Ask a Question
or
Create a Poll
  1. Home /
  2. Questions /
  3. Relationship Advice
  4. / Marriage
  5. / Newlyweds

by Anonymous on February 19th, 2009

Anonymous

Question

Help answer this question below.

Why does my husband ask me for help when he doesn't need it? He asks for help with easy things that men don't ask for help with. He even asks me to help him move a very small computer desk, and with four bags of grocerys.

  • Like
  • Report
Share:
Other

Answers. 11 helpful answers below.

  • by TheJoker on February 19th, 2009

    TheJoker

    He probably just loves having you around & so tries to involve you with whatever it is he's doing...... either that or he has no muscles & needs help to lift the slightest object.

    • Like
    • Report

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by SqurlprtsUSMC on February 19th, 2009

    SqurlprtsUSMC

    --I keep trying to post a reply comment and it freezes my computer--

    Hard to say really. He seems like the kind of person who has to control those around him. The next time he asks for you to help him move something a grown male should be able to do by himself, tell him no. And if he persists, ask why he can't move it himself. I'm going to take a stab in the dark and say that if he doesn't get his way, he throws a fit or tries to get angry to get you to comply. Am I close to being right? If so, you absolutely cannot bend or he'll know this reaction will get him the results he wants, ie for you to do something he wants you to do. The key is for him to understand/learn that your not willing to do every inane thing he wants you to do in no way affects your relationship with him.
    Please let me know if I'm on the mark or not, I'm very curious about him now.

    • Like
    • Report

    2 comments | Post one | Permalink

  • by SqurlprtsUSMC on February 19th, 2009

    SqurlprtsUSMC

    I agree with the jokers answer. I also think this hints at an issue not too unlike passive aggressive. You know if he's able to move/carry these things by himself. The fact that he's asking you to help and having you agree sounds a bit like a control issue for him.
    I would venture there's other things he says/does that involve your time/energy that you think he could do himself?

    • Like
    • Report

    1 comment | Post one | Permalink

  • by LivNEON on February 19th, 2009

    LivNEON

    maybe he just wants your attention?

    • Like
    • Report

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by anonymous on February 19th, 2009

    anonymous

    Maybe he just wants some attention from you... Do ya'll have a good strong relationship with good communication?

    • Like
    • Report

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by anddeb on February 19th, 2009

    anddeb

    Lazy He wants to make sure he does no more than you do. Break him of that.

    • Like
    • Report

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by Prunesquallor on February 19th, 2009

    Prunesquallor

    ... on the other hand he could be thoughtfully trying to include you in all aspects of his life.

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by skyler7 on February 19th, 2009

    skyler7

    He just wants you to be involved. many men get like this to show his wife that he loves her and wants to share everything with you including the work load!

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by shrinkess on February 19th, 2009

    shrinkess

    Maybe he thinks your role is similar to his mother's. You need to talk about what a wife is and what a husband is.

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by Autism Knows is finally Maestro on February 19th, 2009

    Autism Knows is finally Maestro

    Maybe he just wants you to feel needed?

    2 comments | Post one | Permalink

  • by celer09 on February 19th, 2009

    celer09

    maybe he's afraid that if he didn't ask you, you'd be all like "why doesn't my husband think im capable of doing small things? like carrying groceries and moving a desk!"

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

Want to attach an image to your answer? Click here.

Did this answer your question? If not, then ask a new question or create a poll.

More Questions. Additional questions in this category.

You're reading Why does my husband ask me for help when he doesn't need it? He asks for help with easy things that men don't ask for help with. He even asks me to help him move a very small computer desk, and with four bags of grocerys.

Follow us on Facebook!

Related Ads

Related Questions

Professionally Researched

ANSWERBAG BUZZ

Husband asking for my help lifting
Why does my husband get angry when i ask him if he still lives me
What to ask my husband to help with me with
Why does my husband bother me
My husband asks me how do to everything

Answerbag

a Demand Media company