It was my first year in varsity, and i had just found myself a fine pretty lady who was true and honest to me as far as i was concerned. I started cheating on her with her best friend and we broke up, and while i was dating her friend i realised that the only person that i truelly love was her(my ex-girlfriend). I broke up with her friend and went back to her and she told me that she forgave me and we started afresh. 2 years later, i caught her on the bed with another guy, and i asked her why she did what she did and she told me that she just wanted to show me how it feels. I told her to go away and never come back in my life even though i knew how much it hurts. Cheating cost me my loved one and the most important thing is to be true to yourself before being true to someone. i remember afterwards she told me that i was going to take her back like she took me back and i told her that i cant because of that picture of her in bed with another guy in my mind. Cheating is not a solution to your relationship problems, if you have problems with your partner, try to solve them as soon as they arise. Bear in mind that no relationship is perfect.

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Back in college, I found myself in a relationship i did not want to be in. We were not compatible and i was upfront about the fact that I had no sense of loyalty at the time. She felt she could somehow change me "with her love". Anyway, I knew very quickly it was not going to work and tried to break it off several times but she always took my attempts as "trying to work things out". i admit, then i was a wimp about breaking up. Anyway, she made the dreadful mistake of telling her friends I was good in bed. NEVER DO THAT! Anyway, I bumped into her best friend at a bar one night. We were both heading back to the same dorm, so we got some chicken. She invited me to eat in her room so as to not wake my gf while eating. She also started pouring shot after shot of vodka. before you knew it, things got a little flirty but we both made it clear nothing would happen. i fell asleep and woke up to her riding me. At that time in my life, I was turning down nothing but the collar so I figured what the hell and indulged. After that, every time she saw me, I found myself being pulled into her room. I felt terrible, but did it anyway. her friend seemed to feel NO guilt. Anyway, I eventually manned up and dumped my gf. Some guy (who apparently heard it from the friend's neighbor), decided to tell on me ( as if I gave a damn). I was confronted and did not deny it. I took the obligatory slap but later got an apology since she also recalled i told her specifically when we got together that I was having sex daily with or without her. i was such an ass then. She did appreciate the honesty.

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My wife and I were both in the military. She was active reserve and was activated and sent away. We were only married for a couple months. While she was gone, I took care of her child from a previous relationship and let her struggling mother live with me. I took care of both of them. She had an affair with a guy that lasted almost a year and I had no clue. She came home after being home for 18 months. One year after that we had our first child together. The day after our child was born, I received an annomyous e-mail telling explaining to me what happened while she was away. I confronted her and she confessed. The e-mail came from a friend whom she fell on bad terms with while they were deployed. I was so devistated. I was driven to serious depression and tried seeking help from my sister who at the time was a licensed counseler and phychologist. But she her self cheated on her fiance often, and even explaned it to where it sounded like my fault. I had a sensitive military position which could've been comprimised if I showed signs of any instability in my life, so I kept quiet. Work was always my way to get away from troubles. I stayed with her ONLY for the kids (I loved her previous child like she was my own and I am the only father she ever known). My depression got worse and I even attempted suicide twice. My wife has since apoligized numerous times and swore never to do it again. She has gone to great lenths to reassure me. I appriciate her efforts and still care about her. I really dont love her like I use to but I'm very accustomed to her. I once told her that she "owed" me one for it. However, I never had the guts to do go out and sleep with someone else. I honestly no longer feel i'm attractive enough or good enough in bed to attempt to sleep with another woman. It's been about 3 1/2 years since I got that e-mail and she's been good that I know of. But it was without a doubt the worst experience of my life and I wish it on NOBODY. My wife has since got out the military and stays at home all the time. I did decide that if she cheated again, there's no way in hell I'll stay and the kids will understand. That's my story sorry it's a little long...