my thing is I love older women for their matureness , their sex experience, going out and all that stuff .. nothing beats a fine grown women with a head on her shoulders. I talk to a few women in fact older than me and we have great times. however there is this 1 young girl whom is 15 and is friends with my younger sister ( crazy right ) and Like I never ever had looked at her in any other way than friend of family. OK now after her being around so long i came to realize that I like her ... alot. I love the way she perceives things (similiar to me), I love the way she thinks, i love who she is and is shaping to be. it started out as never talking cuz you know its my sister's friend , then my sister being around me it was just common that we speak to each other or be in the same conversation-- nothing out of the ordinary. but during conversation its what she talks about , where her mind is at , the things she is aware of and picks up out of a conversation.. i dont know how to explain it really. ok so after being in the same conversation alot of times .. she starts coming down stairs where i am at and talking to me and since i enjoy her convo (conversation) , i entertain her with convo. now she was not sexually appealing or even physically attractive to me because when i looked at her all i could see is a little kid until we started having serious conversations alone not neccasarily in private but just with the absence of my sister. and now its like WOW your beautiful. We can talk about anything and everything and because we perceive things similiar its very exciting. Like how she comprehends my way of talking and can cut me off in the middle and finish it. how the things that make me emotional make her emotional and pretty much everythig is visca versa with us. its crazy because none of the other women i have ever been with has had this effect on me , never could talk like this , never clicked on a level beyond physical, and just enjoying each other's company but the more i think about it , the women that i am with I enjoy the thought of having a fine women at my side while going out or doing stuff .. yea we talk but the conversation is easily passed off as .. thank god we are done talking lets have sex or something or go do something else .. and yes they do cook for me , clean for me , buy me stuff and other things an adult who really likes you would do and i do the same just because. i travel and enjoy life with older women I feel so lost because of the age thing and i KNOW its not right or legal but I swear if she had a few more years under her belt i would be trying to marry this girl. she feels the same way about me but i kinda pass it off as ... you havent experienced enough to know what you want so im not going to draw her in like that... i didnt tell her like that .. but I have made it VERY clear to her that her age alone is grounds for my firm NO answer when she wants to do various thing , nothing out the ordinary tho besides age. she is mature , good grades in school , knows what she will be going to colledge for and has a specific career in mind. she has a young lil boyfriend who she says feels like she is with a little boy .. i tell her all kinds of stuff that is the morally right thing to say when she asks for advice. last night I slipped up and told her I love her , and there is 1 other person i ever told that ( after middle school lol) but she is no longer with us on earth and I have a daughter I am rasing alone since she passed. this is soooo crazy to me .. its like ME , ME FEELING like this , about HER ! lol .. all of the variables and scenarios i can think of has crossed my mind about why i feel this way , and i do believe that i love her wich is why im posting this. i told her to just finish school and in a couple years as friends we can see where we are and if the feelings are still the same then we can do something and that for now the variables are not in our favor to be dating or thinking about doing anything more than we are doing now. that is pretty much the nutshell of it but i can go on and on about it . I have known her for like 3 years as my sisters friend . but last year around the end of summer is when we really started talking and liking each other and Ive been kinda all in ever since for as far as my morals would let me go. what do you think i should do? just wait seems like the best answer .. she never ceases to amaze me and compared to my women she is everything except age and self supporting (finanacially) she thoroughly understands the situation , she understands the age gap and all the variables in between including peoples perception of the situation and she knows its not right either.. trust me you couldnt fool her.

For the next three years, you need to find something to occupy your mind, until she reaches eighteen. If its meant to be, she will still be around and so will you.

sorry for the grammatics up there but please read it all and give me some feed back

I am assuming you are in some kind of relationship right? Well you are an adult, they are a child. That is pedophilia and is wrong and illegal in many countries. I cannot say how you should feel because I do not know why you are in this highly inappropriate relationship. You should end it and cut off all ties.

