I have a friend that craves attention, he is 21, he is always doing crazy things to get attention but people have become desensitized to him, so now he drinks to extreme excess causing him to be very drunk in social situations, any advice?
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You need to look at the root cause of the problem. Why is he craving attention? If you know why it's easier to figure out what you can do to replace it. For example, if he's seeking attention because he doesn't get any from his parents then you need to understand why he feels that he needs the approval of others instead of feeling satisfied with himself. Something as simple as complimenting his for when he does things that aren't dangerous or complimenting him when he does small things instead and ignoring everything else. In fact, getting everyone to ignore him entirely when he's drunk would work.. if he isn't getting the attention he wants he will move on to something else that will get him attention.
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He is hurting inside . I have had training in this area. The root of the problem needs to be looked at. Everyone ignoring him is not going to help. Its not like he is a bad boy and your punishing him. He is really been either abandoned in life at one time or very rejected either in his early years etc. He wants to be loved and is really crying out. I know it can be annoying for you but he really needs counceling. There is a place for free counceling on line it is under Theophostic prayer . It may give places. If you can help him understand this comes from a deep hurt and being invalidated early in his childhood. I know many who have this problem and are working on it. There is hope.
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I have videotaped someone while he was drunk and played it for him at breakfast when he was sober. It was strange to do, but this guy thought he was really cool when he was drunk and immediately got embarrassed when he saw his bafoon-like behavior - it's a bit different when you're sober and are able to see the reactions of strangers in the video.
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