Stand back, I don't want to get any on me.

If someone you know is showing signs of bulimia, you may be able to help. 1. Set a time to talk. Find a time to talk alone with your friend. Make sure you talk in a quiet place where you won't be bothered. 2. Tell your friend about your concerns. Be honest. Tell your friend that you are worried about her or his not eating or exercising too much. Tell your friend that you think these things may be a sign of a problem that needs professional help. 3. Ask your friend to talk to a professional. Your friend can talk to a counselor or doctor who knows about eating issues. Offer to help your friend find a counselor or doctor and to make an appointment. Offer to go with her or him to the appointment. 4. Avoid conflicts. If your friend won't admit that she or he has a problem, don't push. Be sure to tell your friend you are always there to listen if he or she wants to talk. 5. Don't place shame, blame, or guilt on your friend. Don't say, "You just need to eat." Instead, say things like, "I'm concerned about you because you won't eat breakfast or lunch." Or, "It scares me to hear you throwing up." 6. Don't give simple solutions. Don't say, "If you'd just stop, then things would be fine!" 7. Let your friend know that you will always be there no matter what.