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OK its me the poster , for some reason i can not get a confirm email so i can use the comments button ... but let me clarify .. That we are NOT in a relationship , i have an older women that i am in a relationship/ friends benefit type thing with.. This young girl and I have never had sex or anything like that Im just lost in my feelings but first and foremost I am Man and will not go that route , this vibe is really strong though and I dont know if im trippin or not

I was in this same scenario as the 15 year old a few years back...it all depends on how her parents feel and what your intentions are. If you're willing to spend time with her at her parent's house for a long while and aren't concerned about sex and her parents know that than best of luck to you. If you're wanting a relationship that would consist of things that would be acceptable only with a person your own age, then I think you know the answer to this one...consider why you're into her and why you are really trying to make it work, if it has to do with the person shes growing up to be it might be worth persuing in the right manner but if it is mostly to do with how YOU feel on the conquest for something illegal then you really need to work on yourself before working on a relationship with anybody. Good Luck.

First of all, I know you *think* she understands the age gap and all the variables, etc., but she doesn't--she is only 15 bro. She's a teenager. She just started puberty a few years ago. You're 24 and have a child at home you are raising alone? And you're infatuated with a 15 year old? I know it's hard when you have those feelings of love, but I think it is only fair of you to keep them in check and let her enjoy her adolescence. Let her date guys her same age. You need to focus on raising your kid. Two very different worlds between the two of you. Plus, if you don't shut it down now, and you slip up and have sex with her when she is only 15 or 16, you might be looking at jail time. Just my honest opinion. Only trying to help.

I read your story. guess what? you are in love! Once in a lifetime, a person comes along that is everything in your life. its like looking at yourself, but from the males point of view. You have attempted to explain how you feel and i understand this, since it also happened to my wife and i of 43 years. Having things in common and respect are the main ingredients for a relationship and marriage. i was fortunate....i found a lady with all the above. Keep your relationship with this girl. but, keep it on a friendship basis, not sexual. If she is all you have stated, it will be worth the wait for her. This is how great marriages begin and last. You have found your soulmate. JUST WAIT..................

You go and find someone your own age. No if's, and's or but's about it! It is illegal and you should not be doing it. +5 for the question.

24-15=9. Okay... that's weird... 9 years? Dude,that's A LOT. Maybe 3 years would be the limit IMO.

hmmm i read it all im in no position to tell you what to do but in my opinion you should see her rarely. If you see her every day or in a regular basis it will eventually lead to sex and she is only 15, im 24 too and when i see a 15 years old i only can think of her like "she is a cute kid"...etc cant think of her as a lover material. You should cool your head and try to join a group or something meet new people, pass your time work when she passes 18 ( even though it is still young for her you will be 27 ) go and talk about serious stuff.But remember she attend to a college and she will experience new things then she might realize it was a mistake or maybe not...

move close to your favorite prison, so the family can visit easily

Reach up and grab your left ear with your right hand, and your right ear with your left hand, then pull hard. That sucking sound you hear is your head coming out of your azz.

Poster again... OK the relationship that i am in with the " few " women I talk too are more like friends with benefits ..we got that level of understanding type of thing. This young girl , again i am not in a relationship with... Im mature enough to not do certain things , im also mature enough to be aware of how mature SHE is.. I am not looking to be in a relationship with her right now I can wait until she is older and is sure. What i do find odd is that she is 15 and that I am 24 and have bonded with her on a level beyond my own comprehension. When i look at her i still see a kid and it makes me hang my head and take a deep breath and " think " how ,why, and wtf all at the same time.... what i feel inside for her is not lust or infatuation , like i said i do believe that i love her. Right now its not sooo serious where i have to go to her parents or jeopordize her friendship with my sister. I will wait until time passes and see what direction our friendship takes and even right now im not actively pursuing the part of growing deepr with her , its so passive and we are both on the same page with what it is. ......... some of your comments are good i really appreciate them ... and whenever i get my confirm email i will give you + points ... the rest of you need to read exactly what I say :) Thanx everyone