What do you do if one of your family is really annoying you and getting on at you for nothing? its really getting me down. any advice anyone?
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I have an older sister who is similar to this. I just try my best not to take any of it to heart. Blood is thicker then water and in most cases the family member figures that they are helping in some way. As strange as that may seem. Family is also the easiest to take your anger and frustrations out on because you know you will always be forgiven and loved, no matter what. Maby this family member has problems of his/her own. Try your best not to let it get you down, there is positive in everything if you look hard enough! Good luck!
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Families enjoy tormenting each other to a certain degree - I think it's to do with the fact that when there are no social walls and barriers, we take our stresses out on easy targets. The old cliche "we hurt the ones we love" is pretty accurate as those are the people we know will still care for us afterwards (within reason!) So just remind yourself that they still love you and don't worry so much. Focus on the good things in life and when something is said that annoys or upsets you, mentally visualise the words washing away like beads of water off of a leaf in the middle of summer - the sun is still shining and the storm will pass. Suitably gooey wouldn't you think? PS If it's a specific subject that they are getting on at you about then perhaps you should consider why they are saying what they're saying. Sometimes we ignore what family says BECAUSE they are family. Most of the time they simply have your best interests at heart, even if you don't always agree on what those interests are.
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Avoid them. If you live in the same house as them, approach another member of your family for advice or advocacy.
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I just leave the house for a week or so, stay with friends. When I come home, I have a grace period of about another week before they start to piss me off again. So I just go stay with another friend. It works for me.
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Let the person whom you are closet to know about it, when you are having a good moment with them. I do this with my mother. Sometimes, my family just overwhelms me with nagging, blaming, and complaints. It's like I can't do anything right, and whatever goes wrong, it's somehow my fault. Usually, if I express that to my mom, telling her that I honestly I am trying hard to be pulling my weight, and not be a burden, then she understands. Really go into detail about your feelings, and make sure you have some kind evidence (I'm sure there is a better word for that) to back it up. Like a particular situation in which you really think you were treated unfairly, or something like that. Usually after a past event, people are more able to rationally see the way you're thinking, and next time they will take that into consideration. After a talk, when things start getting crazy in your house or with your family, everyone won't be on you.
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