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by -NUNYA-- on April 24th, 2009
I think it is important to find out the basics in every aspect of the potential mate. And sex would be one of those things I would be intresting in exploring! Not that sex is the MAIN reason or basis for a relationship. +5 Good question Rocket
by Jimmy on April 24th, 2009
no, i like to explore that facet of the relationship with my partner, because i may learn something new , that i really like
by knotcrafter@yahoo.com on April 24th, 2009
Rocket, you pretty well already know my basic sexual interests. During the initial stages of a prospective relationship, I make my passion known up front as soon as the opportunity arises since its such a strong interest, thus avoiding any unpleasant surprises later. The fun aspects are discovering all the ways my partner can be pleasured when bound. Some things, not all, are best discovered along the way. On the other hand, if she isnt the least bit interested in being bound and pleasured, then there is no point in pursuing the matter for me. As the saying goes, there's lots of fish in the sea.
by Anonymous on April 27th, 2009
I used to leave it to chance and that went rather well until I met someone who I fell in love with but had no sexual compatibility going on at all. He had no desire to explore things beyond the missionary position and I found that difficult to deal with. Since then I got involved with the local bdsm scene and only really considered potential partners from there.
The problem with that is there are many into BDSM who you meet that are sexually compatible but it can be tough finding someone you get on well with as people. However, it can be done, it took me a while but I did find someone eventually and now have what I always wanted from a relationship.
I think if you are leaving it to chance but it is something important to you, you should let it be known fairly soon. Once you've developed feelings for a person it can be very difficult to leave because you are in love but at the same time feel like you're missing something you need. That can lead to resentment or worse and you don't need that.
by killdrphil - reasonable for a madman on April 25th, 2009
I just try to let everything take a natural course and to not have any preconcieved ideas and to just enjoy being with the person. I figure the rest will pretty much take care of itself. If a relationship starts and there are problems, well, there is a solution to pretty much every problem so...
Does this answer your question? Well, if not, sorry.
by Scooby on April 25th, 2009
Always be prepared, some surprises are still nice but others could have you running for the door ! I like to do my ground work before committing to anything these days!! :-/
by nicky on April 25th, 2009
You find out as you date. I think we find common ground in generosity and kindness or we don't.Selfish people make bad lover. Don't you think?
by Jonathan on April 25th, 2009
Been dating on and off(when married) for many years and always left it to chance except on a few occasions when we discussed sex before we did it and it was very erotic.
by Indyla on April 25th, 2009
I make it clear I shan't give oral (but will gladly take it), or take anal.
by Frankster PartyMaestro Of Sillyville on April 24th, 2009
I would have to say a nice simple discussion would be Good ;)
Then go from there ;)
by Rahbar on April 24th, 2009
There are other important things than SEX to get into relationship.To some extent I'll be glad to see my partner has the same liking like mine.
by markiee on October 25th, 2009
In college a girl that played volleyball that I met at a keg party asked me back to her apartment. She started stripping me and I her and then started sucking on her nipples when she let out a scream as I must have inadvertently bit. Before I knew it she had me over her knee as her big calloused hand rained down on me. Then in walked her roommate and she asked what was going on. Betty said that I bit her nipple and she was correcting me and teaching me that a woman is soft and should be respected at all times. Mean while as the discussion continued she didn't miss a beat as Olga watched my spanking then left. When she stopped and let me up she noticed how excited I was and teased me about all of my wining as I obviously enjoyed it. Then she mounted me in a 69 position and just before I lost control slid a long lubricated finger in to massage my prostate as I came.
by Ashley on October 26th, 2009
I keep my dating life separate from my BDSM activity. I have a very good live in submissive and I love him as my submissive. when it comes to dating I'm not looking for sexual stuff at all, maybe a little understanding being I am into the alt life as well and it does effect some opportunities with great guys I meet from time to time. I have come across a few guys that are fine with it though just as long as i put them before my submissive.
by bludlettingudie on December 4th, 2009
in my opinion....
sexual preferences should be discussed in detail even if you've already had sex with that person.
That person might be into some really freaky things or at least might want to explore their sexual horizons.
It's a learning experience for you and the other person, and it's fun to learn about those things together.
It gives you the perfect opportunity to ask the other person what they like, don't like, what you could do to enhance sex for them mentally and physically.
by Queeningboy69 on February 27th, 2011
Well, sharing the same things sexually does figure heavily into whether or not I want to pursue a serious relationship. I can't imagine having a sexual relationship with someone I am not compatible with.
My master told me to send him a naked picture of me in the bathtub & I disobeyed him. He told mento get on here and get a punishment.
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Thank you ++++++
by Rocket on April 25th, 2009