Yes your grief could have bad long term affects if you let it. Considering your loss I highly recommend some counciling. Personally I would prefer a good Pastor.

Grief can overwhelm us very easily. Especially when it is over something as heartbreaking as what you have gone through. If you feel that the grief is too much for you, that it is breaking you mentally or spiritually, seek help. There are grief support groups all over. Or you could consider speaking to a minister or a priest. Don't go through this alone. Don't let yourself get lost in the grief. Thoughts and prayers are with you.

I haven't experienced what your going through yet, so I can't answer your question. But I would like to tell you I'm sorry for your loss. Their are many support groups out there for your grief, maby you could have a friend or family member find you some support.

I'm real sorry to hear, if i was put in that situation i think I'd probably have maybe a year of just, unstable grief and regret, etc. Then I'd realize that, life isnt over, and that she would want me to go on living my life to the fullest, and given my age or depending on who i met and how i felt, maybe start anew.

yes people can,You need to talk to someone and let them try to help you get over this. It will take time but it will get better. you have all the special memories of your loved one in you heart and will always.god bless, I am sorry for your loss.

Yes everyone feels that way. I lost my husband Dec 28th. Stick with The bag, they have helped me retain my sanity or at least some of it. There is a long way to go but everyone is very helpful.

Common Grief Reactions- which stage are you at? Shock—“I don’t feel anything” Denial—“There must be some mistake!” Anger—“How could he leave me like this?” Guilt—“He wouldn’t have died if only I had . . . ” Anxiety—“What will become of me now?” Fear of insanity—“I think I’m losing my mind” This is not to suggest that there necessarily are stages of grief, with one following the other in orderly progression. People are individuals. Thus grief reactions may vary greatly in intensity and duration.

To start with my condolences on your loss. I'm in the same boat you are. I lost my fiancee on January 12, 2007, and he was the love of my life. And there are times I feel like I'm about to lose it. The only thing that keeps me together is that I now have to raise our two sons alone. And I have the most amazing suppport from my friends and his family. If it gets really bad and you can't function you need to seek help. But I will tell you that what you're going through is completely normal. Hell, they even say that eventually it get's better.

Lost my wife about two years past. I feel your pain and am hurting with you. Hang in there, stay close to loving friends and family. I found it helpful to help others any way I could. Time and prayer are the best healers. I recently remarried and although I never will forget my loss, God provided me with a new spouse and best friend. I promise to pray for you often.

Yes, you can go crazy from grief,but, thankfully, it is usually a temporary insanity... this is a good site to go to and have a read. http://www.counselingforloss.com/article8.htm It deals with the stages of grief and coming through to acceptance. Don't let anyone tell you to buck up, stiff upper lip etc. You need to grieve. It is imperative. But you also need to set yourself an official date for cessation of mourning, and work towards that. That does not mean you will be hunkydorey after that. I lost my mum 7 years ago, and the loss can still hit me from time to time, but I can assure you that it does get easier...it just takes time and a lot of tears....you are not alone. keep talking...see a professional/pastor/rabbi/priest to help you through. I did and it was a good decision. cheers and blessings

No one wants to be where you are... the pain must be intense, like you've fallen into a well and don't even know which way is up. Losing someone you love is the hardest thing life has to offer I think. People will do their best to offer compassion and solace; but of course there's a limit to what any of us can do... you're the one who has to go through the pain and find the road to healing. I will add my condolences to the stack, and offer best wishes for you and all who knew him. But there is something I have to say about your question which may or may not be understandable in your current state... so I'll leave it on the table for you to consider: When bad things happen, it's only natural that we want to escape from them -- insulate ourselves, try to hold everything together, try to make things better. That's just human nature... nobody wants to be in pain or live with tragic loss. There is a natural process to healing. We all have the ability to close enormous wounds and return to life wiser and whole again -- there's an amazing resilience to being human, and as horrible as the break in your world may be, you also have this capacity to heal. However, often we don't understand how the healing process works, and we fight against the natural flow of it. Part of this natural flow is the sense of being "broken" by the tragedy: that out-of-control "can't handle it" fear and pain, the sense that we're being ripped apart and won't be able to remain ourselves in the face of the pain. When a person gets to that point, it's actually a mistake to fight back and try to hold it together. It's a mistake to resist the "coming apart" of the self. It's as if our "self" has to break apart so that a new one can come into being... a new one which is deeper and can hold the tragedy. It's like discarding an old container which was too small so that a new one can grow. Your old self isn't big enough to hold the horror and shock and loss -- and the sense that it's coming apart is very frightening. But allowing it to come apart -- to cry, to scream, to let yourself do things you haven't done before, to give up trying to keep it all together... at that point, these are actually the correct path. When we finally confront the breakdown of who we think we are in the face of pain, it's like riding the rapids in a small boat and not knowing whether the next waterfall is survivable. But in that "letting go" and just riding -- experiencing your feelings, noticing your breath going in and out, listening to the thoughts go by -- another way opens up: a larger possibility -- the ability to just BE with the pain and loss as it is, without hanging on to anything or clinging to your hopes or ideas of how things should be. Allowing ourselves to fall apart is what makes room for the next larger self... that "larger container" cannot emerge while we're holding on to the smaller one. And only that larger container is big enough to heal a rift as horrible as losing the love of your life.

Thank you stableboy? but you're right I totally don't understand. I do feel like I am going crazy, I am trying very hard to face and deal with it day by day, It seems like most people think its time to move on when I still miss him so bad, I feel like people are tired of me talking about him and crying, when NO-ONE REALIZES how much my life has changed. so I try to stay busy and try to be strong. then i feel so guilty. I have even had to walk out of business' because of music. I am trying to be strong. I apolojize because I really have no idea what you are saying.

Hullo.. I love my baby.. just came across your question ..Iknow it was awhile ago this happened to you , but may I ask how you are going now , are things a little easy now , I know how you felt back there , I lost my first husband so I know the grief of losing some-one , and just wanted to see how you were now.

I lost mine on Nov. 20th. Feeling crazy is normal. It's part of the grieving process. You aren't alone! Looking for a support group online or IRL is a really good thing to do.