too.
  • YES YES YES Love is all about what you can give. What you can't give tomorrow you maybe able to tomorrow...what ever it may be. Best of luck to you all...
  • Yes. I've done it myself before.
  • Uggg where do I begin. I believe in loving forever. I also believe in loving, that ending and putting it in its place and loving another again. I have always said that everyone we meet good, bad or indifferent make us who we are today. Once we love we never stop loving, we just learn to put those that don't work out in there place. It sounds strong and logical, but after this 7 year relationship, He cheated, we separated and been working on repairing it for a year. Counseling, talking, etc. Now, where do I go from here, He sits watching the superbowl with his family and I sit with mine in my place. I cried during the national anthem, partly because I really care about my country but partly because I am alone. Not in the sense of being without someone, but being without him. I still love him, He says he loves me.... Trust me It might have been easier to end it.... or is this hard work worth it! Guess another year might be worth the wait. One down working on it... tomorrows another day..
  • If it were really true that people cannot fall out of love, then why are there so many divorces. Of course people can totally fall out of love.
  • im in this situation where my love for my year long partner has been on and off. i fell in love with her at first sight but once we hit 7 months, its been hard. i fell out of love with her ramdomly one night right before calling her. it was soo strange. but im still with her and happy i stayed. shes soo beautiful and the nicest person youll ever meet. i told her everything about me. we have no secrets. love cannot die. it just gets bored. once it gets bored it wants to play with you. try and spice it up a bit. for me...just hanging with my girlfriend alone is all the fun we need. just to see each other is enough. we love each other and thats never gonna change. good luck to you all. it is possible to fall out of love no matter what the loners say.
  • can weeds which died one year grow back the next? love is like a plant. you can nurish it, neglect it or poison it... true you can not make it out of nothing but that does not mean you have no control over it. if someone who is in a relationship falls out of love with me, when I finaly kill the love I had for her I will never allow it to grow back.

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