That's hard. It all depends on the level of abuse, combined with that person's personality. If they are close minded it might be near impossible, but if they are open minded, maybe they can be talked to, or go to therapy?

Where do you live? What do you mean specifically by "emotionally abusive"? What does he do? Have you considered getting help from an attorney?

...and he knows you feel stuck and that's why he thinks he can get away with treating you however he wants. Show him any way you can, even if you are bluffing, that you can and will get out if you are not treated with respect.

Is he an alcoholic,by any chance?Or smokes pot?If so unless he adresses these issues himself nothing will change.If not & it's strictly a controlling emotionally abusive relationship & he wants to go to counseling it could help.In my case it was all three we went to counseling it didn't help as he wouldn't admit to the drug & alcohol abuse nothing improved.In fact it got worse over the yrs.Divorcing now.I also have no help w/childcare.I work so kids go to local civic center(reasonable rates)nice place kids like.Even if you're not married(actually will be easier)save up enough to move,file for child support before you go at your local domestic relations office(in the phonebook)they will send you a date you'll go in bring childcare costs if you need them,he'll have to pay most of,he'll also pay a percentage of whatever he makes.Call IRS(in phonebook) automated # to get a copy of tax returns for last few yrs.Pray for God's help.If your married you can find a lawyer usually they provide free consultation 1st time visit ask before making appt.Good Luck I know how hard it is.I hope it works out w/ your relationship but if not remember You will be OK no matter what happens.

I just got out of an emotionally abusive relationship. I was only with the guy for about 4 months and the other shoe dropped about 2 weeks into it. I cant believe after that short period of time he was able to do so much damage. If you get a chance to get to a library go pick up this book. "the emotionally abusive relationship" by Beverly Engel HOW TO STOP BEING ABUSED AND HOW TO STOP ABUSING I am only a short way into but realize that is exactly what he was doing to me - even though I did know before I bought the book. Maybe this will better help you understand what you need to do.

Everyone reserves the right to create CHANGE in their lives. One of the biggest problems with abusive people is usually they believe that they have the right to abuse. Most of them honestly believe that even though they might not want outsiders to know about what they do, they are fully justified in doing it. If you believe that it is perfectly acceptable and right to treat someone else like shit, physical, emotional, verbally and or financially abuse them...then where is the motivation to stop doing it? As long as you are available, he has no reason to change. He is getting exactly what he wants. I'm sure you do feel out on a limb in a high wind. This is a key element to being abused. The abuser sets you up and works hard to insure that you feel and often ARE alone. They don't encourage you to have friends you might talk with, or who might help you or support you in leaving! That would not serve the needs of a BULLY at all! As for Support...well married or not, the law says he has to support any children he has fathered. So that is on your side. You don't say if your children are in school yet, but if they are, you might just need to get a job. The bottom line is that THIS IS YOUR LIFE. If you are not happy (and I don't see how you can be) then YOU need to be the one who creates change in your life. Your children are LEARNING that THIS IS THE WAY they should treat others and THIS IS THE WAY THEY DESERVE TO BE TREATED. (any boys you have are learning that Dad's way...is how you treat a woman, and the girls are learning that THEY deserve to be abused.) That's a whole lotta not right, don't you think? You will only be STUCK, for as long as you believe you deserve to be STUCK. YOU CAN GET YOURSELF AND YOUR CHILDREN OUT OF THIS...you are the only one who CAN. The first step is the hardest, but contact a Women's Shelter and get started...THIS IS YOUR LIFE, WE ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO BE MISERABLE!

Saved? No, not unless he admits he has a problem and goes for help. As for you and your children, there are places you can go to be safe if you are in fear of him. Otherwise call an attorney get a restraining order, he will be put out of the house and will have to pay the bills and for the childrens needs. You are suppose to feel stuck, that's part of his control! Are you a mouse? Did he buy you at an auction? Do you think for yourself? Do you want your children to think this type of life is normal? Make a move, don't just sit there feeling sorry for yourself and whine about it! DO SOMETHING! MOVE!!!!! YOU aren't weak! My goodness you have 3 children! You can do anything!