Why does my husband ask me for help when he doesn't need it? He asks for help with easy things that men don't ask for help with. He even asks me to help him move a very small computer desk, and with four bags of grocerys.
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maybe he's afraid that if he didn't ask you, you'd be all like "why doesn't my husband think im capable of doing small things? like carrying groceries and moving a desk!"
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He probably just loves having you around & so tries to involve you with whatever it is he's doing...... either that or he has no muscles & needs help to lift the slightest object.
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Lazy He wants to make sure he does no more than you do. Break him of that.
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I agree with the jokers answer. I also think this hints at an issue not too unlike passive aggressive. You know if he's able to move/carry these things by himself. The fact that he's asking you to help and having you agree sounds a bit like a control issue for him. I would venture there's other things he says/does that involve your time/energy that you think he could do himself?
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--I keep trying to post a reply comment and it freezes my computer-- Hard to say really. He seems like the kind of person who has to control those around him. The next time he asks for you to help him move something a grown male should be able to do by himself, tell him no. And if he persists, ask why he can't move it himself. I'm going to take a stab in the dark and say that if he doesn't get his way, he throws a fit or tries to get angry to get you to comply. Am I close to being right? If so, you absolutely cannot bend or he'll know this reaction will get him the results he wants, ie for you to do something he wants you to do. The key is for him to understand/learn that your not willing to do every inane thing he wants you to do in no way affects your relationship with him. Please let me know if I'm on the mark or not, I'm very curious about him now.
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... on the other hand he could be thoughtfully trying to include you in all aspects of his life.
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Maybe he just wants some attention from you... Do ya'll have a good strong relationship with good communication?
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He just wants you to be involved. many men get like this to show his wife that he loves her and wants to share everything with you including the work load!
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Maybe he thinks your role is similar to his mother's. You need to talk about what a wife is and what a husband is.
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Maybe he just wants you to feel needed?
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maybe he just wants your attention?
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