Leave he/she can't be trusted

The relationship was ended when they cheated, I would just be the last to know. Its over.

Leave and I wouldn't let the hit me on my ass on the way out

they cant be trusted thats why i left my last relationship

It would be adios amgio. Some people would be able to sort it out but not me. I would definately leave.

if you think of relationship as a building trust is the foundation of it. So if there is no trust then there is no building...you get the idea i guess.

I would kick him out on his arse no second chances with me im afraid

Repair what? The deed and the ensuing damage are already done

If my spouse did, I'll talk to her heart-to-heart. I will listen to her side, and open up to her how hurt I felt about all this. Then, a time for space for us both. This will give her time to reflect on her past actions. The time depends on us both for how long it will be. But during the course of this reflection period, we will see each other occasionally to discuss what had gone through. It would be best too that both of us would go for counselling at the same time. After this, I will ask her heart-to-heart again if she stays on with our relationship. If she says she will, this will be the last I will hear from her. The next time she does it, our relationship is done. However, if she's not up to that reflection period and cheats again, then I will call her to have a talk, to tell her that I have made up my mind to quit this relationship.

Very much depends on the circumstances around the cheating. If it was a one night stand after too much alcohol then I could possibly overcome this - an affair though I could not and it would be finished.

That's betrayal..that is a dealbreaker. He does that, he has destroyed the relationship so there is nothing to repair as far as I'm concerned. :)

I cant do it. I have determined that it would drain too much energy for me not check every detail so it doesnt happen again. If it happened it will happen again, and I know I can do better even if its only for a moment, that moment is better than a day or worry, and concern about somebody who obviously didnt love me enough not to be selfish.

I would not marry a person if I could not see myself forgiving him if he cheated on me IN THE FIRST PLACE. To me, "Till death do us part" means "Till death do us part". That is a promise that I hope to take very seriously. That means 'in sickness or in health, I will be there for you'. I may just sit down and ask myself if I'm the problem. Let's be honest here. Many people do cheat because there is something MISSING in their relationship/marriage. It's easy to paint the spouse who cheats as a bad person, but people seriously need to ask themselves if they, in fact, drove their spouse to cheat. If you are busy at your work all the time and you don't give your spouse any affection and you are very cold in bed, it's kind of your own fault. That's the reality of it all. I know I might get hated for this answer and all as it is not very politically correct, but I don't care. People need to stop looking at the person who cheated as the bad person and start looking at the picture realistically. You need to face yourself if you haven't given your spouse what he/she needs. He/she is a PERSON, too, and he/she has NEEDS, too, JUST LIKE YOU. No matter how perfect you thought everything was, it obviously wasn't, otherwise the person wouldn't have cheated in the first place. Maybe he/she didn't know how to tell you because when he/she tried to bring it up, you pushed him/her away. Maybe you refused sex ONE TOO MANY TIMES. Maybe you didn't give him/her the affection that he/she needs. Maybe you weren't there when he/she needed you. Maybe he/she gave you all of the love and affection he/she could, and you pushed him/her away anyway. There could be so many reasons. This is the reality. Reality is what a person must face. Quit hiding behind the lines "once a cheater, always a cheater". You know what? I don't even believe that's true. I think that the cheaters who compulsively cheat are probably the ones who get nagged about it 24/7 and yelled at over it and beaten until they bleed to the point where the person who cheated just wants to do it again and again and again....TO GET AWAY FROM THE NAGGING person. Blahblahblah, yes, I've been cheated on, so I'm pretty sure I know a thing or two about what I'm talking about. Down rate me all you want. I could care less about points.