I told my bf of almost 8 mths that I Love him. He said that he is not at that point yet w/ me & to him 8 mths isn't long enough for him to know. he says that he dosent want to lose me & his feelings have grown. I'm so upset by this what should I do?
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alkat10
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Respect his decission, give him more time. If you really love him you should respect him. He doesn't want to loose you and I'm sure you don't want to loose him either. Love is not something that appears over night it just grows. From like to love. He knows his feelings have grown and thats good. Just try to be patient. Goodluck
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Why are you upset? It's not like he screamed "Ewwww!" and ran away. He's just not sure yet, and it's really not very fair of you to assume he's going to move at exactly the same pace as you and be ready to declare his love when you are. He still cares about you, so if you really care about him, be patient and understand that he's just not ready to say it yet.
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give him respect for being honest and continue the relationship and let his feelings grow. Not everybody falls heads over heels at first. Love takes time.
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I admire your bf for not taking the easy way out and just saying it. I think people say I love you too easily honestly. He doesn't want to lose you and he cares for you. Obviously he cares for you enough to be honest and that is a rare quality. I'd say stay. When he does say I love you you will know that he really means it and that will mean much more in the long run to both of you.
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Hi alkat10, your bf has been very honest with you and that's a good thing. I also understand how you must feel revealing your feelings and finding out that he's not there yet. Give yourself a few days...right now it can be very emotional - rerunning the conversation through your head. Look at the positives - if you are both enjoying a stable and honest relationship, then assess if it's what you want to invest further in. Patience is very much a part of building a strong long-term relationship - couples aren't always on the same page; is it something you both wish to weather and grow. Sounds like he wants to. Good luck.
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you should be happy, some people throw the word around without meaning it, at least this way when he does say it you know its true. there is no reason for you not to say it to him, but there should be no expectation for him to reciprocate unless thats the way he feels, and since he didnt run for the hills when you said it that means he thinks that he will love you so just hang in there
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